So here we are. My final RMW post. The hen and stag do’s have taken place (the less said about James’ the better), RSVP’s are in (well..the full day ones anyway, hint hint evening guests…although we were a bit late sending them, oops), the table plan is complete, all our readings are approved so the order of service/day has been decided, light up letters have been booked (hooray, thanks Doris Loves!) and we are now just over three weeks away from saying ‘I do’. And I still feel like we have loads to do! These ‘final touches’ seem to go on forever!
I have to admit, my relationship with the wedding planning experience has been hit and miss – but mainly hit. I’ve surprised myself by really enjoying all the creative bits, like deciding on invites, decorations, the entire look and feel of the wedding…the parts that make it OUR wedding rather than anyone else’s. Even though we started out with the idea of ‘Classic Country House’, I actually think we are going to end up with ‘Classic Country House with a Big Hint of Glamour’. The parts I haven’t enjoyed so much…well, any sort of wedmin! The accommodation at our venue has been frustrating (we’re there now though), getting addresses for invites, waiting for RSVPs/chasing RSVPs, and of course, the worst part of all, how much it costs!! Oh yes, we’re at the point where all the final balances are due…OUCH. The price we pay for our perfect weddings, eh?! It’s a good job I know it will be worth it!
We have managed to achieve quite a lot over the last few weeks, but rather than bore you about all the wedmin-type things we’ve had to do, I’ll just talk about the fun stuff. Firstly, my best friend in the world, and co-incidentally my Maid of Honour, got married last weekend. It was an absolutely amazing, of course, and everything went really well. I couldn’t keep myself together for the ceremony so goodness knows how I’m going to cope with my own! However, it’s not every day you see two of your very good friends getting married, so tears of happiness all round I say. She is an absolute hero in my eyes, she did it completely DIY!! I’m struggling even with a fully staffed hotel and the help of a Wedding Co-ordinator…the thought of DIY makes my mind boggle. It all paid off though, her theme was 50s Vintage and was completely gorgeous. Now they’re off on their honeymoon for a road trip up the West Coast of America, I’m obviously super-jealous and can’t wait for my own in a few weeks’ time!
So wedding-wise, I’m obviously enjoying the hair and makeup trials!! My hair is upcoming this weekend, although I do have a very set idea of what I want (no spoilers though, obviously)! I have had my make up trial and I’m pleased to reveal that my face is being done by my very talented friend Jake. You can check out some of his AMAZING work on his Instagram. I’m warning you though, prepare to be amazed!! Although I can tell you there will be no Captain Planet or Shakespeare on the wedding day – luckily for me he also does Bridal! Plus, it’s always handy to have a friend who is a makeup artist, and also at the wedding, and can hopefully help with any ‘emergencies’. And Summer…I’m lucky enough to have found my perfect lippy, I hope you find yours soon too!
Now on to chair covers. The jury is out with me for chair covers, but the chairs at Walton Hall don’t quite work with what we wanted, so we made the decision to go for it. Of course we picked a venue where the chairs are weird sizes and we’ve had to find someone who knows how to dress these. We also didn’t want typical sash bows, so we have gone for a ruched option which have been supplied by the lovely Della who runs Pandora’s Dream Settings. Della was, co-incidentally, one of the ladies who helped me with my dress at The Dressing Rooms in Halesowen, and it just so happened that she had exactly the type of chair covers we wanted and she had already got the right size for Walton Hall. Talk about meant to be!
We’re also delegating wedding jobs like there’s no tomorrow. I, of course, have a pretty brilliant group of Bridesmaids who are more than willing to help out where they can, so playlists, guestbook, dinner table games and card tables have all been handed out…As a bit of a control freak, it is difficult to let go at times (!!!), but I know the girls will do a good job 🙂
We’ve also finally relented and gone for a cake. Not a big one, just one for the ceremonial cutting. We’ve sourced this from the Boldmere Cake Company, who also made my 30th birthday cake. In fact we liked the taste of that cake so much we’ve gone for the same combination of lemon for one layer and chocolate for the other! As a self-confessed anti-wedding cake-ist, I have to (begrudgingly) admit that I’ve got quite in to the design and what we can do with it and I’m really looking forward to seeing how it looks. Who knew?!
So what’s left? We need to sort out various things such as gifts, confirming our final numbers, band playlist, pay our final venue balance (again, ouch), finalise our table plans, and sort out what we’re going to do the day/night afterwards. We don’t go on honeymoon until the following Monday evening so we have a couple of days to spare, and I really don’t want to go home on Sunday night! We’re still trying to decide what to do the day after; we’re lucky enough to have loads of good bistro pubs close to both Walton Hall and where we live, so we might do a pub lunch or something similar…just as long as it’s very low key. James and I have agreed that we’re going to look for a nice hotel, preferably with a spa, that we can stay in on Sunday night and then use all the facilities on Monday during the day. We don’t want to break the bank, mainly because we can’t, but it would be nice to treat ourselves a little after the stress of the wedding and just begin to wind down a little after the hectic past few months.
And there we have it! I really am on countdown till The Big Day now, I’m looking forward to it so much. I get to see all my favourite people in one place and have a lovely weekend in a fabulous venue. I’m also so excited about getting ready with the girls in the morning it’s ridiculous and, of course, I get to FINALLY marry James. It’s only taken us 9 years after all.
Thank you to everyone for sharing my journey with me; for all your kind words, comments and for making me feel like I wasn’t the only person in the world going through some of the Planning Pains!! I’m sad my RMW experience is over, but I will be checking in to get jealous about other people’s weddings after mine! To all my fellow RMW brides – I hope you all have the weddings you’ve been planning for the last year (and then some!). They all sound amazing, and of course our Facebook messages have made me laugh quite often…keep them coming over the next few weeks!
For the last time, Lauren xxx