This is a bit of a personal post to be honest. I never usually have any qualms about talking to you lovely lot…
But this time I’m a little nervous.
You see I’d like to reminisce about my own big day and a few beauty related topics I feel I got wrong.
Now it’s not easy for me to talk about getting anything wrong (I’m a stubborn aul cow), let alone share something so personal as how I looked and felt on my wedding day. But we’re all here to help each other out and maybe something I say will ring true with you.
So here goes…
I should have long luscious locks
I have always been a short haired girl. I have dabbled with the long locks on a few occasions but always breathe a sigh of relief when the hairdresser takes scissors to it. I feel sexier with short hair. Plus… with hair like mine (as unmanagable as an explosion at a mattress factory) it just makes damn good sense.
So naturally, as soon as I got engaged I decided to grow it…(!) Thus ensued a year and a half of cursing at the mirror, endless hours of straightening and enough bleach to choke a playboy bunny. Why? I have absolutely no idea.
Three days after we were married, I had myself booked into a fancy salon and had my hair cut into a short platinum crop. Strange isn’t it? And it’s so common. Most women actually grow their hair long just so they can pin it up! Why I didn’t just go for extensions to my flirty bob? Haven’t a clue. Or even just sported by bob on my wedding day? It’s like there’s some invisible pressure there to make you grow a mane. Why do you think it is?
I can do my own make-up
This is a funny one. Some of you may have read that subtitle and had a small heart attack because you’ve not booked a make-up artist. Well… in a cost saving exercise, I didn’t. I hate other people doing my make-up. I always feel caked and like I’m wearing someone elses mask. So my girls and I were to apply our own war paint for the day.
It got to the wedding day, I sat myself down surrounded by my newly purchased goodies and a big ole mirror in front of the window… And I froze. The light was funny, my hands were sweating and it dawned on me that I didn’t know how to apply make-up for the camera. I started panicking, then thankfully our friend Charlotte turned up. Luckily for me she swooped in and took over the make-up applying duties.
So the advice I will give you in this… If you plan to do your own make-up, awesome, please do. But make sure one of your girls knows the drill and get her to do a trial on you too. I totally didn’t expect to freeze up on the day, but I was so glad to have someone to hand who knew the look I was after.
I must be the thinnest I’ve ever been
This is very personal, but I’m going to throw it out their anyway. I have always been slim. Ranging around a 8-10. But in the six months before our wedding, I was so busy and stressed out that I went through a stage of cakes, cookies and comfort eating… and gained a stone.
This then turned into major self hate for my body in the months leading to my wedding. I lost confidence and started to place a God awful amount of blame on myself for not being like all other brides and slimming down as much as I could. After all, you’re meant to be at your thinnest for your wedding right?
Well, this my lovelies is complete and utter bullshit. On my wedding day I was still half a stone over my natural weight. And did I care? No. I honestly felt like the most beautiful woman in the world. I strutted around in my wedding dress, embracing my new found curves (and massive boobs!). Would I have felt any better if I were slimmer? I honestly don’t think it would have made any difference. I was too happy.
I am thinner now than I was on my wedding day, but I still look back at photos and love every shot. I think I look awesome. So if you’re naturally a 10, 24, 16 or 6… please just embrace your body. Your man thinks your the hottest thing he’s laid eye on. So why change who you are? Buy a dress for your shape and rock it.
I’d love to know your thoughts ladies…