I am loving this week on Rock My Wedding, not only because of the seriously amazing eye candy but because of all of the reader comments we have received and all of the advice you share with each other.
What a bunch of gorgeous, kind and generous lovelies you all are 
So whilst we are in the the frame of mind to “share the love” as it were and dare I say get into a little bit of a forum debate, this post is about something that makes me MAD.
Like REALLY mad.
And do you know what that is?
It’s when I read articles or listen to small minded folk who harp on about the fact that getting married has some kind of detrimental effect on your bedroom antics.
Erm Hello? What utter crap.
NB: I say bedroom antics but they could occur in the kitchen/bathroom/living room/garden shed/caravan/fancy hotel balcony/neighbours garden shed ……delete as appropriate…….just trying to cater for everyone!
Never have I felt sexier than I do now – knowing someone wants to spend the rest of their life with me, body hang-ups and all.
So rather than wallow in some kind of ” I may as well just become an old married frump and not even care about my appearance” type depression I have gone ahead and done the opposite. Looked at it as an opportunity to invest in some sexy undergarments and really make the most of my youth/gorgeous husband/general loved-up ness.
Just because I walked down the ailse it doesn’t mean I am going to reside myself to a life of grey holey panties and a distinct aversion to a razor.
Humph.
( see! see how mad it makes me!)
Thing is though, although I want to do sexy I also want to do practical (Lordy – hope that doesn’t sound incredibly yawn worthy) ……
What I mean is…. is that although I love a bit of lacy balconette and see-through sheer as much as the next person, I want to keep my undercover-lover-sex-kitten to myself ( and my man obviously) so that calls for smooth lines, a perfect fit and not something that pushes my C cups up to my chin.
First stop?
Why ladies, good old Marks and Sparks of course.
Something Blue
Contrast Ribbon from the Ceriso range, also available in black and scarlet shades ( I took the blue on holiday last week, went down ahem…. rather well) Bra £10.00 Panties £4.00
Tulip Embroidered from the Portfolio range, Bra £20.00 Panties £9.50
Rich Spot design from the Per Una range, Bra £14.00 Panties £6.00
And where to next then…..
Why Figleaves of course, the on-line mecca for all things pretty in the world of undies.
Something Floral and Fancy
No Romeo in the “Check Me Out” ( appropriate!) design, Bra £11.20 Panties £6.00
D & G ( might be my favourite of the lot) in “Winter Bloom“, Bra £29.50 Panties £25.50
6ixty 8ight in “Metropolis“, Bra £14.40 Panties £8.00
And I must point out these are IN THE SALE
woo!
So what I want to know is folks – are you in agreement with me? Are you/going to be THE sexiest wife on the planet?
I want to hear your RMW reader thoughts and of course all about your favourite purchases.
In light of keeping the blog above board and not too racy…. let’s keep it clean ladies.
Although that doesn’t exclude a little bit naughty.
Big Undercover Love
Charlotte xxx
Woo – I so agree! It seems to a particular common ‘joke’ amongst men too, that as soon as they get married, that’s it – death to the sex life. I reckon it will be completely the opposite for precisely the reasons you describe Charlotte – what better feeling than being in a complete loved up state of newlywedded bliss?!
On the topic of underwear, I popped into Monsoon lately – in their sale they have about five different gorgeous sets – worth a look I reckon!
xx
Excellent point, very eloquently made!
Personally, as a newly-newlywed, I feel a sense of total contentment that wasn’t there before, which in turn makes it impossible not to feel totally relaxed and utterly gorgeous all the time! Leading to a very happy, very loved up Mr and Mrs!
Although I have to add, as it gets my knickers in a twist (!) every time someone says otherwise, if you don’t go at it like bunnies all night on the wedding night- it’s not the end of the world! I hadn’t really given it too much thought beforehand, I think we both assumed we just would! But we were sooooo tired and more than a little tiddly and an hour of snuggling on the sofa before we went to bed was just what the doctor ordered! Just make sure you make up for it the next day…and the next day….!
My underwear drawer is full of Freya, FrostFrench (for pretty!) and the wondrously good value La Senza… And I echo PippyPoppys pointer to the Monsoon Sale lingerie!
Oh and Charlotte…the neighbours garden shed…?!?! Really?!
X
What a lovely post for a sunny sexy Saturday. I think it’s also to do with feeling good about oneself, whether in a relationship or not. I was single for a long time but would always wear pretty underwear be waxed for me. It’s lovely now to share that with S but it’s still also for me. My latest excuse for purchasing new undies is as part of S’s birthday/christmas gift for him and I love receiving undies from him too. Good post as ever x
Hi girls!
PippyPoppy I know – the men at my “day job” made that joke on several occasions just before I got married, and I know it is a “joke” but there is an underlying thread of they think it’s the truth!
I’ll be checking out Monsoon
Aisling – ha ha ha! Can’t say I have ever visited the neighbours garden shed but I’m sure some folks might have
Goodness I must check out Frost French!! and yes you are quite right too about W-day night, in the real world I’m sure most of us were completely knackered and worn out.
What’s one night when you have the rest of your lives anyhow?
Charlotte xxx
Rachel – sorry Hun, you must have posted as I was typing my response.
You are TOTALLY right, it is about feeling good about yourself and it is ALWAYS about doing it for you as well as him indoors. I was single for a year or so before meeting James and I still indulged myself in pretty things because I liked them and wanted to feel like I was making the effort for me.
Plus my Nan always said “Charlotte, always wear nice underwear, you never know what situation you may get yourself into that means someone else will see it!”
To this day I’m not sure whether she was implying I should be a naughty minx or that I may end up in the whole “tripped and broke my ankle/leg/arm” must go and strip at A & E in front of hospital staff type scenario!!!
Charlotte xxx
Oooooooooooo I love the D&G one! I may have to go a check Figleaves out this afternoon but generally you can’t go wrong with good old M&S. Agent Provocateur have a good sale on too at the moment & I have invested in a couple of pieces for the honeymoon
I work in a very male dominated environment (~5% are women!) and the amount of comments and ‘advice’ that I’ve received about the bedroom antics post wedding is amazing! Apparently I must work extra hard to keep him indoors just as pleased.
Ha! Me thinks not. The feeling of being 100% loved up & comfortable in ourselves and with each other will always ensure the bedroom is a very very very happy place.
My grandma always use to say the same too!! Very good advice though as you just never know xx
Am now very much looking forward to the loved up blissed out totally contented newly we’d feeling…thanks ladies!
Fx
As always I totally agree with you Charlotte I’ve had all the comments and I do get fed up with it. It’s like as soon as you are married they think you are going to turn into an old unattractive woman.
xx
I have always wanted pretty sexy underwear it didnt matter if I was in a realationship or not. If you feel good and sexy you look good and sexy. I know I will always want to make an effort for my husband and in return I hope he will always want to make an effort for me!
freya is a favourite of mine as their bras always fit me perfectly, I love frost french designs but they dont do my bra size
I work in an office full of older women who take great delight me in informing me of the apparent pitfalls of marriage when it comes to romance and sex! Sigh. But, I have far too many gorgeous dresses. hot shoes and a gorgeous husband to be to let myself go!
With my birthday coming up, I think I will pop this under The Boys nose xxx
Love this post….have just gotten back from seeing/trying on MY dress for the first time and as i’ve got to wear this Ultimo ever-so-handy-for-adding-curves-but-totally-vile-to-look-at frontless backless unsexy body, I took myself off to Myla in Sloane Square and have purchased THE most gorgeous of underwear sets to slip into either the night of our wedding – or wear the night after (realistically!)
And Peter Jones/John Lewis have some GORGEOUS Princess Tam Tam and La Perla ivory sets in the sale for absolute bargainous prices.
xxx
My new underwear love is Frost French. Unfortunately, while their regular bras fit me perfectly, the one I REALLY want(http://www.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/prod_10001_10001_161010252394_-1?breadcrumb=Home%7EDesigners) just doesn’t want to fit me!
I went and got fitted for a bra the other week in M&S for the first time in YEARS, and found I’ve been wearing the wrong size forever. What a perfect excuse to buy a whole new underwear drawer! I’m unstoppable at the mo – can’t stop buying undies and makeup!
I personally love it when people who haven’t seen me for a while say “being married obviously suits you”. Of course it does, you berk, I’ve just married my best friend! Plus, I’ve kept up the easier bits of the pre-W day Gestapo Beautifying Regeme, like regular manicures and eyebrow shaping. So I feel all sexy and wifey and content.
Undies-wise, it’s all about Bravissimo for practicality and gorgeousness and they do one hell of a comprehensive fitting – including making you bend over in your new bra and shake your bits to make sure you don’t get the dreaded “four boob” syndrome!
ooooh i LOVE underwear – i actually only ever wear matching sets, as i completely agree with Charlottes nan, i found myself in a bit of bad situation – all i could think about was thank GOD i am in matching underwear!!!!
We’re both looking forward to the wedding night (or morning, and i have got some gorgeous underwear for that)
I love Elle Macphearson, and tend to always shop at figleaves….. x
I can understand the basis for the “marriage kills sex” jokes in that any long-term relationship is going to settle into comfortable routines and that’s usually the death knell of an enjoyable sex life.
That said, it’s certainly not a de facto truth that just because you’re married you don’t have sex (and enjoyable sex at that), so I can see why it annoys you.
It’s like anything isn’t it, if you want to have an enjoyable sex life then you have to work at keeping it interesting for both parties. I speak as someone who has been with the same woman since we were 16 and who once ate an entire jar of chocolate body paint whilst sitting in bed with my Mrs watching Jaws. Now that’s keeping things spicy.