This line from Pretty Woman sums up my underlying feelings about the topic of this post. In life, I have few regrets. So few I’m not sure I can name any… except one.
My wedding was amazing. Boy of my dreams (actual dreams…definitely dreamt about him once before I met him…true fact), everyone I loved in the same room at the same time and I’d never felt more confident in my own skin. Ever.
I chose my photographer very carefully. And I made the perfect choice for me. I am utterly in love with my wedding photos. So many moments captured that I didn’t even know existed, so much fun on the day, even in the horrible rain. My photos tell a story. The story of a day that started very chilled, both at my hotel and back at my apartment where Mr S got ready. Then there was his anxious face as he waited for me to walk down the aisle, our first kiss as husband and wife, lots of laughter, an abundance of food and finally lots of dancing. Friendships forged with photographers that will hopefully last a lifetime.
A day I will never forget for many many reasons.
But even having said that, I feel there is something missing from my memory.
How did I move in my dress? How did I sound saying my vows? What words did I actually say? How many times did I whoop? (because I guarantee I will have whooped a lot).
Yep, my main regret is not having any moving footage of my day.
It makes my heart cry.
And why didn’t I have someone there to film my day? Budget? Lack of thought? Was I really that bothered about it at the time being too wrapped up in everything else? Did I want to avoid some dated 1990’s fade in fade out rubbish?
The truth is I can’t really answer the question. I did look into it. For the videos I liked I was looking at adding around an extra £1500 to my total spend – an amount I hadn’t factored in to start with. But was it really budget that made me not follow through with my research? I can’t believe it was…if I’d have wanted it badly enough I’d have found the money, I could have spent less on something else, had a loan from the bank of Mom and Dad etc. Plus, for the quality of video I was looking at and the lasting memory it would give me, £1500 was pretty much a steal.
I just don’t know why we didn’t organise a videographer. I guess it just wasn’t high on my list of priorities, perhaps I thought about it too late. Perhaps Mr S wasn’t really as bothered as me. Perhaps it was all the talk of other couples who said ‘we never watch our wedding video’…but maybe that’s because their videos weren’t well made?
Whatever the reason, I deeply regret it. I regret not having that extra dimension. The other side of the story.
And now it’s too late.
I will cherish my photos forever and I often look through them and smile from ear to ear. But I’d love to be able to put that DVD into the PlayStation and see it differently.
I implore you to carefully consider having someone to film your day. The standard of wedding films today is incredible. They are exactly that, a film of your day, you on the big screen. We have some amazing suppliers on the Love Lust List if you’re unsure of where to start to find your videographer. I’d hate you to feel the crushing feeling I do each time I think about how much I wish I had a film of our day.
So, which camp are you in? Are you having someone film your day? Or do you think it’s a waste of money that you can spend on something else?
I’d love to hear your thoughts? and does anyone share my heartache at not having a film of their day? We can weep together (or alternatively plan a vow renewal and do it all over again?!).
Big regrets but still generally massively happy with everything about my day love,
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