A conversation with Mr Gossip Girl, aka our Adam, late one afternoon not so long ago at RMW HQ was the inspiration for this post.
You see folks, I’d been talking about the speech that I’ll be giving at my wedding later this month and was pointing out how I’d noticed that more and more brides were choosing to say something of their own on their big day when Adam turned to me and asked ‘when did you know you were going to marry Ste?’
Momentarily I was taken aback. It’s not a topic that anyone has ever quizzed me on and I suppose I was protective of my response to his question. That said, I had no real problem with answering him truthfully.
‘Three months in’ was my reply.
Admittedly, this does sound a little bit crazy. I’m sure for some of you the beginnings of my relationship with the boy sound a little ‘intense’ shall we say. But it wasn’t like that.
I’m happy to concede that the radiant glow of the ‘honeymoon’ phase of any relationship does make you see life through rose-tinted glasses rather than being guided by the cold light of day. And accompanying this optimistic, hedonistic, bubble of love can be some impolitic decision making.
Despite the lovey gloopiness however, I just ‘knew’ he was the one for me. And when you know, you just ‘know’, don’t you.
Know what I mean?
Was it like that for you? At what point in your own relationship did you start entertaining the thought of marriage? One month in? Six? Three years? Perhaps it didn’t even cross your mind until he was on bended knee thrusting a glittering ring towards you.
Which brings me onto the second part of this post…
Or perhaps more accurately your proposal.
If you did consider the idea of marriage to your beau before the proposal transpired then it most likely follows that you thought about how your beau would ask for your hand in marriage.
I know I did.
There were a gazillion different imagined scenarios – all completely different from the last. It wasn’t important to me really where the proposal took place nor was it imperative for Ste to include any grand gestures (although I secretly love reading other couple’s amazing proposal stories).
For me it was all about the emotion invested in the act. And boy did he come good.
So what I’d really like to hear all about is your proposal adventures.
Were they as magical as you expected? Did you even allow yourselves to imagine how they would pan out? Perhaps you shared your ideal engagement scene with your other half first. Maybe you didn’t.
Did you even discuss the concept of marriage before he popped the question?
And just how important was it to you for him to ask your dad for your hand in marriage?
As always lovelies, we want to hear your thoughts.
All my love Lolly xxx