Well hello there! This second post has come round quite fast!
In my last post I talked about my amazing photographers, Ten21, because I had chosen them before I had a man to marry. So I thought today I would bite the bullet and talk about the big one, because it was the first thing I put money down on…before we even had a date…:
I have heard so many simple stories of ladies finding ‘The One’; it was the first one you tried on or the 101st and there was a glowing light emanating from you along with a chorus of angelic hallelujahs and weeping friends and relatives. No?! This didn’t happen to you?! Hmmm. It did?! I am jealous. I don’t have the most romantic or entertaining dress finding story but (like all things with me apparently) it is a little ridiculous.
Well it all goes back to my final year at uni where I shared a flat with 4 amazing girls. Conversation with us five always seemed to end up on the topics of boys, babies and wedding and it was during these conversations (and serious planning) I found my dress online. A gorgeous Caroline Castigliano gown with lace and sleeves!!!! To get to uni I didn’t quite have to walk past the Edinburgh Boutique, but I may have sneaked past a few times and man that was a gorgeous shop!
So when I got engaged I looked the dress up again and found out that the Leeds Boutique was having a sample sale as they were closing down, and I just so happened to be visiting a friend in York so this seemed to be fate. However I decided to go to a local shop because I didn’t want to buy the first dress I tried on = sense. Going with no idea of a budget and no idea what was reasonable for a wedding dress = silly. I grabbed a friend and went to Perfect Bridal Rooms and Emma, who looked after us, was lovely, really knowledgeable and helpful. I knew the shape and style that I wanted, the kind of material I liked, however I was also willing to try on anything that was suggested and was pleasantly surprised how amazing I looked in totally different dresses, especially the figure hugging ones; which I wouldn’t normally go for. I went away with a short list of two dresses: the dress that was pretty much my wish list; and one that was the total opposite. Emma at the shop said I had the most comprehensive idea of what I wanted of any bride she had met (I take that as a compliment). Did you know what you wanted from day one and find it? Or were you (and your guest) surprised with what you went for?
The following week we went back still with no real clue how much everything cost and what was normal I was lured into look at the beautiful designer expensive dresses. Emma knew exactly what I wanted by now and after a few dresses picked out the most beautiful Suzanne Neville dress. I don’t think I had a ‘the one’ moment but I just knew that none of the others compared! It was no surprise to me that I in love with an expensive dress because of the material I love and who doesn’t love what they can’t afford?!
I Even Crossed The Border For A Gown!
So with that in mind I crossed the border to England to be informed that I had been beaten to buying my dream dress by an hour (!!). However even though they were shutting down they were offering to make the dress for a reduced price. So even though she knew she probably shouldn’t have the lovely lady in the boutique let me try on the dress anyway and man, the dress was not what I imagined! It did not suit me at all! To add to that the lovely lady very politely informed me that my more than ample bosom was never going to fit in to a sample dress and that I would need some special thing to measure said bosom to ensure the dress they made fitted. I tried on some beautiful dresses and was informed that there is a difference between a lady shopping for a dress and a bride shopping for her gown! I loved that!
So anyway I wavered over a few dresses there but after a few G&Ts, in the end I ran home and got my mum to see the dress I had fallen in love with at home. The gown that I just couldn’t get out of my head and put down a deposit!!! Now you may presume that I had the glowing hallelujah crying mum moment that confirmed the dress. No no! I had the ‘I hope you know we ain’t paying that much for that’ moment with mum. It was the fact that my stubbornness came through and said I don’t care I am buying it anyway that confirmed it was the one for me.
One thing I have heard of is dress blindness. Where you try on so many white dresses you can no longer tell them apart. I mean when I first walked into the shop and saw all these Gowns hanging up I just had no idea where to start! So once you have tried on a few it is hard to remember which ones you liked and why. But 4 months into our engagement I had wedding blindness! I had looked at so many venues, so many blogs, so many gorgeous and different Real Weddings: including RMW’s own Lolly’s wedding which made me want to drop everything and copy! So many ideas were pinned on my Pinterest that I no longer knew what my opinions were. I mean I loved the glamorous wedding, I loved the rustic weddings, I loved the homemade weddings, I loved traditional weddings but I also loved the modern contemporary weddings AND the vintage wedding!!! RMW you confused me with all your pretty!
So what did I want?! I had to work this out. We were originally planning for an August 2013 wedding and I had planned out a summer wedding at Coos Cathedral: completely blank canvas; amazing converted cow steading. RMW featured a wedding at Coos which you can see here. It is an awesome relatively unknown venue, but when we started looking to move our wedding to March/April 2014 the possibility of snow filled us with dread and this blank canvas just seemed like too much work and too much of a risk for us and was working out more expensive to do everything ourselves.
So again we were back to square one. What did we want? What could we afford? Rustic country barn? Or glamorous Scottish historic castle? Modern chic hotel? Or anything in between?! Did anyone else feel this? Or did you always know from the off what your day would look like?
Tell me some tales of how you found your gown. Was it the first you tried on? Did people cry? Did it take you 12 shops and 492 dresses? How far did you travel? Halfway round the world…Sophie?
x x x