This post is inspired by comments on the RMW Facebook page (are you not a member yet? come join in!) and a discussion we held on what you lovelies would like to see posted over the coming months.
More than a few of you mentioned “wedding day nightmares” and by this I mean in the literal sense, as in, you go to bed expecting to enjoy lovely dreams about chiffon and cupcakes and instead wake up in a cold sweat because your sleep was plagued with what I refer to as “The Fear”.
Now, this can be basically anything that you worry about when it comes to the Big Day, from forgetting your fancy underwear to being presented with a wilted bunch of blooms to carry down the aisle.
I used to have a few re-occurring ones, my photographer not being able to make it resulting in my un-artistic father getting snap-happy with the point and click, losing my make-up bag (can you imagine?!) and the worst one of all, that our venue was double booked. We turn up only to find an entirely different wedding party already there and we are duly turned away – unable to get married at all. I used to open my eyes and be unable to breathe after a night of that particular horror.
As with any major event there are so many variables and you are simply unable to preempt the outcome. Unfortunatley I don’t have the answers on worry prevention, what I can tell you is that it’s completely normal to feel completely and utterly out of your control comfort-zone.
However, one thing I would recommend is W-day insurance, we personally didn’t need to claim anything as it happens but for what little it costs, the ability to remove the stress associated with any potential investment loss as a result was totally worth it.
Oh and confirmation. Make sure you have everything confirmed in writing, this may sound obvious but what I mean is ensure your suppliers confirm your wedding date back to you on their correspondence. All it takes is a one teenyy weeny digit to be misread or misheard and on the eve of your perfectly planned soiree your DJ could be sunning himself in Spain basking in the ignorant bliss of his mixing skills not being required until the following weekend…
And you know what? something is bound to go array. Because that’s real life I’m afraid folks. But it will be fine. In fact it will be better than fine, it will be great, and as you radiate that newly-wed glow of together foreverness all those nasty nightmares will seem like a long, distant and pointless memory.
It would be interesting (and I’m sure amusing) to hear what your “fear” has been, so if you’re just sat at your computer this Sunday then why not drop us a comment? Adam and I are working on a few new RMW projects together all day so it would certainly make things more entertaining.
Big Fearless Love