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A Real Gypsy Wedding.

August 22nd, 2011

Anyone watch “My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding”?

Anyone wonder if the show is actually representative of the traditional Gypsy culture and W-day styling?

I have. And so did Rock My Wedding sponsors Christian and Erica from Christian Ward Photography. So much so in fact that they researched the subject to create a beautiful inspiration shoot based around original Romany traditions and recommendations from real-life travellers themselves.

This is truly a fascinating read as well as a deliciously whimsical dose of pretty, not to mention offering a plethora of ideas for your own Big Day. These are without doubt some of the most delectable vintage-inspired accessories and gowns I have ever seen. And it makes a nice change to feature some gorgeous ideas for your Groom too.

You may have seen a selection of these images in a recent edition of YAYW magazine, congratulations to the team behind the shoot for going all out glossy – you deserve it.

Enjoy lovelies.

Christian and Erica: We’d been looking to carry out a creative shoot for some time, though we were wanting to create something based on an original theme where there would be a story. We admit to having watched a few episodes of My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding, and for me that was the spark that set light to the idea of a creative shoot inspired by a gypsy theme.

I had always thought that the picture painted by the TV show was most likely far-fetched and not representative of the gypsy culture, and so I began to research gypsy weddings not of the Big Fat type but of times gone by. The idea for the shoot for me always centred on being able to find an original Romany gypsy wagon, and this proved difficult as did finding much information about old-fashioned gypsy weddings.

Eventually we managed to locate 2 or 3 wagons across the UK, but in each case there was something that wasn’t ideal about each of them and didn’t quite match up to the picture I had in my mind. By chance I stumbled across a website for a gypsy wagon restorer, and I sent them a quick email to see if they could help us, not really expecting to hear back. A week passed and I had given up on that avenue when an email came through late one Saturday night just saying that they could help and to give them a call. I called them back straight away, and the following morning we were setting off at 8am for the 2 hour drive to Blackpool to see Walter – the real, bone fide gypsy- and the 2 wagons he had in mind.

It transpired that Walter and his family are the most revered restorers of Romany wagons internationally, and as we sat over a cup of tea in their kitchen we looked through photos of him with Ronnie Wood (who is actually descended from Romany blood) who had just bought a restored wagon from him.

We also took the opportunity to talk to Walter and his wife Mary about traditional gypsy weddings, and within minutes they’d found a fascinating old leather-bound album full of black and white family photos from gypsy weddings, and so we began to form a picture of what a REAL gypsy wedding would’ve looked like. Walter took us though to his barn, and it was an exciting moment to come face to face with what would become the centrepiece of our shoot- a gorgeous, original ‘Doors & Windows’ Romany caravan, hand-carved and covered in gold leaf.

We finished the day by strolling across the land that Walter and his family owned, as he had agreed that when the time was right for us we could carry the shoot out anywhere on his land and they would set us up with everything we needed. A special mention must go to Walter and Mary for being so welcoming and helpful, despite their initial reservations given the perception of gypsy weddings created by the TV show.

With the main ‘prop’ arranged, we then set about properly forming the theme. Gypsy, Romantic, Country, Folk, and Whimsical were at the top of our list of what wanted to achieve with our styling. The next few weeks were spent researching and liaising with suppliers across the UK who we felt fitted with our theme and who we would be interested in working with on the shoot.

I have to say that without fail all the suppliers we worked with were absolutely brilliant and we feel really lucky that we managed to assemble such a great list of suppliers who fitted so well with what we wanted to achieve, and who trusted us to look after their valuable stock (and in some cases one-off, irreplaceable pieces) and to create something worthwhile. We would happily recommend any of them to brides and grooms planning their wedding.

While bringing together the many different articles of original vintage clothing and props, we also had to set about finding 2 models. For us, despite many creative shoots being only ‘bridal’, we knew we always wanted to go the ‘whole hog’ and have both a model bride and groom to complete our picture. For the bride to be in-keeping with the Romany look we needed somebody with dark hair and a light complexion, whilst for the groom, our main criterion was for hair not cropped too short. This actually proved quite difficult as the majority of male models we came across had short hair cropped in a very modern style that would’ve been difficult to create something convincing with on the day.

We eventually found two amazing models who were perfect for our theme. The only problem we came across was trying to find vintage clothing to fit a male model standing 6ft 3″ tall…most vintage clothing is of fairly small proportions, but Denise at Vintage Whistles was great at finding what we needed!

Flo and Percy designed and created original pieces to match the vintage dresses that Helena from Heavenly Vintage Brides had kindly agreed to supply us with, and once our shoot team was complete with make-up and hair stylists, we set about a styling session to bring together every item and decide on the final ‘looks’ that we’d be using on the day.

The day of the shoot finally came and we could not have asked for better weather. It was a pretty cold day in March but with gorgeous early Spring light and we all worked together brilliantly as a team…definitely a day to remember!

And if you lovelies have been admiring the Flo and Percy headpieces here are the finer details should you fancy making a purchase for W-day:

Authentic gypsy wagon – adzlee@btinternet.com

Vintage Wedding Dresses – Heavenly Vintage Brides

Vintage Headpieces – Flo and Percy

Crockery – Felicity’s Vintage Tea Party

Blooms – The Blossom Tree

Make-up Artist – Gemma Lees

Hair Stylist - Emma Buck

Boutonnieres – D C Bouquets

Cakes – Rachel Edwards

Vintage Suitcases – Fountain Pen Emporium

Bridal Knitwear – Makepiece at Evangeline Rose

Groom’s Vintage Suits - Vintage Whistles

Stationery – Tim Ward Design

Wedding Favours – Vintage Twee

Models – Cirila Zorenc and Charles Durnian at Model Mayhem

Photography and Styling – Christian and Erica at Christian Ward Photography

That lace and pearl headband rocks my world…. and the knitwear? so delicate and feminine.

This is a truly beautifully styled shoot and I would love to see a W-day with similar design aspects and muted colour scheme grace these pages one day.

So if you’re planning on a gypsy-esque affair make sure you send it in ok?

Big Romany Love

Charlotte xxx

P.S I know I’m married and all but I’m allowed to say how much the groom has (ahem) brightened up my Monday afternoon right?

;-)

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Message In A Bottle.

July 27th, 2011

Sometimes there is a RMW inbox drop that just exudes sunshine, love and laughter…..and this folks is one of those drops.

Lucy and Michael are ridiculously cute, she all big eyes and shiny beehive, he curly mop, rolled up denim and braces ( at this point I am *waving* to you all in a semi frantic manner as I am so having a moment over braces right now!)

Ahem.

And their engagement story? Well. Let me tell you lovelies, Michael put a message in a bottle on the beach and then got down on one knee. And the message? MARRY ME.

I know. One of the most romantic proposals I’ve ever heard of.

For their pre-wed shoot Michael and Lucy went back to the locations where it all happened with photographer Shell De Mar including the eclectic and delicious Belvidere place… which makes me want to completely re-decorate my entire home.

Who knew a basket full of satsuma’s could look so cool?

Lucy: Michael proposed on the beach on a weekend away at the seaside in Broadstairs with a message in a bottle which read “Marry me”. He distracted me by pointing out something in the distance while he hid the bottle in the sand, and as I read the message he got down on one knee. We drew quite a crowd!

For our engagement shoot, we decided to go back to the seaside. When we met up with Shell before the shoot to talk over ideas, she suggested that as we were going back to the scene of the crime we could do a storyboard photo shoot recreating the proposal itself and with shots to represent each stage of our relationship up to that point.

We went away and thought about our favourite moments together, and came up with props and settings we could use to reference each of them, such as a Narnia book to represent the night we met when Michael DJ’d at my Narnia themed college ball, and pin wheels and sweets as a sneak peek of our wedding day.

Shell De Mar: Lucy & Michael met at a Narnia-themed prom, Lucy was the belle of the ball and Michael was the DJ. To illustrate this they bought a copy of The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe and we had fun shooting around Belvidere Place where they were staying (also where they stayed last year when Michael proposed, but more about that later…) – the B&B is so quirky and eclectic I absolutely loved it!

Lucy and Michael told me when they first started going out music played a big part and a lot of their early dates were gigs. They also loved playing connect 4 and went to many quirky places. So we went to the beach and enjoyed some sun, bringing along their retro radio, as well as some old-fashioned fun at the local diner/ice cream parlour.

Michael proposed to Lucy pretty much exactly a year before this shoot at this beach with a (wait for it…) “‘marry me” message in a bottle! He even used tea to stain the paper to make it look aged. We tried to loosely re-enact the moment and attracted quite a bit of crowd thinking it was the real thing!

What comes after the proposal? Why the wedding of course! Lucy & Michael would like to give their guests a teeny taster of what their wedding will be like (without giving away too much!).

Photography - Shell de Mar

I really would like to have enough style and creativity to pull together such random pieces of furniture and for it to just work. Think I might have to get me to Belvidere Place for a nosey.

Can’t wait to see Lucy and Michael’s W-day.

;-)

Big Romantic Love

Charlotte xxx

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Rock The Frock.

July 25th, 2011

Are there any of you that have a) recently got married b) recently bought your W-day dress c) at the point of at least choosing your gown?

I’m guessing the vast majority of you must come under at least one of the above. And that would also mean that the vast majority of you are wondering what to do next, right?

Are you thinking of selling it? Having it professionally dry-cleaned and put in a pretty box so you can admire it on your anniversary/pass it on to future generations?

Well then. How about trashing it/rocking it/having some lovely pictures of yourself looking truly fabulous in various guises and locations?

Yup. I’m talking about the ever popular “Rock The Frock” which up until this afternoon, we haven’t really touched on (and certainly not featured) before. And who better to demonstrate a Rock My Wedding first than a true RMW bride? Victoria’s beautiful Old School Glamour inspired Big Day was featured way back when in 2009 and now she’s back, just as witty and equally as gorgeous (if not more so to be honest – check out the movie goddess-esque black and white images….)

All of the “make you look utterly lovely” photography is courtesy of Jasmine Jade Photography.

Victoria: So, 18 months after my wedding day I put The Dress back on again… and I trashed it.

The story began a few months after my wedding in 2009 when I recommended the lovely Jasmine to a friend, and then another and then another, and then a few more. I couldn’t help it, but I think I filled up half her year with meet and greets! So a few months ago she offered to do me a Trash The Dress shoot as a wee thank you. I’d always wanted to do one but thought that my long-suffering boy would just lose his personality over it. Having forced him to do the engagement shoot, the wedding photos (which to be fair we did keep to a minimum, for this reason) and to “stand in front of that whilst I take a picture” all the way through the honeymoon he’d more than had his fill of saying “cheese”. So I shelved the idea, but never getting The Dress cleaned meant that should the situation arise, it wouldn’t be too much of a big deal to ruin it all over again as it got pretty trashed at the wedding, I have to say.

We discussed some ideas, I thought about camping it up Lady Gaga styley. Jasmine thought I’d look a bit of a wally: wedding dress + turquoise wig x gaga-esque make up = Less “Trash the Dress” and more “Tim Burton film extra”. Cool for about twenty minutes and then essentially you’ll want those pictures consigned to a drawer, forever. So we kept it simple, just funked up the hair, accessorised a little and made sure it was mainly about The Dress, rather than my face.

In terms of the location, we thought about the woods, a local manor house, a lorry park, we did some mild breaking-and-entering to scope out a derelict factory in the middle of nowhere. We then got the heebie jeebies when we saw one of the boards on the windows had been pulled off. Wild animals gnaw and tear and bite – they don’t lever nails out of hardboard with tools. Or cut the CCTV wires. Or collect shopping trolleys. So we started imagining The Hills Have Eyes-type scenarios and our families finding our (funnily enough, identical) cars parked by the side of the road weeks later…. Yeah, so, we didn’t bother with that one. We went for some familiar ground and decided on London.

One of my besties Claire did my hair (she’s not just a hair and fashion stylist, she also sang in Latin at my wedding! Such talent!) and then pointed us in the direction of a number of places she regularly uses for fashion shoots, with the instructions to get in quick, take the picture and then run. And so it began.

I’m not going to lie, I felt like a complete turnip and very, VERY self conscious to start with, standing on the tube/waiting at a zebra crossing/popping in to Boots for a bottle of water in my less-than-pristine wedding dress, slightly-ripped cathedral-length veil, a pair of well-worn converse, carrying a bouquet, a bright green golf umbrella and a spare pair of shoes. But after a while I got used to it and kind of forgot I was wearing it. A few tourists stopped me to have their photo with me. Random passers-by called out their congratulations or jumped out in front of me and pretended to propose (that started to wear a bit thin after a few hours), or just tried to take sneaky photos of a crazy bride chick just walking down the street. I had to explain that I wasn’t actually a bride – and that left them even more confused than before. So I decided to just go with it. An American couple stopped me on the escalators at Bank to ask me “honey, are you the Bride?” and I just couldn’t help myself.

Me (acting really surprised and shocked to have been approached by a stranger): “uh. No…?”

*long confused pause*

Me: “no, sorry, I’m only messing with you. Yes, I am, well was the bride”

Them: “oh, so you’re not on the way to your wedding? Are you just coming from your wedding?” (like most brides hustle to their weddings looking like a drag queen, on public transport, in trainers…)

Me: “no no, I got married aaaaaaages ago”

Them: (looking a bit worried that they might have just stopped a London-crazy to ask about a non-existent wedding): “oh, errr, congratulations”

Me: “thanks, today I’m Trashing my Dress!”

Them (thinking that I’m now defo crazy): “oh dear, did it not go well?”

(it was a very long escalator)

Me: “no it was amazing… hence why I’ve never taken my dress off, that’s why it’s a bit dirty and why I’m Trashing it before I have it properly cleaned”

(I start to remember that after a year at a US investment bank – RIP Lehman – the Americans I worked with still didn’t get my sense of humour, so I had to put these ones out of their misery)

Me: “sorry – it went great, this is a novelty thing, this is my husband (cringing with embarrassment), I just wanted some fun mementoes of the greatest dress I’ll ever own so we’re doing a bit of a location photo shoot”

Them: “oh we get it, we think, that’s so cool, can we have a picture with you?”

And that same conversation happened about once every ten minutes for the whole day.

But in the end it was great. I trashed my dress, rocked my frock and truly got down in the gown – waiting for the right coloured light combination in the tunnel under the IMAX (and thus holding up all passing pedestrian traffic), flinging myself all over a small park in Waterloo (much to the amusement of a few locals, who watched me try to climb in to a bin), laying on my back with my legs in the air in a recess at The Royal Exchange (much to the surprise of a passing security guard), being chased away from the Lloyd’s Building (by a slightly less surprised security guard), hanging around outside a cake shop and trying to look normal when bumping in to a colleague from work, posing in pools of light at Leadenhall Market (a group of amateur photographers on a course couldn’t have been happier to see me), rolling around on the floor in the churchyard at St Pauls (and being slightly embarrassed when coming across an actual wedding party. Cue lots of blushing and mumbled apologies as we tried to flee in the least conspicuous manner possible – not easy in the afore mentioned get up) and pleading ignorance on the Tube when being told off by the platform guard for using flash photography. “oh – are we not supposed to?” cue sweet smiles and a quick hop and a skip on to the next train.

Is my dress completely trashed? I think it’s salvageable so when I have a spare hundred quid (not any time soon then) I’ll get it cleaned and boxed so it can stay in the loft until I have daughters/nieces/granddaughters and they can dress up in it, rip bits off it to incorporate in to their own dresses or re-fashion it in to something they want to wear – either on their own big days or just flouncing around in the garden… hey, who am I to judge? I’m so sentimental about things that some part of me can’t bear to sell it, but the other part of me feels ridiculous that I spent so much money on a single item that I’ll wear once. So this somehow helped alleviate the guilt slightly and it upped the “pound per wear” factor. So now it’s actually a bargain when you think about it… well that’s what I told the boy, anyway!

Bouquet – Karen at The Flower Mill

Hair Styling – Claire Wacey

Photography – Jasmine Jade

Maybe it’s just me but I all of a sudden have a desperate urge to go put on some bold lippy, don a fancy frock and walk the streets of London town.

Anyone else considering a Rock The Frock type shoot after W-day?

Do tell.

You can read Victoria’s own personal blog at Sugar Plum Slipper.

Big Glamorous Love

Charlotte xxx

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Doing It The Right Way…. One Year On.

July 18th, 2011

(Takes a deep breath before even beginning this introduction…..)

Sometimes lovelies your wedding day will not go exactly as you anticipated. That’s not to say you will regret at any point saying “I Do”, just that for some there will be certain aspects that you don’t look back on with complete affection.

Rock My Wedding reader Ariel doesn’t look back on her W-day photo’s with complete affection, and I know if you’re anything like me, reading that is pretty heart-breaking.

However this is not a sad story, this is a brave, honest and beautifully written account of finding peace with the past and heading towards a bright and optimistic future with the one you love.

All of the gorgeous images are courtesy of Love Lust List member Dasha from Exhibit Emotions.

Reflecting The Compromise

Ariel: Over the past year I tried, numerous times, to look back at our wedding with a wistful sigh. These attempts usually left me in tears. Not the good kind. Most of what I remember from our wedding is jet lag and stress. As our first wedding anniversary approached, Pete and I began to get a bit testy about how we should celebrate. Our friends started making and broadcasting their plans for first anniversary celebrations and we extended congratulations and looked in dread at the calendar as our anniversary crept closer and closer. Not because we were dreading the occasion, but because we knew we would feel pressure to go back and reminisce over our wedding photos and video and eat that top layer of cake, etc.

We haven’t looked at our wedding photos and video for about 10 months. Our wedding was beautiful, but it wasn’t really wonderful. In the photos we are fully smiling, eye crinkle and all, but if you look a little closer, they are a reflection of all the compromises we made and the pressure we gave into which resulted in a wedding that I barely remember and photos of people we don’t recognise.

Finally Getting There

We decided that on our first anniversary we were going to do exactly what we wanted and not what we thought we should do or what everyone expected us to do. We also decided to celebrate our marriage instead of our wedding. The wedding reflected where we came from and our journey together to that point. And it was a long one involving four continents, countless international flights, 18 months apart, at least three visas, two job changes and flats, and an advanced degree. The wedding had a lot of references to our individual and family histories but not so much to our joint present.

Where we are now, geographically and figuratively, is SO much better. To celebrate how far we had come, together, since the wedding, we marked our anniversary with a photo shoot in our favourite place, and our current home, Greenwich.

And, if I’m totally honest, I really wanted some pretty pictures of us, that could stand in for wedding photos.

A Special Surprise

Again, if I’m being honest. The photo shoot was my idea and a surprise for my husband. We did celebrate our anniversary in a way that was uniquely us, but this was something a little extra. We picked out our favourite bits of our wedding costumes (minus my fabulous fascinator which is still back in the US and Pete’s pocket watch which is still in NZ) and a blanket from our time in Africa (where we met) and headed out to meet our photographer in downtown Greenwich.

It was one of the hottest days of the summer thus far and Greenwich was teeming with people. We headed down to the river first to avoid the crowds and catch low tide. Walking along the Thames is a recently new activity for us and increasingly one of our favourites. We went about as far as we could before the tide cut us off from returning. From there we wandered through the place we continually wish we had gotten married. We wandered and enjoyed the place we have been building our little family and reminding ourselves why we joined together in the first place.

Better Together

For me, the shoot was still like the wedding shoot in some ways; I was constantly concerned that my fringe had gone stringy and greasy, that my make-up (which I did myself *risky*) was sliding off my face, that my dress kept shifting (note, fabric tape doesn’t hold when your bra is sweat-soaked) and I wasn’t sure what my face was actually doing when I was attempting to make it serene and blissful. But this day, unlike the entire wedding experience, really brought home some lessons of the year for me.

We are better individuals, together. We make each other the best versions of ourselves and that is what we should aim for daily. If you are uncomfortable on the inside, it will show on the outside, no matter how well cut the trousers. It is not possible to do everything we want right now, but it is a long life, there is time and instant gratification is frequently teamed with buyer’s remorse. We can prepare and plan but that will only take us so far and the best moments are unplanned, unscripted and unforgettable.

In the latter half of our first married year we have begun to have the confidence to focus more on our family expectations, putting our extended families desires on a shelf for a bit. These photos and this anniversary weekend were about setting the tone for the years to come and celebrating this shift in our focus. The people in these photos may not look so different to those in the wedding photos, but to us, they look a lot happier and even more in love, if that’s possible.

Doing It The Right Way

It took a few days to fall upon Dasha’s website Exhibit Emotions. As soon as I read her story about how she met her husband, I knew she would understand our international wedding plight. Plus her photos were beautiful and she had done an Art Deco-inspired shoot I could stare at for hours. When I contacted her and presented my idea, she immediately responded that she would love to do an “I do, re-do” shoot. I loved that. It was exactly what we were thinking, without the actual “I do” renewal (or the big white dress). She went out of her way to meet with me a few days before the shoot and spent, like, five hours in the blazing sun with us, waiting for the light to get ‘just right.’ Obviously, she nailed it! She made us feel very comfortable, although we don’t have too much trouble hamming it up. And to top it off, she saved the day. When I realized I was too late to buy a bouquet and a bit upset, she spotted a gorgeous lavender bush and, after taking some great shots with it in the foreground, picked a bunch of it for me. Perfect.

When we got the photos from her (an unbelievable week later) she had managed to make it look like we had Greenwich all to ourselves. There were hundreds of people roaming the streets and green spaces but in these photos it is just us two celebrating each other and our marriage. In that way, I guess it was an “I do” renewal, or maybe just a reminder.

Contagious Enthusiasm

Dasha From Exhibit Emotions: When Ariel got in touch with me about her idea of wedding anniversary shoot, I jumped at the chance! First, she found me through Rock My Wedding, so I knew in advance they would be a great couple. Second, she was so enthusiastic about it, it was contagious! Ariel also wrote the story about how she and Pete met, and it was in many ways similar to how I met my husband. I instantly felt the connection and took on the shoot, despite the busy season. Doing this shoot for Ariel and Pete made me want to have one with my hubby, maybe for our 5th anniversary.

Photography – Dasha at Exhibit Emotions

I just wanted to say a personal thanks to Ariel, my circumstances are not similar with regards to my own wedding day memories but I have always shied away from any kind of anniversary shoot, although a lovely idea, I just didn’t think it was important enough.

And now I want to capture every moment. A year on, two years on, when we are eighty-five and probably have no teeth…..

So. That’s what I am going to do.

Ariel, you are an inspiration.

Big Doing It The Right Way Love

Charlotte xxx

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Nightmares From W-Day Hell.

July 17th, 2011

This post is inspired by comments on the RMW Facebook page (are you not a member yet? come join in!) and a discussion we held on what you lovelies would like to see posted over the coming months.

More than a few of you mentioned “wedding day nightmares” and by this I mean in the literal sense, as in, you go to bed expecting to enjoy lovely dreams about chiffon and cupcakes and instead wake up in a cold sweat because your sleep was plagued with what I refer to as “The Fear”.

Now, this can be basically anything that you worry about when it comes to the Big Day, from forgetting your fancy underwear to being presented with a wilted bunch of blooms to carry down the aisle.

I used to have a few re-occurring ones, my photographer not being able to make it resulting in my un-artistic father getting snap-happy with the point and click, losing my make-up bag (can you imagine?!) and the worst one of all, that our venue was double booked. We turn up only to find an entirely different wedding party already there and we are duly turned away – unable to get married at all. I used to open my eyes and be unable to breathe after a night of that particular horror.

As with any major event there are so many variables and you are simply unable to preempt the outcome. Unfortunatley I don’t have the answers on worry prevention, what I can tell you is that it’s completely normal to feel completely and utterly out of your control comfort-zone.

However, one thing I would recommend is W-day insurance, we personally didn’t need to claim anything as it happens but for what little it costs, the ability to remove the stress associated with any potential investment loss as a result was totally worth it.

Oh and confirmation. Make sure you have everything confirmed in writing, this may sound obvious but what I mean is ensure your suppliers confirm your wedding date back to you on their correspondence. All it takes is a one teenyy weeny digit to be misread or misheard and on the eve of your perfectly planned soiree your DJ could be sunning himself in Spain basking in the ignorant bliss of his mixing skills not being required until the following weekend…

And you know what? something is bound to go array. Because that’s real life I’m afraid folks. But it will be fine. In fact it will be better than fine, it will be great, and as you radiate that newly-wed glow of together foreverness all those nasty nightmares will seem like a long, distant and pointless memory.

But.

It would be interesting (and I’m sure amusing) to hear what your “fear” has been, so if you’re just sat at your computer this Sunday then why not drop us a comment? Adam and I are working on a few new RMW projects together all day so it would certainly make things more entertaining.

;-)

Big Fearless Love

Charlotte xxx

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The Guilt Factor.

July 14th, 2011

For me the one not-so-nice thing about W-day planning was the guilt.

And I don’t mean the “shall I invite them/shall I not invite them” guilt. I mean the “this is the most expensive thing I have ever bought” type guilt.

Regardless of what your actual budget is for your wedding, it is really easy to get swept away by all the pretty (hey I should know – I’m showing it to you all day every day..) that sometimes you can’t but help let your heart rule your head. And there is nothing wrong with this of course, it is after all one of the most important days of your lives.

It’s just well…

(says in quiet whisper) Sometimes I would feel so guilty about what I was about to spend on what is essentially one day I felt physically sick.

Especially when I did that thing us girls do when faced with a particularly extravagant purchase like “I could buy FIVE pairs of shoes for what this one pair costs!” or “I could buy an entire NEW WARDROBE for what this one (albeit very lovely) gown is going to set me back!”

You get the picture?

And of course I realise it’s not all about the comparisons of the fancy and the frippery. It’s the fact that you could, certainly in some cases, pay off a pretty decent chunk of your mortgage/buy a new car/generally do something that could be considered a wee bit life changing.

So I just wanted to say (small *cough* clears throat and takes deep breath)… that it is perfectly normal to feel guilty. Sick to your stomach guilty. It is also perfectly normal to decide that actually you are going to say no to that beautiful but waaaaay out of your comfort zone tiara because actually? you really need a new vacuum cleaner. Or a new tyre. Or as much as you love it frankly, the guilt you would feel afterwards just isn’t worth it.

We’re here to inspire you and help you have the best big day your heart desires, big budget, small budget, those inclined to think-with-your-heart or indeed those that think-with-your-head.

Please do let me know what it is that you have felt most guilty about spend-wise whilst planning so far and the RMW community will no doubt join forces and give honest and experienced advice.

Big Feeling Guilty Right Now After That Recent Delicious Frock Purchase Love

Charlotte xxx

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