There is an overwhelming sense of happiness oozing out of the pictures captured by Jackson & Co Photography. Bride Lucy has the most incredible smile and I guarantee you will be beaming along with her when you look at this fabulous outdoor rustic wedding at West Lexham.
The aisle and altar looks incredible with hay bales, persian rugs and shepherd’s hooks with wild flower hangings. You’re going to love all the humorous signage, tattoo favours, DIY and homemade treats too.
Lucy’s boho bridal look of a Donatelle Godart gown with oversized bouquet and flower crown looks utterly incredible amongst the setting.
Sarah and Mike’s wedding is just brimming with quirky decor inspiration and covetable ideas for making your own big day look super stylish. Over the years they’ve collected lots of ‘S’ and ‘M’ signs, which they displayed on the mantlepiece, they used neon perspex table numbers and an abundance of fluffy gyp, but it’s their plastic flamingo Philomena who really steals the show. Club Tropicana vibes are always good as far as we’re concerned.
The whole day has been captured by the wonderful Betty and David at Tub Of Jelly, who capture every emotion and detail on camera and in motion beautifully. And if you like your wedding films with a bit of sass, then you’ll LOVE this one…
Every single wedding we feature is special but there’s something about this morning’s wedding that has really got me. I think it’s the emotion captured in Sam Gibson’s images combined with the honesty of Chloe’s writing. Putting this blog post together moved me to tears and I know I’m incredibly soppy but I promise you, this one is a total tearjerker – in a big fat happy tears of joy kind of way.
So I’m not going to waffle on, I’m just going to let you enjoy it. Have a beautiful Sunday everybody.
This destination wedding is totally dreamy in every single way. Sun drenched and full of love, happiness and the most beautiful portraits by Kevin Klein.
There is also the gorgeous fashion. Bride Denise wears a Olivs Trend stunning lace backless gown which I absolutely adore. She completes her utterly divine bridal look with a delicate flower crown and pastel bouquet. The perfect classic attire to enjoy an outdoor humanist ceremony with family and friends. Not before meeting her beau dressed in a Tuxedo at an incredibly romantic first look though, you may need tissues!
Intimate, understated, but so so pretty, come see……
“If you have good wine, good food and good music – it’s your guests that will make the party! All the rest is details!” Said our fabulously laid back boho Bride in a stunning Charlie Brear wedding dress and flower crown *sigh*
Even though the relaxed ethos of this fabulous wedding is SO apparant, the details and choices Joanna & Paul made are stunning! Opting to have an outdoor blessing in a field, with a beautiful tree drapped in chiffon as their focal point and altar.
Celebrations continued in the open field with a beautifully decorated Tipi reception full of white blooms, hanging lanterns and giant balloons, not to mention all the space hoppers to entertain the kiddies and a cheeky late night game of piggy in the middle with a rugby ball….
Yes – that’s right…this wedding has horses. I can virtually hear the ooohs and awwws from here. I think Steph and Tom’s venue may be one of the most idyllic I’ve ever seen and luckily the British weather held out for their ceremony. Everything just looks so beautiful bathed in the Spring sunshine.
Steph and Tom seemed to keep the music pumping, the food coming and the drink flowing all day long – they even had a late-night campfire with marshmallow toasting. I know. AMAZING.
I’ll pass you over to Steph who makes a very stylish Bride in her fitted lace gown – which by the way she rocks in the unusual champagne tone. It works so perfectly with her skin tone. AND it was the first dress she tried on!
Winding Country Roads
Steph the Bride: The perfect venue was at Clavelshay Barn, North Petherton near Taunton. Tom and I had spotted it online and thought it was worth a visit and were definitely not disappointed. We knew on the first visit that it would be perfect. Winding country roads, humming birds, sweeping hills, cows and quaint country houses , beautiful gardens … and a chance to make something truly our own. Sue who owns the venue was also a lovely and very genuine host who went above and beyond to help us create our special day.
Hair and makeup wise I was inspired by 1950’s classic glamour as for me it’s timeless and would really compliment my dress. My makeup was very simple, just a simple black eye flick, false lashes and a touch of Bobbi Brown’s Plum Rose lipstick which is a fabulous colour that I would definitely recommend.
Mine and my bridesmaids makeup was done by the very talented Lucy Davis. I had hair extensions for the day to add thickness to my hair which were perfectly coloured matched and put in by my wonderful mother Loraine Williams put in a few weeks before, she is an absolute pro and has her own business from home doing this. To compliment my hair Louise Alway (available through Lucy) beautifully styled and curled my hair to have luscious volume and bouncy waves. I also wore Chanel Chance on the wedding day which was a classic scent.
Classic, Fitted Lace
My dress was from the Carina Baverstock Couture Boutique in Bradford-on-Avon and is named ‘Mystere’ by Claire Pettibone. I’ve always been into fashion and classic lace fitted styles and fell in love with Claire Pettibone’s original designs the moment I spotted them online. I discussed my day and theme with the boutique owner and she just knew. It was the first dress I tried on and I never looked back! My dress was champagne coloured, fitted, had capped short sleeves, features intricate beaded detailing and a stunning vintage lilac flower on the lower back which was absolutely stunning. I loved every minute wearing it and felt extremely glamorous.
Tom looked very dapper on our special day and had his bespoke air force blue three piece suit and white shirt handmade by the very-talented P J Robinson and Sons tailor in Alcester. They are a proper old-school four generation tailors and he knew immediately after meeting Lawrence that this was the place for him. His shoes and socks were from Reiss and the groomsmen’s ties were from TM Lewin.
Cute Kitten Heels
I wore a gorgeous Jenny Packham headpiece that complemented the colours and design of my dress. Otherwise I am pretty tall so couldn’t really go for a high heel but found some cute jewelled kitten heels from Nine West online on sale for a bargain of £19. I was really pleased about that, what bride doesn’t like a bargain?
I actually brought the bridesmaid dresses before I had brought my own which was risky, but we were having a Spring wedding and I thought the colour and style would suit everyone’s body shapes and skin tones perfectly. All the bridesmaids wore a nude / pink dress from Fever Designs and accessorised as they liked with beautiful headbands and netted underskirts. The flower girl Elsie’s (my niece) dress was from Monsoon whilst the pageboy’s suit was from Marks and Spencer’s.
A Country Tea Party
Once our venue was sorted everything else sort of came together. We did most of our research on Pinterest and fell in love with the idea of a country tea party style wedding. The colour scheme naturally progressed after purchasing the bridesmaid dresses and my own.
Decor-wise we knew we were having a marquee so wanted to spruce it up a bit and make it a bit country glam. We had fantastic hand-made table-clothes by Tom’s mum Barbara with lace runners hand-stitched along them; old bottles and jam jars lined the table centres, whilst shattered glass and gold tea lights set the mode. We also had beautiful splashes of colour in our flower displays and home-made jam with luggage labels as our guest’s favours.
A Perfect Splash Of Colour
My flowers were absolutely stunning and beautifully arranged by one of my best friends and very talented florist Christiane Simmons. The flowers were the perfect splash of colour for our country themed day and were vintage lilac, purple, pastel pink, cream, blue and yellow. I had English garden roses, roses, peonies, muscari and ranunculus in my bouquet.
On the day we also had beautiful bright bouquets lining the chairs down the aisle, finishing with two olive trees tied with lilac ribbon. Tripods dotted around the garden, whilst other cute arrangements filled jam jars and bottles down the centres of all the tables.
A Very Moving Ceremony
Tom and I had a humanist ceremony outside as our venue wasn’t licensed for our big day. The ceremony was conducted by Jennifer Constant at Tailor Made Ceremonies and felt really special for the both of us as we had a lot of personal input. Jennifer had asked us to fill in a questionnaire about the two of us, how we met and why we loved each other and brought it all together in a very moving ceremony. I had two of my dearest friends Bryony and Nat do a reading which they very kindly wrote for us and was touching to the point of tears. Tom’s friend Darren also read a reading about Relativity from Albert Einstein which was beautiful.
Music For Everyone
We had two bands for the day. During guests arrival, my entrance and the afternoon tea reception we had a funky three-piece gypsy jazz band called Barnone play which really set the mood for the day. During dinner we just had motown songs from our iPod playing until our first dance which was my dad’s song Wonderful Wonderful by The Tymes (He was in this famous motown band in the 60s and passed away 9 years ago). It was beautiful and extremely sentimental.
This followed by live music from our evening band Snappa and some fun DJ sets. Their live music was incredible and would definitely be recommended for any wedding! They had everyone including my granddad up on the floor dancing the night away!
Locally Sourced Food
All the food barring the cake was lovingly cooked up and created in house at Clavelshay Barn. Tom and I are big into locally sourced foods and were delighted that Clavelshay take such pride in where they source their food and the high quality they provide. Reception was a bite size take on afternoon tea, cucumber sandwiches, cheese bites, scones and jam, éclairs and smoked salmon blinis served with Pimms. This was followed by a huge hog roast buffet with served with stuffing, braised red cabbage, seasonal vegetables, dauphinoise potatoes and scrumpy sauce. After there was fresh fruit and cream, coffee, a selection of loose leaf teas and heart shaped chocolates. In the evening the yummy five tiered Victoria sponge cake was served with a selection of cheeses, bread, grapes and chutneys. The cake was made by Kate at Living Pretty a local tea shop in Somerset.
A Helping Hand
What would I do without my best friend Gem? She designed everything from the cute forget-me-not Save the Date seed envelopes, to the invites and the seating plan. We told her about our day and she created this whole tea thing which completely stuck with us for the whole day. The colours were in keeping with the day, creams, lilacs, pinks, blues and pale greens.
We also had a lot of help from Tom’s sister Al and his mum Barbara. Allison hand wrote all the name places on the favours and lined the old suitcase (for cards) in old vintage map paper which looked fabulous. She also wrote the menu for the evening meal and painted the wooden Wedding sign we had at the venue entrance.
Barbara with the help of her husband Martin made all the tablecloths as well as all the jam favours which were delicious. We’d also like to thank David and Richard for making the easel for the seating plan and the wooden sign, it looked great!
Everything Will Fall Into Place
My advice to Brides is to relax, enjoy and make the most of every second. The last days before the wedding are so stressful organising all those last minute touches but your wedding day is just about you and your husband to be and how much you love each other, everything will fall into place.
Also make sure you book time off after the wedding even if you’re not going on honeymoon straight away as you’ll be shattered and will be grateful for the time together to reflect on your special day.
We would also like to thank the fabulous and ridiculously talented Rachel Hudson our photographer. She captured our day so beautifully and was an absolute pleasure to work with. Our photos our stunning and something we know we’ll cherish forever!
I still can’t believe that Mystere was the first dress Steph tried on.
Great advice from Steph too about post-wedding time off. Even if you’re not going on honeymoon straight away, I think time together to chill out and reflect would be exactly what the doctor ordered.
Whatever you are doing today and however you are feeling, I promise that this wedding will make you smile.
There are sunflowers for a start – possibly the happiest flowers of all time. And the biggest, most fluffiest rabbit that I have EVER seen. And lots of lovely yellow things – yellow socks, yellow ties, yellow wellington boots and a yellow VW Camper van.
Ali and Ian held their joy-filled ceremony and reception at Ian’s parents’ house. The effort that they all put in is phenomenal. Ali created her own jewellery bouquet from vintage brooches collected by her and her family. They also made the bunting, the too-cute yellow gingham stationery and the rustic signage.
The Father of the Groom spent months preparing the lawn (This must be a Dad thing – I know mine would be envious of those perfect green stripes) and Ian the Groom rigged up generators, power cables, microphones and speakers.
But the hard work was definitely worth it – this wedding looks like it was an absolute blast.
Personal & Warm
Ali the Bride: We got married in September 2012, in Ian’s parents’ garden in Nottinghamshire. We had a humanist wedding, as we wanted the freedom to have the ceremony where we wanted, with words that meant something to us. This was a great decision, as Ingrid, our celebrant, did a fantastic job, creating a service that was so personal and warm. It also meant we got to have two weddings, as we did the ‘legal bit’ a few weeks before at the local registry office, which was a great excuse for a slap-up meal, plus a second wedding dress!
Polka Dot Tulle
I always knew I wanted a shorter-length dress, so that narrowed my search quite quickly as they are relatively thin on the ground. I did try on a whole range with my mum and aunt, just to be sure, but they agreed with me that the 1950s-style dresses worked the best.
The assistants kept trying to put me in lace, and, much as I like it on other brides, it’s not me at all – I wanted clean, simple lines. I never thought I’d find a dress that met my ever-growing criteria (not strapless, no lace, with polka dot tulle…), and was about to settle on a perfectly nice dress, when one day I was working over near Manchester and finished early.
A few weeks earlier I’d found a place near Liverpool, that was the only UK stockist of Fancy New York dresses, but it’s so far from my house, I couldn’t justify a special trip. But when I found myself nearby, with a spare couple of hours, I thought it was worth a try. I rang Emma at Look Darling and she agreed to see me straight away. I dashed over, tried on the Madeleine dress – and that was it. It was just what I wanted. Emma was so helpful, and arranged for me to get polka dot tulle, that featured on another dress, added to the Madeleine. To top it off, it was less expensive than others I’d been looking at. So well worth the drive!
I got my petticoat made by David at Petticoat Perfection, who was absolutely lovely, and spent a great deal of time on the phone to me working out what I needed. I never realised there was such a science to petticoats – layers, tiers, weight of fabric, binding…but it arrived a week later and suited the dress perfectly.
The dress alterations were done by my friend Zoey at the brilliant Iris Bartholomew Couture. She is very used to dealing with stressed out brides, and did a fantastic job of calming me down at my final fitting two days before the wedding, as well as making my dress fit perfectly.
She also made my veil, from an extra piece of polka dot tulle I’d bought with the dress. Originally I’d wanted a proper birdcage, but they are normally made from very loose weave net – with my fabric, I wouldn’t have been able to see a thing. So she created something close to that, which allowed me to not trip over! She also made me an ivory 1960s-style shift dress for our civil wedding a few weeks before.
Although normally I’m a fan of big dangly earrings, I decided with the veil there was enough going on, and went for simple pearl earrings, my ‘something borrowed’ from my mum.
As soon as I saw a brooch bouquet, I knew that was what I wanted. I know 99% of brides won’t agree with me, but I’m really not that fussed about flowers, whereas I LOVE jewellery, so holding a bouquet of sparkly jewels really appealed to me! I started collecting brooches from charity shops, with a vague idea I’d make the bouquet up nearer the time.
Once friends and family found out I was collecting, they gave me pieces too, which was lovely. Even my dad got into it, and found me some costume jewellery that had belonged to his aunt, so it felt like every piece had a real story. In the end my mum and I made the bouquet 3 days before the wedding. She came to the rescue with a flower holder and lots of wire, and we spent the evening weaving it all together. I actually had tiny scratches all over my hands on the wedding day!
Whilst browsing for brooches, I came across a lovely 1950s set of white jewellery – a big brooch and matching clip-on earrings. I wore the brooch on my dress, and the earrings as shoe clips.
Shoes For Something Blue
I really struggled to find the right shoes. I wasn’t sure on the style, but definitely wanted them to be blue. I always thought I’d treat myself to some Manolos or Louboutins for my wedding, but as we were having it on a field, I knew I’d ruin them within 10 minutes, and really couldn’t justify it. In the end, I found two pairs and couldn’t choose between them, so I wore them both!
For the ceremony I wore pale blue suede shoes from Faith, with the earrings as shoe clips. In the evening I changed into some bright blue shoes from Rachel Simpson. They were in the sale for £25, which for her beautiful shoes is an absolute bargain.
A Neater Version
I went to Mac with my sister for a make-up lesson and treated myself to a load of new products, so on the day I did it myself, with Kate reminding me what we’d been taught.
I wanted my hair like a neater version of its usual wavy self, probably a nightmare brief for a hairdresser. But Tim from Catherine Carter did a great job. He had me in rollers overnight, which caused much amusement when we all went to my local pub the night before the wedding. It worked though, and on the day itself, the big 50s waves stayed in all evening.
My bridesmaid Andrea lent me her lovely sparkly pearl hairband she’d worn at her wedding, which I wore after I’d taken the veil off.
As I said, I’m not that into flowers generally, but I do love sunflowers for their yellow, cheery disposition. Luckily they were just about still in season. So we ordered 40 sunflowers from a local florist, and dished them out. My bridesmaids held three each simply tied together with ribbon, and the rest of the wedding party had a sunflower each as an oversized buttonhole. We put the last sunflowers in the wedding cars (our campervan, and Ian’s sister Helen’s campervan) and around the venue.
I liked the idea of having plants rather than cut flowers on the tables, so in theory they would last (not sure why I thought that, as pot plants only last about a week longer than cut ones in my house, but I live in hope!). Chilli plants are my favourite, so we potted them in Heinz tomato soup tins – I’m a big fan (my perfect hangover cure!) so had plenty of the tins around.
Bright Blue Skies & Sunshine Yellow
Of my four bridesmaids, two live outside the UK, so a joint shopping trip was never going to work. Plus they are all very different, and all have good taste, so I simply asked them to pick a bright blue dress of their choice. There were a couple of changes in the lead-up (one due to pregnancy, one due to an incident with hair dye!) and on the day, they all looked brilliant and complimented each other perfectly.
I got them all the Vivienne Westwood Melissa shoes in different colours, which are so cute anyway, and having plastic shoes on a field seemed a sensible idea. George even wore hers again a few months later at her own wedding.
Ian asked the groomsmen to wear a suit of their own, and he gave them a yellow tie each and a pair of yellow socks. He didn’t want a formal look for them, so they all looked individual and themselves which was great. We also gave our dads the yellow accessories.
Ian always, always wanted a brown 3-piece checked suit with a blue thread. After searching the high street, he realised he was not going to find it, and went to a local tailor to enquire about getting one made. He was happy to make it, but only had Harris-type tweed which is far too heavy for the style Ian wanted. But, after a trip to a mill shop in Bradford, we finally had the fabric and a tailor. Ian’s best man Ali decided to go for it as well, so the tailor made up the two suits. After a bit of debate around the cut (they wanted slim-fit, not standard ‘farmer’ tweed fit!), they turned out spot on.
Ian also upped the ante and got a matching cap made out of the fabric, so he ended up with a 4-piece!
A Video Surprise
Anna Clarke was the first thing we booked. She has a way of using light and colour that is really distinctive. We met Anna and her husband Simon at our engagement shoot, and we all got on really well. They got photos of Ian smiling, which no-one before has ever managed to do, so I knew they had special talents! On the day itself they fitted in seamlessly, and we are so thrilled with the final pictures.
Simon is a videographer and he did us a ‘mini’ wedding film, which was a complete surprise and cheered us up immensely when we returned from our honeymoon feeling rather flat. I never thought I wanted a video, but I’m so glad we have it now.
We went for a cake-of-cheese, which was really an excuse to visit The Cheese Society in Lincoln several times for tasting sessions. We chose delicious local cheeses and it didn’t all get eaten on the day, meaning we had a ready supply in the freezer for several months.
Ian’s mum also made us 2 cakes as a surprise, one with tractor cake toppers as a nod to the farm setting, and one with bunny cake toppers, to represent our two pet rabbits who I reluctantly admitted couldn’t be there on the day. So in the end we had a cake table with 3 cakes!
Our catering was by Black Peppermint, and we can’t praise them enough. Food and booze are very high on my list of things that make life worth living, so we wanted a proper feast, and that’s exactly what we got.
Adam came up with the idea of a mini picnic as a starter, which perfectly suited the picnic-benches-in-a-tent feel of the day. We wanted everyone to dig in and share. We also ended up with a fourth course, a ‘pre-desert’ of lemon brulee, because we couldn’t chose between that and chocolate tart for pudding – so we opted for both!
The Perfect Soundtrack
Everything else about the day was relaxed, but we wanted something to be formal to signify the importance of the day. So we chose The Heyes Ensemble to play during the ceremony and drinks. Ian knows them through work, and it was lovely to have a classical touch to the day. Our friend Nick is a great musician, and he played and sang ‘Your Song’ for us during the ceremony, which was beautiful.
In the evening, we had a band called the Hijackers who we found through an agency. They were fab, and played just the right mix of songs. After they finished, DJ Ian took to his decks and it turned into a bit of a 90s club for an hour or so! Our friends loved it, our parents less so!
Ian installed the sound system in the tent. There is nothing worse than not being able to hear the speeches, so we wanted a system that could be used by everyone from my dad to the band. It worked a treat for us as we had all the different performers use the one system, including everyone doing their bit on iTunes into the small hours.
We chose ‘You’ve Got a Friend in Me’ by Randy Newman, from Toy Story, because the lyrics are adorable, and it’s short, and because we like Buzz Lightyear!
As our venue was Ian’s parents’ garden, they did tons of work to make it look special in the months leading up to the wedding. The flowers in the garden were lovely, and Ian’s dad mowed the lawn twice a week all summer so it was perfectly striped on the day.
Our venue was two giant teepees from PapaKata, who were so professional and helpful. The teepees are beautiful structures, which look great in the day, and get even cosier at night if they are lit properly.
The music and lighting were really important to us. Ian has now set up a company doing music and lighting for weddings, because we realised it’s so hard to get what you want.
For the ceremony we had bright lighting so everyone could see, and then as dusk fell, put on the fairy lights we’d strung up everywhere. We installed pin spots in the roof structure to light up the tables – we wanted a cosy ambience for the meal, but you still need to see your food.
For the evening, we lit up a mirrorball which filled the tent with twinkles, and changed the atmosphere using colour washes of blue and purple. To give it a real edge, we hung scanner lights to get the party going.
Outside, Ian installed festoon lighting, which made the site feel like a proper festival. Helen and our friend Kati made what seemed like miles and miles of bunting, which we used inside and out. It really gave the whole venue a ‘decorated’ feel and we are eternally grateful to them for doing such a mind-numbing job, which neither of us would have got around to.
Helen also made us yellow gingham napkins for all the guests, and a table cloth for the cake table, which added to the picnic theme. What a star.
We made the wedding stationary ourselves, based around the yellow gingham. Ian drew a cute annotated map for the invitations, and I did matching menu cards and orders of service. They were printed up by Lefaprint, who turned them around in 48 hours which was excellent, and very necessary as like a lot of things, we left it to the last minute!
There Is No ‘Should’
During the planning, we got sick of people saying ‘should’ – you should have this, you shouldn’t do that – so the only advice we can offer: there is no ‘should’. Do what you want, because no-one else will notice at the end of the day apart from you two. They will all have a good time regardless.
As we had the wedding at home, we had to deal with all the boring stuff that a venue would normally takes care of – loos, generators, power lines – but it was worth it to get the sort of day we wanted. We were also lucky that all our wedding party and partners turned up the day before to help out with all the last minute stuff, which was so kind, and we couldn’t have done it without them.
As Charlotte and I get asked more and more for our expertise or opinions on weddings, we are required to choose ‘favourites’ of every kind. Depending on the context, our favourites can be very different on each occasion, but it is through doing this that I have begun to appreciate the things that I really love. True to myself, my choices can’t be pigeon holed but I am starting to sense a theme of clean, pared back design, regardless of the references.
Todays wedding, despite the vintage vamp lip and birdcage veil has a decidedly modern slant, with clean lines and simple but effective style throughout. Needless to say, it is going straight to the top of my ‘favourites’ list. 😉 It’s all beautifully complemented by the strong photography from Elemental Photography. I could have stared all day at these images…
Katie and Stevie got married on 30th April 2011 in a ceremony outside at Chapel Green Earlsferry, a ruin which overlooks Elie Bay in the small coastal village on the East Neuk of Fife, where Katie grew up.
Sandra Cormack at SC Make Up Artistry did both my and my bridesmaids hair and make up. She was recommended by a colleague at work. Sandra was lovely, made us feel totally at ease and has years of experience having done London fashion week, film and TV work.
We had airbrush make up which has a much lighter coverage and suited me, as I tend usually not to wear heavy make up.
A Story of Two Dresses
I had two dresses as the first would have been impossible to dance in!
My ‘ceremony’ dress was from Emma Roy in Edinburgh and was Allure Bridal. It was a fishtail gown and was the first I tried on. Verity at Emma Roy had, in addition to the few I had picked out from the rail, chose 10 others so I had the opportunity to try on lots of different styles which I wouldn’t have chosen myself. It was a useful exercise in that I knew what I wanted and wasn’t swayed by any of the other, albeit beautiful gowns. As it turns out I think the style I chose is discontinued now. Subsequently, I only ventured into one other shop on the same day while looking for a dress. I had the dress customised by sourcing bridal buttons which were sewn down the back of the dress over the zip. The bustle was also arranged by the seamstress at Emma Roy.
As we were engaged in Iceland beneath the Eyjafjallajökull volcano the preceding March, my ‘holding’ engagement ring which Stevie bought me there was silver and Icelandic kalcedon. I love chunky silver jewellery and Bethsy Gray (a lovely Danish lady) in Glasgow is my favourite jewellery designer. I contacted Bethsy and commissioned her to make some cufflinks as a surprise for Stevie on our wedding day in a similar style to my engagement ring.
In addition, I had bought a couple of pieces for my Bridesmaids as gifts (silver and boulder opal ring, necklace and opal earrings). We found the silver orb necklace which Steve wanted to buy as a wedding gift for me in St Andrews.
I made my birdcage veil myself – I had found a pair of silver 1950s Danish clip earrings from Abernyte antique centre, which Steve gave as a birthday gift. I sewed them onto some white widow’s veiling sourced online.
Being new to this wedding malarky, we had forgotten about wedding rings until about two months before the wedding! Thankfully several people recommended Claire McDonald from No. 5 in Cupar. She was so lovely when we visited her shop we knew we wanted her to make and source our rings.
Red Soled Love
I love shoes and I love red so it was an easy choice. I figured that this would probably be the only time I would buy a posh pair of shoes and I would want to wear them again after the wedding, so red Louboutins it had to be!
I had some difficulty sourcing them in Scotland as I was aware of only a few stockists, none of which had the shoe I had spotted online. After e-mailing the Louboutin London store the lady very kindly passed my details on to Selfridges who posted them up to me when they arrived in February.
I was very lucky that Steve’s mum used to be a florist and I knew I could trust her with the ideas we had. I knew I wanted quite sculptural flowers and as Steve has always liked cacti and succulents, I wanted to include those in the flowers we had.
My bouquet released my ‘inner goth’ and contained cream calla lillies and akito roses, cream lisianthus, white tanacetum, grey brunei, dried nigella seed heads, tillandsias, echevaria and semperviva.
Steve’s button hole had elements from my bouquet; semperviva and grey brunei.
I knew I didn’t want my bridesmaids dresses to match but as it turned out although the styles were very different, both shades were pretty close.
I had spotted the shorter Dessy dress some time ago and loved the teal colour. The longer dress which my bridesmaid chose was from Reiss. I knew I wanted them in red shoes too which they chose themselves. And red fingernails were a must!
A 21st Century Kilt
Steve’s kilt was his own which he has had for 12 years in his family tartan, ancient Gordon. He contacted Howie at 21st Century Kilts who made a beautiful waistcoat and jacket which was lined in airforce blue fabric – the detailing on the jacket was very special.
Howie also detailed Steve’s existing kilt to tie in better with his jacket and changed the leather straps to brown. He bad brown brogues from Jones the Bootmaker. His tie was also airforce blue sourced online. The best man hired a kilt from Slanj and Steve’s brother’s who were ushers wore their own kilts.
Both our wedding rings are silver. My ring was inspired by Danish design of the 1950s and 1960s which I liked which Claire redesigned and made. Steve chose a simple silver wedding band.
During the ceremony, we had music played by friends who Steve has known since school and university. They had agreed to form a band especially to play at the ceremony. As we wanted full on electric guitars, we had to hire a generator and hide it behind the ruin! Unusually for Scotland, we had had a bit of a spring heat wave which allayed fears we previously had of torrential, horizontal rain, and thankfully our wet weather contingency was not required.
As we were having a humanist ceremony which we had written ourselves, our story was told well by our celebrant Duncan McKenzie. The guys played the first song Steve and I danced to in the Glasgow Garage the night we met, which was Buddy Holly by Weezer.
The second song they played was Everlong by the Foo Fighters. Given two of the guys stay in London, one in Glasgow and the other in Fife it was a huge effort on the guys’ part to make the performances so incredible.
Since I first saw this wedding I have wanted it. Coveted it.
For months we waited patiently while Cara and Nye bonded with their new arrivals. They knew it was perfectly us. We knew it was perfectly them. And for no-one was it more perfect than Sophie and Glenn.
Sophie and Glenn were married on 17th August 2010 at Crear, in Argyll Scotland.
I think this is the most perfect wedding I have ever laid my eyes upon.
I didn’t want a traditional white wedding dress as although I did try some traditional white ones on, none felt right-so I scoured the internet for an evening dress (Glenn and I met on an internet dating site, I sourced most of my wedding from the internet!)
After many attempts I eventually found the Tadashi feathery Gown on the Bloomingdales Website in America, and loved it at first sight- But as nowhere in England stocks Tadashi Shoji (A Japanese Designer) I had to have it shipped from a store in Caesars Palace in Las Vegas, slightly risky but luckily it was a risk worth taking! (It also went on a round-the-world trip after getting caught up in the Ash Cloud but luckily arrived in time to get it altered to fit!)
I searched Etsy, the online craft/arts store, and discovered Melanie in Massachusetts , who trades under the name ‘LittleLuxury Boutique‘ she handcrafts unique jewellery using beautiful gemstones.
She handmade me a bracelet and matching drop earrings which she describes as ‘soft brown, champagne and beige gemstones, with metallic-lustered teal peacock freshwater pearls for a bold and beautiful accent of color against a neutral backdrop. Gemstones include: andalusite ,champagne citrine, gold rutilated quartz and green topaz’.
I also wore a Pearl and Ivy vintage inspired feathered headband, which had vibrant blue and green tones, offsetting t the neutral champagne colour of the dress.
My shoes were a pair of Vivienne Westwood Melissa Globe Shoes, neutral/champagne colour with an oversize bright blue globe balanced on the top!
(Heeled slingback shoes featuring peep toe design).Very comfortable, scented rubber-good enough to eat,fun, reasonable cost, can wear again and wow factor all rolled into one!
I did my own makeup, using Bobbi Brown products.
I booked the hairdresser over the phone She was a local girl, who I hadn’t met, (but who had been recommended!) However… she turned up with green festival dreadlocks, a hangover and had obviously trained at the Edward Scissorhand School of Hairdressing… All I can say, is I’m very grateful it was a windy day and the ceremony was outside as my hair was atrocious! (Oh and the satin ribbon blew off my dress in the wind too but c’est la vie!)
Eyes like the Sea
Glenn wore a soft brown suit with off-white shirt and silk champagne tie. He wore the buttonhole I made for him (champagne ostrich feathers and a peacock feather) complimented perfectly by his eyes.
(Bit cheesy I know – but he has eyes the colour of a stormy Irish sea, which was the first thing I noticed about him when we met – awwww.)
The young bridesmaids (who were my daughter Poppy and Glenn’s daughter Leah), fared slightly better! Despite the hairdresser being possibly the worst hairdresser in Scotland, I remained remarkably calm-probably because I knew there was no-one in a thirty mile radius who could have stepped in to help, so just had an extra glass of sangria (or two!)
The young bridesmaids (flower girl?) dresses were Nicole Farhi prom dresses, which a local dressmaker miniaturized for me to fit our two young daughters. (I found them on Ebay for 50 pounds the pair though originally they were 500 pounds each!!) I didn’t have a traditional colour scheme- as in one or two colours, instead, I chose a neutral base- champagne/ bronze/, cappuccino/ vintage coffee, and added complimentary hues/tones in teals/ purple/lavenders.
It was more about tones, soft hues with flashes of colour –actually inspired from the landscape/seascape in Argyll –the first time we saw Crear for the first time the year previously in Autumn, the sea, the heather, the hills.
Groomsmen (my brother Hamish gave me away, and Glenn’s brother John was best-man) wore suits/ties of their choice and wore one of the feathered buttonholes I had made to tie them in.
Creating at Crear
The venue is called ‘Crear, space to create. If we couldn’t create it ourselves we sourced it from an artist who could!
We hung up over 40 paper pompoms in the venue (which I sourced from Etsy, (Portland Oregon this time!) I had spent the day before the wedding making them up as they all arrived flat packed and needed frilly-ing up!
Fantastical, Unique Photography
Cara and Nye, aka Lillian and Leonard were our Photographers. We saw photographs they had taken at a previous wedding at Crear, so hunted out their website and just knew that they were perfect for us. Also their reportage style of photography was ideal, as neither of us like posed formal shots, and were trying to avoid the typical wedding photos.
On the Wedding day itself (and subsequently) Glenn and I were bowled over by Cara and Nye; their delightful company, honesty, (diplomacy and tact!), sincerity, talent, calming influence, professionalism, creativity, hard work and effort. We are both overjoyed with the photo’s needless to say!