No Regrets Now
You’re not really supposed to have regrets about your wedding day are you. Don’t get me wrong I really don’t have regrets as such just a couple of things I wish I’d done differently.
That’s the beauty of hindsight I guess.
My wedding day was the most surreal, soul-tingling, life-affirming, radiant day of my life. It really was. There’s a part of me that can’t quite believe my luck in that I married the most beautiful boy, inside and out, and that I had the most immense twelve hours of all my days on this planet so far.
The other silver lining is that I get to share my experiences and top tips with you lovely lot. Because if I can help in the tiniest of ways to make your amazing wedding even more stupendous then I’m a happy girl indeed.
Just Me And My Boy…And A Camera Crew
You hear it time and time again but I’m about to join the hoards of brides that say…
‘take time out with your new husband to really look around you and appreciate the day’
because I promise you that you’ll look back and say to each other… I’m so glad we did that. I’m so glad we took the time out to breathe, to take a step back and really take in what was happening around us, to really grab a hold of all the love in the room.
I know we did.
Promise me you’ll do this. Cross your heart and hope to die…
It’s just as important to spend five minutes or so just as a married couple, just the pair of you with no-one else buzzing round. Have a cuddle, hell even have a snog if you fancy it but just BE with one another.
Pose for as MANY portraits of both of you as possible. Charlotte wrote a really compelling post about this not so long ago which you can find here and I heartily agree with each and every point she made.
Schedule in as many mini-portrait sessions as your day will allow. Given the time of year, the boy and I only really had time for one session with our ‘camera crew’; the light was fading and the speeches ran over which meant night had fallen by the time we had the space to commit to another.
We were lucky enough to have an unboundedly talented photographer in the form of Ann-Kathrin Koch and the dynamic duo that is Lee and Dawn from Shutterbox Films capturing our magic moments which meant everything that we wanted was recorded forever.
But I implore you summer brides to really go hell for leather on the portrait agenda – more is… ahem… always more.
If you’re a detail fanatic like me, mention this to your photographer. Ann and I function on the same wavelength having worked together before so she knew what I was after.
Hopefully you’ll have picked your photographer because you adore their work and their style so they’ll be photographing all the important bits and pieces in the way you love anyway.
There’s one good thing about planning your wedding in five months – it comes round pretty damn quick.
Too quickly perhaps.
If anything I wished I had a bit more time – an extra month would have done it. Just so I could have collected another cache of trophies and been able to complete some of the DIY activities I wanted to include. I so wished that we’d had more table centrepieces and we did have an inter-house table quiz planned and a choreographed dance with the entire wedding party that we just didn’t have enough time to finish.
And whilst it isn’t the end of the world…I can’t help thinking about that one extra month.
Yes I admit it – I don’t really like to ‘let go’ all that easily. It’s one of my weak spots and it took a serious talk from the boy to realise that actually there were all these people around me that wanted to help out and I wasn’t letting them.
Whilst I did open up, and began to delegate towards the end of the planning journey, I think it was a lesson learned a little too late. If I’m really honest I think I ended up alienating a few people without meaning to and this is one of my biggest regrets.
I also wished that I’d invested in some gorgeous wedding day dressing gown fare, not that I got a chance to lounge mind.
I wanted to look like an ethereal hot sexy thang!
I’m not sure a two-tone denim look whilst prepping for the biggest day of your life fits into this category…
Talented Folks And Fantastic Friends
I can’t finish this epic trilogy without mentioning both Ann from Ann-Kathrin Koch Photography and Lee and Dawn from Shutterbox Films because without them I wouldn’t have any of these gorgeous photos or this heartfelt video.
It was Dawn’s smiling face and Lee’s calming influence that kept me going in the morning when I was running around like a headless chicken. I’ve always loved their work – emotion pours out of it like water from a sieve – but these two are the sweetest people you can meet. Kind-hearted and funny I beseech you to get them involved in your big day.
Ann’s work for me is like manna from heaven. The way she handles light is sublime, her attention to detail is second to none and I defy anyone not to look good in one of her photographs. Ann captures the very essence of love between two people – pure and simple. Having her next to me on my big day was a real treat – she’s incredibly loving and funny to boot.
I’m lucky enough to be able to call all of them friends and both Ste and I will be forever indebted to them for all the time and effort they put into the day.
Last Minute Thoughts
And lastly let me leave you with this… please nominate someone as your lipstick and veil monitor.
My bridesmaids made off with my lipgloss – I know! You just can’t get the bridesmaids these days and unknowingly my veil got caught on my headpiece a couple of times which is not a hot look during your first dance *sigh*
Admittedly these are minor points but it’s just something I’m putting out there, something I’m passing on.
And if you’re a bit of a lightweight like me I’d recommend pacing yourself on the special juice throughout the day. I made a conscious decision not to drink until we sat down to eat and I’m so glad I did.
It meant that I remembered everything.
Because it’s the memories that stay with you long after the day has passed isn’t it. Something to tell the grandchildren…
Dress Charlotte Balbier
Shoes Jimmy Choo
Venue Iscoyd Park
Stationery Tom Gautier
Photography Ann-Kathrin Koch
Videography Shutterbox Films
Makeup Make-up By Jodie
Groom Tiger Of Sweden
Groom’s Shoes Paul Smith
Fur Stole Hope and Grace
Cake Caroline’s Cake Company
Flowers Selina Godsall
Catering Rupert Frazer Worden
Band The Moneypennies
I’ll leave you with this final video – there’s some pretty ‘special’ dancing towards the end…
I hope you’ve enjoyed these posts as much as I’ve loved sharing them.
All my love Lolly xxx