Friends, the pre-wedding freak out has happened! I have been calmly gliding through this whole wedding journey so far exclaiming “I’m such a relaxed bride, will I ever feel the stress?” and truly believing that I never would due to my insanely organised approach to planning but I’ve now found out that even the most organised of people will experience “the fear” towards their impending nuptials. I’m not talking about marrying Scott…I’d do that tomorrow just the two of us if I could, I’m talking about HOW MUCH THERE IS STILL TO DO!
So much of wedding planning can’t be done until the final stages, so whilst you can sort our your venues and big suppliers way back when you first get engaged, it’s the details that cause the chaos. Now that our wedding is on the double digit countdown, I’ve realised just how infrequent our spare moments are and I did have a bit of a meltdown a few weeks ago about it all. Thankfully I sent out an SOS call to my wonderful bridesmaids who managed to soothe my soul and kindly offered to take on bits of the planning so that we don’t feel quite so overwhelmed by it all. I’ve taken to keeping my weekend activities in a spreadsheet which whilst terrifying (where is my life going?!) is really helping to keep me on task and laying out a great visual of what I need to do and by when…
The biggest saving grace I have found is taking time out (whether I still think this is smart two weeks out, only time will tell!) Just the other week I went on a trip to Barcelona with friends and one of them is a local. We had the BEST TIME EVER, and it was so great to be reminded about the important things in life. Friends, culture, beautiful places, cava, meeting new people, experiencing new things and taking the time to just stop and appreciate how amazing it truly is to be alive and adventuring. It also reminded me so much of why I am marrying Scott. He is my partner in adventure and I can’t wait to share all these moments with him for the rest of my life.
I truly have underestimated the impact that wedding planning has had…I never wanted to be “that bride” that lets it take over my life and every social conversation with it but…it does sweep you away and at times, I truly have felt overwhelmed by it. Don’t get me wrong, many parts of it I have enjoyed so much & I am sure I will be sad when it is all over, but there are times when I have felt completely worn down, frustrated and just completely, absolutely 100% over it. At some points if I could have magicked up the funds to come and have someone do it all for me, I would have in a heartbeat. Holding down a demanding full time job, a busy social life, an exercise regime as well as wedding planning is tough, no doubt about it.
My top tips for when it all gets a bit too much:
– Set it aside. Take a break from wedding planning – you don’t have to do it RIGHT NOW.
– Go on a break with your husband-to-be, friends, family…whoever, just do it.
– Ask for help…seriously just ask for it – I felt enormous guilt about giving my loved ones things to do as I didn’t want them to feel inconvenienced by our day, but it turns out that people really truly do love to help.
– Exercise…it’s not for everyone but there’s nothing a good sweat fest can’t sort.
– Make time (as much as you can) for non-wedding related down time. Massages, facials, the cinema, long dog walks, seeing old friends…whatever it is you’re doing, just try to take a break from thinking or talking about the wedding, it will do you wonders.
– Calming cups of tea and something that makes you happy: a book that you can’t put down, a brownie, a long hot bath, a glass of wine, buying yourself flowers…
– Make a budget, stick to it, and make sure to add a 10% contingency from the very start (a life safer, honestly)
Talking about budgets, I gave myself a goal at the beginning of the year which was a 100 day spending ban on clothes and make-up. I felt that this was a realistic time scale for quite a tough goal (dresses are my kryptonite) as when you say it out loud, 100 days doesn’t seem that long…of course it is, but that’s beside the point. It has made me so mindful of my spending habits and also allowed me to make those last minute purchases that I’ve learnt crop up before the wedding day that you haven’t truly factored in. The non-essentials, but highly desired finishing touches. In fact, I’m enjoying the fruits of this ban so much that I’m continuing it past day 100 indefinitely to see what else I can treat myself to before the year is through…
And as a wedding update…lately we have been (thinking about) DIY’ing our place names, sorting out confetti bags, stationery planning with our wonderpal Ellie and swooning over our custom made wedding day temporary tattoos (we absolutely cannot wait to see our friends & family using these on the day!) the tatts were designed by a lovely designer in Paris called MisterM studios and printed by the wonderful Tattyou they seem ever so appropriate and very “us” given our loves for body art (I have several tattoos, mostly hidden, whilst Scott has a colourful sleeve)
So, that’s it for this month…as I write this, the weekend ahead is my hen do!!!!!!!!!!!! OH.MY.GOODNESS.
See you on the other side,