This week’s inspiration post is a contentious one.
Contentious because what I’m about to show you has often divided folks into two camps – those that believe and those that don’t.
I’m talking about wedding favours folks.
For some of you, these dinky gifts are a sweet (and essential) way of demonstrating your thanks to your guests as well as continuing/supporting your wider wedding theme. For others they represent an unnecessary waste of a precious wedding budget that could really be more wisely spent elsewhere or donated to charity.
I can appreciate both sides of the argument. Honestly I really can.
I’ve attended several weddings this year – some bedecked with favours and some without. Whilst it was exciting to discover customised offerings left at our place settings, I didn’t feel that there was something missing at those weddings where they weren’t provided.
Perhaps this is because I understand the financial reasons behind not offering a favour. Maybe a favour-less wedding is swiftly becoming the norm with modern weddings. Either way I don’t feel bereft when I come away from a wedding without a little gift.
As a girl steeped in tradition and who has a penchant for Time Team however (incidentally I’m happy to accept any box-sets of the series if there’s any going spare) there was no doubt that I was going to include favours in the wedding budget. I’ve enjoyed hunting the most perfect examples of these gifts down and they’ll look amazing as part of the wider wedding decor.
In fact I spent much of yesterday sourcing the final touches for the favours and I’m confident that they’ll look fabulous; I can’t wait to share them with you.
In the meantime I wanted to show you gorgeous lot the variety of options available to you on the favour front.
It’s not just about sugared almonds you know…
The majority of favours that I’ve been the lucky recipient of have been food-related. You name it, I’ve had it – we’re talking macaroons, sweets, jam and honey, even sloe gin. All utterly delicious of course.
Hell, I even toyed with the idea of giving our guests one of those tea flowers that blooms when you pour water over it just because they look so pretty at a place setting. The boy put his foot down (AGAIN!) so we haven’t ventured down this path. Shame really – they would have looked epic!
The fact remains, I love a good food favour…
So, it seems, do a lot of modern brides.
Lately I’ve seen everything from flavoured salts, savory popcorn, cookies and milk, pears and even specially picked tea.
I so would have liked to have been a guest at each of these weddings.
Perhaps you’re having your nuptials at Christmas, if so why not provide your nearest and dearest with a homemade favour with a tin of a mulled wine mix and an individual mince pie. Alternatively if you’re having a summer affair, a tiny punnet of fresh strawberries would look adorable in a customised paper bag.
Foodie favours look particularly striking when stored en mass and can actually help form part of your overall wedding decor. Don’t feel obliged to place these treats at guests’ place settings, instead display them wherever you feel they will be shown off to their maximum advantage.
For example why not encourage your guests to sign your guestbook by placing your gifts for them next to it. They can express their love for you and pick up their token of affection in return, all at the same time.
Talk about killing two birds with one stone…
Created With Love
We’ve established that wedding favours are not necessarily top of every bride to be’s agenda. When you consider the financial cost involved in providing a gift to every guest at an average wedding then we’re looking at a fairly sizable sum of money so we understand why some prefer to by-pass this tradition altogether.
At RMW we’ve noticed that more couples are opting for double duty wedding favours, creating personalised treats for their guests that double up as a place name too. Not only is this kind on the pocket but folks then feel honoured that you’ve taken the time and effort to really provide something special for them on your big day.
For a truly unique and DIY approach think about customising the packaging of your favour or creating a unique twist on a classic such as a bespoke scented candle custom made by you and your beau.
If your wedding budget doesn’t quite stretch to providing a little something to each and every attendee why not assemble bespoke welcome packs for your most treasured guests particularly if they have travelled a long way.
You could include edible treats, a map, a bottle of something special and a list of recommended places to visit/ things to do all bundled together in a customised cotton bag and leave it in their hotel for them to discover on their arrival.
Exciting or what?!
Whilst we’ve covered the food favour already in this post, I did want to dedicate a special inspiration board to sweet and baked goods purely because there’s just so blinking many of them.
Cookies, cakepops, mini versions of the wedding cake, macaroons, lollipops, sweeties, cupcakes and chocolate bars, the list goes on and on and on.
If you’ve got a sweet tooth like me, then I’m sure that you will have let out a little squeal of glee when you discover a confectionery treat glinting at you as you take your seat at the wedding breakfast.
Ladies there are just so many options available to you that you’ll drive yourselves round the bend trying to choose just one. So take my advice, why not have them all…
No I’m serious. Here at RMW HQ we’ve noticed an increasing number of brides hosting a ‘food station’ on their big day as their gift to their guests. I love the idea of a ‘make your own midnight snack’ which could range from anything from s’mores to a popcorn bar.
Alternatively a dessert table is a wonderfully modern take on the traditional wedding favour too. I’d suggest stacking pre-wrapped cellophane packages of treats for guests to take away in case they’re still feeling a little full from earlier indulgences.
I think I’ve said in previous posts that I am the type of guest that keeps not only the invites but also the place name, order of service and any other paraphrenalia from the weddings I attend.
Yes I am a little bit odd.
Eccentric you might say, but the fact remains that I like to hang on to those things that have sentimental value, so that in years to come I can rediscover and relive the memories from the day.
You can see why then, my favourite gifts are those that you can keep forever or that at least possess a little longevity. We’re talking vintage hankies, miniature enameled pots and even tiny silver toys for those of you with a larger budget.
Modern brides are on the whole more socially conscious than their forebears. And with this improved moral compass comes a raft of eco-friendly wedding favour ideas. We’re seeing an increased use of recycled materials and natural components such as seed gifts in brown paper packages customised with a sweet message from the couple themselves.
My favourite keepsake though is of little plants bedded in terracotta or antiqued pots, lovingly placed at each table setting. Not only will they live on after the wedding day is long over but they’ll add interest and a vibrancy to the tablescape at the reception itself.
If that isn’t a reason to integrate favours into your day then I don’t know what is.
I’m a girl that loves details.
So I LOVE it when a couple really take time over how they choose to package a favour as much as the gift itself. In fact the key to a really successful gift owes a great deal to how it is presented because of the part this plays in the overall experience. The suspense, the intrigue, the care; we love it all.
So I implore you folks to really let your creative juices flow.
If your gift is a boxable or baggable affair, consider choosing a more unusual container to store it in. Using customised cotton pouches or even mini brown paper bags tied with raffia and string really take a conventional gift to the next level.
Alternatively, wrapping penny sweets or mini chocolate bars in luxurious paper and finishing them off with coloured string is a fantastic way of introducing a dollop of luxury to an everyday offering without breaking the bank – you can even colour code the packing materials so that it matches your wedding scheme too.
Lastly use decadent fabric and ripped strands of thick silk ribbons, interesting textures and colours for a luxe effect; contrast is always good too. Think about introducing your monograms in a sticker format as if you have one as a final touch.
So what do you think?
Are you giving your guests favours? Will they be food related or a DIY affair?
Or are you completely non-plussed by the favour agenda? Perhaps you think it’s all a waste of time.
As always lovelies, we want to hear your opinions on the matter.
All my love Lolly xxx