Good afternoon folks, Adam here.
Tabitha is the last of our new crop of RMW Real Brides (we chose them all the ways back in May – how time flies). Good things come to those who wait though, so now I will finally hand you over to Tabitha.
Give her a big warm polka dotted welcome.
Well hello there you lovely bunch of people
I think I might still be a little in shock that I am an actual Rock my Wedding Real Bride, I never in my wildest dreams thought that we would even make it to the next stage when I entered! All that being said, I am so flipping excited that we’ve been given this opportunity to share our day with you all and one of the best things about it is getting to meet the other beautiful Real Brides. They’ve already been a source of great advice and I can’t wait to get to know them more!
So he only went and put a ring on it…
I’m sure our story isn’t a particularly unusual or different one but I guess to us it’s the most important story of all! So if you don’t mind, I thought I’d bore you all a little bit with it. Our first date was in a little Thai restaurant in the centre of Nottingham. I can’t even explain how nervous I was, I think maybe my subconscious knew that this one was special. Chris has since admitted that he thought he’d completely messed it up, but the truth was, I was just so incredibly shy and nervous, I’m not sure I’d ever felt like that before. So the end of the date loomed and it was time to say goodbye, and I did the most un ‘me’ thing and landed him a great big fat first kiss in front of the Trent Barton bus I was just about to jump on (luckily the driver patiently waited for us to finish). The look on Chris’ face was complete and utter surprise, I’m pretty sure he was waiting to be let down gently. So the rest, as they say, is history! From then on we were just ‘us’, we never had ‘the’ conversation, we didn’t really need to, I guess we both just knew. So fast forward 7 years and here we are, soon to become husband and wife and as much as I love all the planning I just can’t ruddy wait to marry his socks off!
He popped the question while on holiday in Croatia, and it was the perfect! There were no big crowds or public displays; it was just me and him on top of the city walls of Dubrovnik with the most beautiful backdrop and I can’t wait to return one day to relive it! So here’s us, about two minutes after he proposed, please ignore the red, sweaty faces, it was really REALLY hot that day. If I’d known what he was up to, I would have made more of an effort!
Setting the scene
I’d never really thought about what my wedding would be like before I got engaged, that might sound a bit strange and of course I’d thought about marrying Chris many times before, but as to any details of how the day would be, I had no idea! So as you do, I turned to the interweb and was quickly plunged into the unknown world of wedding blogs and that’s how I found Rock my Wedding and my new obsession began! I soon realised this was an opportunity to let my creativity go wild, that a wedding could be much more than I thought and that this was OUR wedding and it was ok to do it exactly how we wanted!
We quickly realised that the most important thing to us was that we had a really relaxed day, with lots of good food, drink and music (but with a lot of the pretty added in of course)! We decided on Rutland, it’s pretty much located in the middle of our two family homes and we LOVE Rutland water, and have spent many a happy a time walking around it. Our ceremony will be held at Oakham Castle, and I know what you all might be thinking ‘that doesn’t look much like a castle’ well I agree, but according to the lovely people there and their fact sheets, it is!!! The hall is decorated with around 240 horseshoes given by royalty and peers to the Lord of the Manor, it was customary to do so on your first visit (I was a little bit worried as I’d always been told to hang them the other way as it’s bad luck, but apparently not – this the proper correct way…so who am I to argue). So there you go, history lesson over!
The wedding reception is going to be at the Fox and Hounds in Exton, which is possibly the cutest village I have ever seen. We’re hoping to have a drinks reception on the village green and then make our way to the marquee for some yummy food! We’ve revisited the pub a few times now, and each time I love it more. What we love the most though, are Sandra and Valter who run it. He is Italian and makes the yummiest food with a mix of Italian and British influences and they are quite possibly the nicest people on the planet! More than that though, they made us feel so welcome and are so enthusiastic about our wedding that we immediately felt in safe hands. From then on in I learnt the very valuable lesson of finding good suppliers that we trust and are enthused about being a part of our wedding, I’m thinking it will make the run up to the big day a bit more relaxed knowing we’re in their capable hands (that’s the plan anyway)!
I must admit, I never imagined myself having a marquee. When anyone said the word marquee to me, all I could think of was traditional and faffiness (is that a word? probably not), which is still very beautiful but just not what I had imagined for my own wedding. But then Rock my Wedding struck again and I found inspiration from the many gorgeous marquee weddings I see on here, that they are basically a blank canvas to let your imagination run wild on! We’ve searched high and low for a marquee and I think we’ve finally found one that we want to go with; I will share all when it’s all sorted!
So now we have a big white tent, we need things to fill it with. We’ve been hitting our local flea markets, vintage markets (the Vintage and Antiques Market in Bath is great if any of you are down this way) and charity shops and have already collected a fair few items for W day. I’m trying to make sure that everything we buy is something that we can decorate our house with afterwards or give to friends and family. I’ve also got some very exciting DIY projects planned, I’ve started a few but I just need to get my bum into gear and actually DO them. Our wedding planning is going to be a real family affair, I’m very lucky to have an insanely talented family! My lovely Grandma is going to make our cake (she’s famous for them!), my equally as lovely Godmother is making our favours, and my bridesmaids don’t know what’s about to hit them! I can’t wait to share it all with you!
Finding the other ‘one’
This is probably going to be quite a small paragraph because in short, I haven’t even started looking for my dress yet hahaha! Which I’ll admit is starting to make me panic a little bit, or maybe even a lot! This is partly because I didn’t want to find it too soon. I know myself too well and I would just worry and worry and scour the web for other dresses to make sure I’d made the right choice, but also partly because I’m a little bit scared of wedding dress shops! Anyway, I have my first appointment on Saturday (so I’ll have been by the time you read this) so fingers crossed I find at least something that doesn’t make me look like a giant moose. Wish me luck
Tabitha’s Final Thought (as Chris likes to call it)
I’ve really enjoyed writing this first post. It’s been very therapeutic and lovely to take a step back and remember how it all began. I guess it’s so easy to become wrapped up in wedding planning and not to mention just general everyday life. So ladies, when you get home tonight I encourage you all to take a look at your h2b or new husband and remember all the reasons you said yes in the first place, the proposal, the first date, first kiss or whatever evokes those all important memories. So I got a little bit soppy there for a moment, but it’s always good to keep a bit of perspective I find!
So anyone else care to share there ‘how we met/first date’ story? It would be lovely to hear them! Also, please someone tell me they are completely disorganised like me and haven’t started the dress search, I hope I’m not the only one!
Lots of love and frantic waving!
P.S. Somebody pinch me please, I’m on RMW!! Heheeeee x