Home Is Where The Heart Is…

Bless her little cotton bridal socks…

That’s what I thought as I scanned my beady bloggers eye over Debbies’s wedding report. Not only had she provided a really emotive and detailed account of her big day, she had also given it her own title (usually a job for madame O’Shea or myself) and she even subtitled her report throughout, in true RMW style I hasten to add.

Well, it saved me a job! Thanks Debbie for giving me my first early night since I can remember!

Debbie is a true RMW girl – she did it her way (to paraphrase old blue eyes). For Debbie this meant getting married on her parents farm, the place where she had grown up. What could be be more perfect?

Craig from McBeth Photography was on hand to commit the fairytale to print…

There’s No Place Like Home.

For me it was never really a question of where to get married as I had always wanted to have a garden wedding at my parent’s farm surrounded by the beautiful countryside I had known all my life. Thankfully my parents were in agreement that hosting our wedding at home would be personal for all of us and allow us the freedom to create our day the ‘Wight’ way!

As soon as the decision was made to have the wedding at home my Mum & Dad developed green fingers like no other and the result by the 21st of July was a garden prettier than I could ever have imagined. Thankfully we were blessed with fair weather on our big day too (it rained all week leading up to it) and we were able to be married outside as planned. I was so pleased as this meant the garden, and all my parents hard work, could be enjoyed by everyone.

Andrew and I always we knew we wanted a relaxed ceremony which would reflect our own personalities and include our family and friends too. For this reason, we chose to have a humanist wedding as this gave us the opportunity to write the ceremony ourselves, with help and guidance from our celebrant Duncan Robertson of the Humanist Society Scotland, and say how we really felt about each other in our own words.


As the ceremony was taking place in our garden we were fortunate to be able to let the flowers and surroundings speak for themselves. We used the extremely talented Lucie Murray of Silver Fern Floristry (a freelance florist from Lauder) for the bouquets, my mum’s corsage and the buttonholes and she captured the rustic, country feel for the bouquets beautifully. They were hand-tied posies of ocean song roses, blue thistles, blue gentian, white larkspur, purple and green lisianthius, panicum grass and eucalyptus parvifolia foliage.
We chose to do all of the floral arrangements for the marquee ourselves as we wanted to keep it simple and our main aim was to try and bring the garden look inside. We asked friends and family to bring cut flowers from their gardens that we could use in pedestal and vase arrangements. The result was beautiful and it really added a splash of colour to the white back drop of our marquee.

Our florist arranged to get all the flowers for our table centres from her suppliers but we arranged them ourselves into vases. Doing the marquee flowers ourselves gave us a great sense of achievement on the day itself when all our hard work came together.

Did Somebody Call A Taxi?

One of my Dad’s friends owns a golf course so he asked if we could borrow 2 golf buggies for the day to ferry our guests around. They went down a treat and our taxi drivers (the ushers) certainly had fun racing each other up and down the field!

D.I.Y Crafty Bits…

Being a primary school teacher I absolutely love all things crafty and home-made so the months leading up to the wedding were spent on many a craft project. However, the little touches and decorative elements for our wedding would not have happened if it wasn’t for my lovely friends, family and of course RMW, as many of the finer details were taken from inspiration from all the lovely RMW brides before me! My now husband can vouch for my daily addiction to checking all things pretty on the blog when I was planning our wedding. He could also testify about my continuing addiction – just because I’m married doesn’t mean I can’t admire, does it?!

Pretty fabric, luggage labels and garden twine were used to make the name tags for the napkins and mounts for our table plan. Lucy Robertson, a friend of the family, makes handbags for a living and she kindly helped Mum and I to trim, size and stick all the material on to the labels. Her expertise meant it was done in twice the speed and half the arguments!

Our table plan was aptly called The “tea” Tree as the were nailed onto a tree trunk which Dad found . The wood theme was continued with our home-made bar made out of pallets, potato boxes and pieces of oak planking. This was certainly well used! The flower arrangements for our tables were placed on top of “coins” of wood which I hand painted our table names on to. We chose to name the tables after a mix of field names from both our farms (Andrew is also a farmer) to tie in with the country feel.

My favourite craft project was the creation of the heart bunting for our marquee and ceremony chairs we lovingly painted and personalised. Simple, cheap to do and oh so pretty.

The pupils at school (with the help of my friend and colleague, Laura) surprised me by decorating their own paper heart each with messages for Andrew and I. They made them into a “hanging heart mobile” and presented it to me in the last week of term before the holidays. Tears = much!

Love At First Sight.

After we got engaged I began contemplating what I might want my wedding dress to look like and quite honestly I didn’t have a clue but I knew it would be different.

When looking online I came across the designer Maggie Sottero and it was on their website that I stumbled across ‘Eleanor’. It was love at first sight when I saw this dress because it was very different from anything else I had seen so I knew I had to try it on.

My nearest stockist for Maggie dresses is Emma Roy in Edinburgh and from the moment I tried ‘Eleanor’ on I knew we were a perfect match. It was the first dress I tried on and the only one (there were many!) I didn’t want to take off! The sparkle, the lace, the one shoulder detail and satin straps at the back – it was all just perfect and from then on I couldn’t wait to wear it on our wedding day.

Satin Peep Toe.

I chose a pair of silvery blue satin peep toe heels with silver t-bar detail called ‘Mimi’ from Rachel Simpson and my hair comb was from Glitzy Secrets. My jewellery was part of my something old, borrowed and blue; I borrowed earrings from my Mum and wore my Granny’s diamond and sapphire ring which was my old and blue. My freshwater pearl bracelet was made by my friend Lesley.

Peacock Palette.

I don’t think it came as a surprise to our guests when my 3 stunning bridesmaids walked up the garden path in striking peacock blue/green dresses as I am a little partial to all things in this colour palette! Their dress was from The Dessy Group in the colour ‘ocean blue’ which we got from a bridal store in Musselburgh called Isabella Bridal. The dresses complimented all 3 girls beautifully and to give the dress a little twist we had the seamstress from Isabella add a halter neck. The girls all chose their own shoes as I wanted them to be comfortable and I gave them their jewellery as a thank you gift. I found beautiful handmade rose bud earrings by Lisa Angel Jewellery and I had Lesley make the girls (and my Mum) freshwater pearl bracelets that matched the one she had made me.

In Good Hands.

Emma has styled my hair for years so I knew having her and her stylist, Sophie, around on the morning of the wedding would be relaxed and informal, plus she was also a guest at the wedding so it meant that she was on hand all day for any touch ups! Michelle Whittaker did a beautiful job of all of our make-up and as I have known Michelle since primary school, it also meant we all felt completely at ease in her capable hands.

Andrew And The Ushers.

Being Scottish Andrew always wears his kilt to weddings or formal ‘do’s’ so he was easy to organise. His first kilt was an off the peg number so for the wedding we got one made in a family tartan (he chose the tartan ‘Hamilton hunting modern’ as Hamilton is his Mum’s maiden name). We used the local tailors, David Thomson & Sons, in Jedburgh. His best man and ushers all have their own kilts so we just let them organise themselves. The only thing that matched was their ties which we got from the Thomas Pink store in Edinburgh.

Blink And You Miss It.

I knew of Craig and McBeth Photography before we got engaged as he had been the photographer at a friend’s wedding and both Andrew and I really liked the relaxed and personal feel to his photographs. Craig was a pleasure to have around on the day and he has captured all the little details and those ‘blink and you miss it moments’ between our friends and family perfectly.

Cake and ice-cream…

I spent my youth working for a local catering firm called Rosie’s Catering and I know Rosie really well so when we began planning our wedding, her availability in July pretty much dictated the date! She and her team did an outstanding job of our wedding breakfast and the home grown beef was cooked to perfection.

I asked friends and family to make a cake or traybake of their choice to be part of the “Cakes Table” for our evening buffet. Ruth, a close friend of our family, very kindly took up the challenge of creating our wedding cake; the 3 tiered cream sponge. It certainly made an impressive centre piece on the display and if only the pictures could show you what it tasted like!

As a surprise for Andrew I organised for Christine, of Cakes by Christine, to create a cake topper as a centrepiece for the cake table. Andrew spends each morning going round his stock on his quad bike with his collies and our spaniel following in hot pursuit! Using this as inspiration I asked Christine to create a quad bike with the 2 of us in our glad rags and the dogs as well. I think the pictures speak for themselves.

My bridesmaid Lucy runs her own ice-cream business and she allowed us to use “Beatrix” (her ice-cream bike) for the day so that our guests could help themselves to a delicious cone whenever they wanted and help themselves they did!

Full To The Floor

We booked a fantastic band called Corra from Edinburgh who most definitely knew how to get the party started. The play a great mix of contemporary music as well as traditional ceilidh too so there was definitely something for everyone. The dance floor was never empty and everyone had a blast, they even had us doing the limbo and they let me play the drums with them too!

Andrew and I don’t really have a song as such but one we kept coming back to was Mr Brightside by the Killers. Hugely inappropriate in lyrical content but it is a song we both love. We asked our band to slow the tempo down to shuffling speed and mash it up with Use Somebody by Kings of Leon. It worked really well and was really individual to us and our day.

I’ll Get By With A Little Help From My Friends…

The thing that made our wedding so special was that it was a real family effort with a double helping of our friends on the side. I think our guests were able to sense how much love and thought had been put into all the little details and best of all it all happened at home surrounded by the people who are dearest to us both.

From Me To You…

  • Share the load – you don’t need to do everything on your own and your friends, family and neighbours will be delighted to pitch in and lend a hand.
  • Little things do get noticed (in a good way) – I know they say that folk don’t notice all the little details that we brides fret and fuss over but I think that if you think it’s worth doing or making then that’s what counts.
  • Share your day your way – eat, drink, dance and be merry with the ones who matter the most to you as it can be hard to get round everyone but believe me, everyone will still have fun regardless!

I would absolutely love to re-run the fun of our wedding day, we enjoyed every minute and didn’t want it to end and if I could do it all again, I wouldn’t change a thing!

Blooms Silver Fern Floristry

Dress Maggie Sottero

Boutique Emma Roy

Accessories Glitzy Secrets

Tartan David Thomson & Sons

Photography McBeth Photography

Catering Rosie’s Catering

Cake Topper Cakes by Christine

Entertainment Corra

Venue Mom and Dads Farm!!

There are so many things that I like about this wedding – the homely setting is perfect and I love all the little home made heart motifs dotted about.

The dog with the one-brown-one-blue eyes has also had an impact on me (*spot the pet lover). With eyes like that if he is not called David Bow-wow then someone has missed a trick…

Happy Friday peeps.


P.S we have some sexy D.I.Y for you later today courtesy of Vix… make sure you check back!

Author: Adam Crohill
Adam likes Pina Coladas and getting caught in the rain.

20 thoughts on “Home Is Where The Heart Is…

  1. Hi there, Debbie here (the bride!) the aprons were made by a company called ‘Promotif’ in a town called Kelso (in the scottish borders), I’m sure they will have a website. I had an apron made for each carver and there was a different funny quote on each that we chose off various websites. Hope that helps…xx

  2. OMG OMG OMG Debbie!!!!! Eeeee you made it on to RMW! I love this! Your wedding was absolutely fab!

    RMW you have made my day having Debs and Andrews wedding on here!! xxx

  3. I kno I should read every last bit (think I did?!) but what is that table plan on? a bit of tree?! it is brilliant! 🙂

  4. Thank you for all your lovely comments re: our wedding. We really did love every minute!

    Mel – I wish I could wear my dress again so enjoy every minute!

    LauraLoves – Table plan was a branch/trunk off a silver birch tree that my Dad found and he had a local sawmill cut a chunk out off it to create the flatter surface which we hung the seating plan to. We still have it I think and I have other pictures of it in full if you want me to email you one so you get a better idea of what I mean?x

  5. Oh wow! We just got married at the weekend at my parents farm!! We had people carving the meat at their tables and we had those ducks with wellies on…but we didn’t have golf buggies! Amazing!!

  6. Hi,

    I was just wondering where you got your heart bunting from? I love it and have been looking for something exactly like it!

  7. Hi Sarah, I made all the heart bunting myself with a little help from my friends. I sourced wooden hearts (10cm ones) from ebay (200 for £80 or there abouts) and then used acryllic paints and other pretty things to decorate them all with various designs and various friends help! I bought a bundle of material online too from seamstar website. It was really fun to do and added a really personal touch. I used natural garden twine to string them up. Best thing was they doubled up as a little keepsake in all my thank you letters! Hope that helps, I have all the contacts if you would like x

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