It’s official, #thecheltenhamhouse has been transformed into Wedmin HQ. Most of our wedding suppliers were chosen and booked straight after we got engaged in May last year (I guess you’d expect that as one of us happens to be the Creative Director at RMW). So, the decisions were made early but lately it’s been ALL about choices.
After MANY Prosecco fueled wedding planning sessions we realised that we hadn’t asked our venue enough questions, even though we had visited twice before finalising the booking. So it was back to Elmore Court, this time with a written list of all the really important things we needed to know. Things like, can we dig a hole in the lawn and erect an archway as long as we promise to put the lawn back afterwards?.. Is there any way that we can get a grand piano nestled in-between those trees?.. Are there any external power points? It’s questions like this that you can easily forget to ask when you first realise that you have found ‘the one’. We also took some measurements for our florist Gemma at The Country Flower Company and took a few snaps to help us with the planning. We left Elmore with a warm feeling and ear to ear grins because Anselm and the team had found a way to accommodate all of our requests, as well as suggesting a few things we hadn’t thought of.
Some serious choices to be made here! We toyed with the idea of a completely digital invite but we both really love printed stationery and as yet there is still nothing onscreen that can compete with the look and feel of debossed rose gold foiled lettering on 300gsm uncoated stock (spoiler alert). We designed a very minimal physical invite, a single sheet of paper with an accompanying website through which our guests can view travel directions, book accommodation and most importantly RSVP.
The invites have now been popped in the mail and to coincide with that milestone event we needed to think about our wedding gift list, and I don’t think either of us realised how hard that would be…
The Wedding Gift List
Most people choose an online wedding gift list – when I’m a guest at a wedding I always enjoy having a browse through the gift list (or gift lists as there are often two). It’s as satisfying as having a nose at other peoples shopping at the supermarket check out only without the threat of being caught. Rock My Wedding has worked with The Wedding Shop for a while now so when it came to choosing our gift list provider it was one of the easiest decisions to make. I’ve met the team on many occasions and seen them in action, I’ve also visited their showroom in Chelsea – we know we are in safe hands!
We had a giggle (Prosecco fuelled again) as we set up our gift list page, you can personalise it with a message and upload a selfie or what ever you fancy to your lists homepage where you also see a countdown to your big day… Which is actually pretty frightening (!)
We found the process of actually creating a wedding gift list quite daunting. Firstly because you can literally pick anything. If an item you want is not listed on The Wedding Shop website simply find it elsewhere online and cut and paste the url onto your gift list page and the team at The Wedding Shop will add it to your list – thus removing the necessity to ever need more than one gift list. The other issue is that you do (or at least we did) start to feel a little greedy as the list of items began to mount up… We want people to know that we don’t expect to get everything, we just want to ensure our guests have a good selection to choose from! Also, for the same reason we have felt reluctant to add in too many high value items as we don’t want people to feel pressured into spending loads on us. Our friends have told us not to be silly but its a real dilemma – a political hot potato!
The Wedding shop does go some way to address all of these concerns, for example you can break down the cost of more expensive items so that people can contribute to them rather than buy them outright, there are also options for charity donations to ease any feelings of greed and we found the option to add honeymoon contributions is also a good alternative as you can set the contribution level or give your guests a few pricing tiers to choose from.
If you fancy having a nose at a few items on our list take a look at the gallery below… You’ll notice a bias toward kitchenware and this is because in amongst the madness of wedding planning we have also decided to remodel the kitchen… The justification for this is that the whole kitchen is costing roughly the same price as the wedding breakfast.
That’s Literally some food for thought.
If are in the mood for more window shopping the team at RMW have created our own wedding gift list inspiration.
That is all from us at the four months to go point. We’ll be writing again next month – there is still so much to talk about and so very little time!
For now though if anyone has any questions about choosing a venue, choosing wedding stationery (commissioning or creating your own), questions or experiences of gift lists (your own or others) then please do share in the comments section below.
Until next time,
Adam & Lizzie x