I am having shoe issues. In fact, the issues don’t actually lie with the shoes but with my feet.
Whilst only being 31 I have bunions on both of my feet, I also have something called clawed toes (though I like to call them Claude, sounds a bit more exciting/exotic)… basically it looks like my feet are holding on all the time.
Trying to find shoes that fit, look nice and are comfortable is not easy at the best of times. As I write this I am surrounded by shoes that I have bought that fitted but on the first wear tore my feet to shreds. I basically live in converse boots.
I am getting married in September and will be wearing a Candy Anthony dress, it’s a short dress and requires a “statement shoe”. In addition my groom is only a couple of inches taller than me and I can’t walk in high heels.
I bought some GLORIOUS shoes from Bespoke Big Day, the kitty with a 1.5″ heel and encrusted in purple glitter. They are so beautiful I nearly cried. I did indeed shed a couple of tears when I only managed to squeeze one foot in – it was fine whilst I was sitting but then when I stood up my little toe went numb. Waaaaah!
With a 12 week lead time on their shoes I contacted the ever helpful Rachel at BBD and I’ve ordered the next size up which will get to me in time for the wedding but I am exceedingly worried – what if they don’t fit?!
I’m not sure where to start looking for pretty shoes that are going to accommodate my Sasquatch monstrosities – I’m certain you don’t have the same affliction, I seem to recall you having gorgeous wedding shoes – but do you have any recommendations or advice?
It’s also worth noting that I’m a size 42 (8, 8.5, 9 depending on where you go) and whilst wide fit shoes fit the badboy bunions in they normally flap around like a dead fish because the rest of my feet is normal width.
Ho hum. Any advice is gratefully received!
Dear Claire (and Claude),
They can’t be that bad….? I laughed when you said your toes look like they are holding on all the time, I have a pair of old flip flops where my feet do the same!
Your options do sound pretty limited, although I have a good feeling about Bespoke Big Day coming up with the goods in perfect time – and I do believe my own Bespoke Big Day wedding shoes were indeed a size 42, and the perfect width still as my feet aren’t overly wide, just long! And do you remember me saying in my wedding report how I didn’t sport a single blister, despite doing the running man, moonwalking, AND hopping in them all night? It’s true, not a single blister! I went on honeymoon the next day with my newly pedicured married feet in tip top condition still. No gnarlyness at all.
Another alternative, is to find a shoe that is comfortable, then customise them to within an inch of their life so your end result is the statement shoe that you desire? This means trapsing round shops etc to find said shoe. But with the possibility of having them dyed to a statement colour (which they can do in John Lewis I do believe, someone correct me if I am wrong?) and adorning them with brooches/feathers/beads etc yourself you CAN end up with something magnificent, and totally bespoke!
Please remember, as much as we feel we have to look fabulous beyond reason (well, it is our wedding day right?) People won’t be looking down at your feet. You could change into converse if you felt the need and yes, you’ll be the kooky bride who wore Candy Anthony with Converse, but it’s your beautiful, smiling, happy face people will remember, and your eyes people will look into when they congratulate you (unless they are shifty and avoid eye contact, and then they will notice Claude in all their glory, but then really, who cares?)
Do you have something comfortable shoe wise in your wardrobe to practice customising, just so you have an idea of whether you could pull off a DIY shoe? I know it’s not ideal, with so many factors against you like height, dress length, and Clawed toes it’s a case of beggars can’t be choosers and drastic action must be taken. Oh how we big footed ladies envy those who can rock the spectacular killer heels on their big day! There is no reason, should the Bespoke Big Day shoe not be right in the bigger size, that you cannot pull off a case of Shoe Customisation! Be imaginative, be creative, and ask yourself – ‘What would Gok do??’ Channel your inner Gok and get cracking lady!
Oh and please, send us photo’s of you in all your wedding finery? I am head over heels in lust with Candy Anthony gowns, and I just know you will look INCREDIBLE!
Wishing you luck, if I were in the UK I would come and give you a hand – I love a customisation project!