You may recognise the lovely Luci from her Gravatar image as a regular commenter and supporter of Rock My Wedding, Luci actually entered our “Real Bride” competition way back when and although she didn’t “win” she still wanted to share her beautiful big day with the RMW community. And we’re so glad she did, her account is honest, witty and heartfelt.
This is a super SUPER pretty affair with accents of grey, pink and ivory and a few little Alice In Wonderland touches….and boy did this lady sure have an amazing day – you can tell by the almost permanent cheshire-cat grin she’s sporting.
Luci and Keiron were married at Riverdale Barn in Yateley, Hampshire.
I feel like a real “old married” sitting in my dressing gown and typing right now, but to all you unmarried ladies I say this….BELIEVE THE HYPE. Everything people harp on about is annoyingly true.
Yes- it goes by so quickly; True- on the day you couldn’t care less about the place settings …and…you’d better believe it….getting married to the love of your life is ABSOLUTELY THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO. Here is my story.
We were married on the 28th May 2011 at Rivervale Barn, Yateley, Hampshire. We chose the barn for the stunning beams and chapel-like feel with space. The light just poured in and felt good for the soul!
I honestly woke up on the morning after my wedding feeling dreadful. I was told by my married friends that the last week of “wedmin” is a doddle after the previous months. Wrong. Thanks in part to the Met Office iPhone APP I had turned into a precipitation-obsessed demon and was stressing big time. I had also had a bad night’s sleep and had truly burnt the candle at both ends that month. But when I put my foot out of the bed that all changed. My wedding day was here! Dreamy.
My hair was done by the lovely Jess at Aveda, my local hairdressers and I did my own make-up. I had a few hideous hair and makeup trials, one in which the artist herself admitted she made me look like a “Polly Pocket”. Not exactly the look I was going for! I decided to stick with what I knew and felt happy with that on the day.
My headband was from the delicious Flo and Percy and the petals on the band mirrored those on my dress….Ahhh, my dress! After a mammoth hunt I found Coppelia by Ian Stuart at the fantastic Mamfii bridal. Truthfully, there were about 6 dresses I could’ve ended up having, but just one that made me giggle! I loved how the fabric was so light and girly but the distressed, imperfect- looking flowers gave it an edge. A girly dress with balls!
My shoes were the only bit of bling I really had on the day. I am not really a shoe girl (gasp!) and couldn’t bear the thought of being uncomfortable on the day and not able to dance. I trawled websites and developed a healthy loathing for most “wedding” shoes. By chance I found some sparkly ballet slippers from Anthropologie in the US a few seasons back. I loved being able to flash them at people or keep them a secret!
My Favourite Part
My favourite part of the day was the ceremony. I walked down the aisle and couldn’t help getting a frog in my throat when I clapped eyes on Keiron. He kissed me and said “you look amazing”. We had written our own vows and chosen readings that we absolutely loved. Full of emotion, laughter and love… there is not a second I would change.
My adult bridesmaids wore French Connection Maxi dresses picked up in the sale with a vintage pink hair flower.
My flower girls had dresses from Monsoon in a similar pinky colour. Keiron wore a dark brown 3 piece suit from Slaters and a stunning Marc Wallace shirt. I originally wanted him in a top hat, but when he tried one on we wet ourselves laughing as he looked like a character in Downton Abbey!
Never Walk Alone
Our flowers were done by the extremely talented Sue at Lavender Hill . She just got what we were after straight away and filled the barn with sweet avalanche roses, peonies and fragrant herbs. As my Dad died 11 years ago I was keen to have some memory of him on the day without making it morose. Sue stitched my Dad’s pocket watch to my bouquet. Although I walked down the aisle on my own, I was far from alone, really. Thank you, Sue.
An Elegant Wonderland
We settled on some vintage, elegant decor with a modern twist. Alice in Wonderland little touches were a thread throughout the day too, without being too “in your face”. Our table planner was made ourselves. Each guest had a key with an “Alice” character on depicting their table. Guests also tried their keys to win some champers. We had little bags full of colouring, outdoor games and toys for the children and of course, a sweetie bar. I know you’ve seen it a bazillion times before, but…so?! If it works, why re-invent the wheel? The kids (and the adults) were very happy bunnies!
Pinched shamefully from several wedding blogs, we made our own “Madlibs” for guests to fill in throughout the reception. It went down very well, although some of our guests were so rude we had a hard job picking a winner that didn’t need censorship!
I Love The Groom
Our evening celebration had a relaxed, happy vibe. I’d put badges with phrases like “The bouquet is mine” from Cox and Cox in the loo’s. They went down a storm! I wore one saying “I love the Groom” with pride! We had a photo booth with moustaches, chalk boards and top hats which people took to the dancefloor. We gave our Flower Girls Ragdolls with personalised sashes and our Page boys had personalised silver VW Camper moneyboxes that they played with throughout the night.
Our cake was from Cake Indulgence and each tier was a chocolate combo, such as chocolate and mint, chocolate and raspberry. We chose it purely on taste grounds, as soon as Keiron tried a sample at a wedding fayre he snapped it right up.
Rocking The Dance Floor
We danced to an obscure Morissey track called “Sweetie Pie”, chosen by Keiron. When I first heard it I was totally taken aback by the lyrics, they are so poetic and talk of loving someone so absolutely. We’d learnt some dance steps and decided to do a make-shift waltz. My oldest school friend, Anna Neale is a musician and she did a great job of rocking the evening.
Advice From A RMW Bride
I’ve actually been thinking really carefully about this section as it’s something I always looked at in the run up to my day. I actually have 3 bits of advice…
1.Surround yourself with people that you love and that genuinely care about you. Sadly, one person who I trusted hurt me on the wedding day and I should’ve known better. Although in the end it didn’t spoil the wedding at all, it came pretty close for a minute there and was just so silly. Please choose wisely.
2.If you have the chance spend the flight to your honeymoon with a pad, a piece of paper and your husband. Write down all the mental snapshots and conversations you had on the day. I am SO glad we did because I looked back on it last week and had actually forgotten tiny snippets of detail. We were on our flight to Italy giggling about the smallest things and it definitely made the wedding feel longer.
3.And finally …eek out every last second! I was partying ’til the wee hours in my wedding dress and a black top hat! You only do it once so make sure you are bursting with happiness, smiling like your face will break until you have nothing left to give. Never forget how lucky you are and why you’re there. Thanks so much to the RMW team who gave me the confidence to do it my way! I don’t think I’ve ever been happier.
Photography – Neale James
Brides Gown – Ian Stuart at Mamfii Bridal
Brides Headpiece – Flo and Percy
Florist – Lavender Hill
Venue – Riverdale Barn
Bridesmaids Dresses –French Connection
Cake – Cake Indulgence
One of the smiliest brides ever. Fact.
And I have already given Luci a good grilling on her perfect pink blush – Benefit’s Posetint topped with Benefit Dandelion apparently….
It’s also touching to hear that Luci’s favourite part of the day was the ceremony, as lovely as details and decor are (and they are) that for me at least, holds the most memorable moments .
Big Luci Love