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How To Ask {Graciously} For Wedding Presents

So you’ve curated your perfect wedding gift list. You’ve got several price brackets covered. Upgrades on some of your every day items. Some statement pieces for your home, as well as a couple of incredible experiences to help ward off those post-wedding blues. But how on earth do you ask for wedding gifts without sounding like a demanding bridezilla?! Asking for presents doesn’t come naturally to us, we are British after all.

But never fear, our exclusive gift list partners The Wedding Shop know a thing or two about asking for gifts graciously. As the UK’s longest established gift list company, they’ve been helping couples to curate and manage their gift lists for almost 30 years, so they know exactly how to ask for what you want, in a polite and helpful manner…


The most sensible time to let people know about your wedding gift list is when you send out your invitations. Whether you’re sending out paper invites or creating a wedding website, directing people to your list is essential. Otherwise you’ll end up with a constant stream of people asking you ‘do you have a gift list?’ or with rogue items you neither want or need…


Naturally having your guests attend your wedding is the most important thing to you. If you’re asking them to travel across the country and pay for accommodation, it can feel a little cheeky to ask for a wedding gift too. But I promise you, the people who are coming to your wedding not only really want to come, but they also really want to buy you a present. Ask in a way that is appreciative of the guests attending but that directs them in a clear manner to your list.

You’ll find lots of ways to word this above and below, just chose the one that feels right in tone and style to you and your partner.

  • Where they can find your list. The Wedding Shop have a fantastic website and app making the process for both couples and their guests absolutely seamless.
  • Your gift list reference. In other words, how guests will find your list once they are on the website. The Wedding Shop use your surname and the month of your wedding. If you’re building a wedding website you’ll be able to link directly to your list, using a personal link from The Wedding Shop.
  • The Wedding Shop can provide you with small notification cards that discreetly advise your guests where you have placed your wedding list.
  • Guests may want to purchase a gift over the phone or in person. The Wedding Shop want choosing a gift to be fun and for guests to feel delighted with their selection, this is why you’re assigned a personal advisor who will be the first reference point for your guests.
  • If you have any more questions about creating and managing your wedding gift list, then do get in touch with The Wedding Shop. The team there are lovely and really knowledgable. You can find more information about The Wedding Shop here on RMW too.

    Author: Fern Godfrey
    Fern spends most of her time dreaming about weddings and trying to convince her long-suffering boyfriend to propose. Lucky enough to live in sunny Cornwall, if you need her – you’ll find her at beach.

    One thought on “How To Ask {Graciously} For Wedding Presents

    1. This is such a great piece of advice. Living in a destination wedding city (Las Vegas!) where a lot of my family come to get married, I find couples often don’t know the right way to ask for gifts without being tacky. This really helps!

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