Hello again all you lovely brides out there, today I’m talking details..starting with favours.
These have proved to be controversial for many… To give or not to give, after all, you are providing people with entertainment and food… So do you really need to give them a gift too? I have decided that to me there’s something special about a favour… It doesn’t have to be extravagant and it doesn’t have to be expensive… It just needs to remind you of the wedding, mean something to the couple and most importantly offer a little thank you to the guests.
This year we have been to six weddings, some had favours others not but there were two that really stood out. The first being a couple who gave a spoon, not just any spoon but a Welsh Love Spoon! If like me, you didn’t know the origins of these hand carved beauties here’s a bit about them courtesy of the classic website wikipedia:
“The lovespoon was given to a young woman by her suitor. It was important for the girl’s father to see that the young man was capable of providing for the family and woodworking.
Sailors would often carve lovespoons during their long journeys, which is why anchors would often be incorporated into the carvings.
Certain symbols came to have specific meanings: a horseshoe for luck, a cross for faith, bells for marriage, hearts for love, a wheel supporting a loved one and a lock for security, among others”
This was a lovely little gift to receive. Not only because we were in Wales and the bride was Welsh, but also it had a lovely meaning and every engraving meant something special to the couple, Jon and I came away very happy with our spoons and they serve to be a lovely memory of their special day! Here’s a pic of the beautiful bride and her bridesmaids I’m sure you’ll agree they all looked gorgeous and the groom scrubbed up ok too!
The second favour we adore and continue to use almost daily was from my childhood best friend’s wedding in April. Every detail of Hollie and Gav’s wedding was planned to perfection, the ceremony featured a Bjork song carefully arranged by Hollies Dad and Uncle, and the musical theme continued with Hollies dad singing in an impromptu Barber shop quartet during the speeches! When we took our seats we found a rolled tea towel, with our place name and a little card saying thank you pegged to it. It was the perfect favour for a village hall wedding and it served as a napkin on the day as well as being something we use all the time that remind us of the wonderful day we had celebrating a perfect wedding.
So, after convincing Jon of their importance (and getting them past the budget spreadsheet) we will be giving our guests something to take away with them… But do you think the happy memories alone are enough or are you planning to send your guests away with a momentum of your day… I would love to hear all your ideas!
So, I was about to get on to other little important details (like the card box, where to get confetti and pink stripy straws from for the reception drinks) when my bridesmaid Jade, chirps up and tells me she should write something…
So here you go – here’s an extract from a bridesmaids perspective…
“I am sitting here while Hannah writes her blog so thought I would contribute, being a bridesmaid I felt it was my duty to give an update from my side. Wedding talk is constant, never ending in my world when Hannah is here… I’m getting into trouble as I still haven’t chosen my shoes! For me I don’t see this as a fundamental problem, the wedding is 5ish months away however in Hannah’s world this is causing pain. So I’ve set myself a challenge of sorting this in January so she doesn’t have to worry about my footwear on the biggest day of her life. Anyway, I’m feeling I’ve stolen too much of this blog and will pass you back to Hannah…”
So after thinking I had been supressing my bridezilla tendencies (and resisting the urge to tell her there’s actually only 129 days to go!) Jade has thrown it all out there for you all to see… But I’m a detail girl – what can I say!
How much detail are you going to or are you seeing the bigger picture and keeping it that way!? Or perhaps you have a groom that’s a stickler for detail… Or like Jon, one that doesn’t get why colour co-ordinated toiletries in the venues bathroom and matching socks for the ushers are a must! Love to hear your thoughts… And please reassure me I’m not the only one out there!
Until next time..Han x
P.S Hope you all have fabulous Christmases…and Partyful New Years…my next instalment will be in 2013… Did I mention that’s the year I’M GETTING MARRIED!?! xx