Today, rather than blogging, I would like to go on a journey in a VW camper van please. I’d like the weather to be sunny if at all poss and I’d like to get out and have a bit of a frolic in the countryside for a bit.
I wonder where I got that idea from…
A Rustic Feel
Even though we live in Sussex and could have found somewhere closer to home we just felt Lains Barn had a wonderful rustic feel about it.
About 5 years ago I saw a singer wearing a lace tiered gown and had decided if we ever got married that would be my dress, I cut the picture out and kept it for future references. As soon as we got engaged I went on a massive search for THAT dress! found and fell in love with one that was surprisingly similar it was called Marina/Margaret by Henry & Michelle Roth, unfortunately they don’t sell their dresses in the UK but through the wonderful world of Twitter we managed to contact Henry Roth and after a few tweets he even offered to bring me a dress to the UK on his next visit. Unfortunately timing wasn’t on my side and I wouldn’t have had the dress in time… What a shame as what a brilliant dress story that would have been for me to tell
The dress I finally chose was not at all what I had in mind to wear as it was quite plain in comparison to what I thought I always wanted, but after a struggle to find places that catered for plus size brides I came across Heavenly Bodies Bridal in Catford. The owner Patricia has a brilliant selection of dresses. Even though it doesn’t come with an amazing story I knew my dress was ‘the one’ when I put it on, stepped in front of the mirror and cried I didn’t expect a dress to make me feel like that. (Apologies for the long answer)
My dress was by Callista.
I bought two pairs of shoes… A comfortable pair of Satin Ivory heels from Evans and a very cute blush pink pair of ‘not so comfortable’ heels from Bespoke. I am ashamed to say the Pink didn’t get much use I definitely went for comfort over cuteness.
Simple And Pretty
My hair was styled by Danielle Musselwhite from Beauty Call, she was lovely and did a brilliant job. I had decided to wear my hair down as I am always taking the easy route and scrapping it back into a pony. I wanted it to be kept simple and pretty.
I am very fortunate to have a very lovely and talented beautician for a best friend (Claire Norburn) and she was kind enough to come along beforehand and make me feel all pretty for my special day We went out a couple of weeks before and had great fun buying an entire new makeup bag made up of lovely MAC products.
I kept the bouquets and buttonholes simple and went for Gypsophila. The Bridal bouquet had lace wrapped around the stem and a locket with a picture of my parents on their wedding day and my sister and I when we were younger tied around the top of it. I loved the idea of milk bottles so we went with milk bottles filled with Amnesia Roses, Vintage pink Hydrangea, Gypsophila and Hard Ruscus.
Our very wonderful florist was Ann Laing from Flower Craft, she took everything I imagined and made it happen.
No Designer Suit
The Groom, just like his best man, wore a three piece grey suit from Marks & Spencer. No designer suit, just a simple marks and sparks one but he was still the most amazing and handsome man there… Our nine year old coming a very close second of course.
My sister is a wedding photographer and someone who I really admire and I love her photos, seeing her work had really opened my eyes to wedding photography and how important it is to have – so that your memories of the day are captured and kept forever.
The quest was on and thanks to Debs we found Caro Hutchings – what a gorgeous person and amazing photographer. Thank you Caro for being there and working so hard to give us the photos that we are really proud of and will cherish always.
Might As Well Face It I’m Addicted To Lace
After planning this wedding my husband has decided I am addicted to lace. I wanted lace EVERYWHERE so where better than the cake. I came across The Pretty Cake Company whilst researching local cake makers near to the venue, and there on their website was our cake… I fell in love straight away and as long as it was chocolate Adam would be happy. Three Tier, ivory icing with a lace effect design. To me it had a very old fashioned and traditional wedding cake look about it.
I became a bit obsessed with the music. I love music and all kinds of it, and every memory, every moment in our lives has a theme song or background music to it… Well, in my head anyway! We decided on having a DJ and also someone who would play the music from the ceremony to the final song of the evening. Steve from Oxfordshire Wedding Entertainment did just that and he was even happy for us to do our own playlist of what songs we wanted.
Our first Dance was You & Me by Lifehouse. We already had a song that reminded us of when we first met (Method Man Ft Mary J Blige – All I need) however we really didn’t think that it would be appropriate for the day
I am a Lifehouse fan and this song came on when we were looking and we just knew it was perfect for us, in fact since the day we decided to Dance to it You & Me has become ‘our song’
Glass Coke Bottles
We went a little mad with the wedding favours. I love it! Every time there is a party, hen night, baby shower or anything! I think it needs favours. We had Glass Coke bottles on the table for name places. A candy Buffet from Elegant Wedding Creations, Vinyl look Music CDs with a few of our favourite songs and the songs that we picked for the wedding ceremony. The ladies also got to kick off their heels and dance the night away in a pair of flip flops!
We were lucky in that we didn’t have to do a lot of decorating to the barn; the barn itself was beautiful and had gorgeous ivory drapes throughout. I, my mother and my sister collected all of the lace tablecloths and other decorations in the run up to the wedding. I purchased some gorgeous doily bunting form an Etsy company called Princess Allure.
We always wanted to get married outside but unfortunately you are quite limited in the UK. About a month before we got married I had googled pictures of the barn and there were pictures of another couple that had recently just got married there… Outside!! I rang them up any yep they confirmed it – the well in the grounds was licenced to get married at. They haven’t advertised it before and didn’t mention anything to us when we booked so were so excited! Of course we had to wait to know for definite the day before as it would all depend on the weather. Luckily the sun shone and we got to have an outdoor ceremony. I think getting married outside is really what made our day a little different and special to us. Most importantly though was having our fab family and friends with us, some whom even came from as far as Australia and South Africa.
We wanted the feel of our wedding to be rustic but still keeping it pretty with a little touch of tradition – but mostly relaxed and fun.
If I had one piece of advice ot would be – enjoy every minute and try not to get too stressed out and make the most of all the planning and prep. Once it is all over with you will also miss it A LOT!
Venue Lains Barn
Boutique Heavenly Bodies Bridal
Flowers Flower Craft
Hair Beauty Call
Photography Caro Hutchings
Bunting Princess Allure
Loving the Gyp bouquets (check me out even knowing the cool nicknames for flowers…) and the glass coke bottles are a stroke of genius. Everyone knows that glass coke bottles are a little bit special and a little bit posh.
And the coke actually tastes better. FACT.
M&S cut a good suit as well don’t they?