Music is, for myself and my delicious man, a part of the fabric that binds us. In our early dating stages, music was the main thing we talked about, danced to and bonded over most. Saturday afternoons were spent prancing around in my underwear (me, not Gavin) with a big old school set of headphones on, attached to his iPod whilst he showed off his extensive iTunes library and musical trivia knowledge. Not much has changed.
Music has always and will always fill our home. Whether it’s chilled out tunes while cooking, hardcore rock while cleaning or background party music when having friends around, we will always find an excuse to play something.
Luckily we have the exact same taste in music. Generally speaking we tend to love anything Acoustic, Folk-y, Rock-y, Grunge-y, Metal-y, Punk-y or Bass-y. Rock chick, yes I am. So how the hell do you incorporate that into your wedding and make sure everyone else (who maybe aren’t so fond of having their eardrums blown out) enjoys themselves too…
We asked our guests what they wanted to listen to! This brainchild was born out of a bit of RMW inspiration. We had a slot on our RSVP postcards that read “Name a song guaranteed to get you dancing”. The results were both varied and spectacular. I have since then seen this on many a wedding planning post and still to this day think it’s a great way to make people feel involved, whilst taking the pressure off you to come up with a playlist. Be that via the medium of DJ, Band or iPod.
So I figured I’d spend this post talking you through my mega music filled day in the hope that it may inspire/help some of you out in the music stakes.
My Dad, God Bless his golfers socks, made me a playlist. He even brought his iDock just so that as I was getting ready, the room was filled with music to keep me calm. I did not even think about this during my planning, but I cannot recommend it enough! Not only did it keep me calm, but it just filled the room with the most gorgeous atmosphere. Music really has that incredible way of transcending you and settling your emotions, don’t you think?
I can’t offer much help to you here as very luckily for us, one of Gavin’s best friends is the insanely talented musician, Jonathan Powell who wrote us an original piece of music for my walk up the aisle. Other than that, he just sat and played beautiful melodies on guitar to ease everyone into the day.
As some of you may know from my Big Dirty Wedding Report, Gavin decided he wanted a rock star entrance to our meal. Just as we were announced, out blasts the anthem that is Black Dog by Led Zepplin. We strutted our way through the crowd, Gavin high fiving people and me sporting my leather jacket of course. I have to say… it was pretty awesome.
While planning the wedding, Gavin and I made a decision to play music throughout the entire meal. So we came up with a playlist full of soft, slow, romantic tunes that were perfect for the most important dinner party of our lives. This is, apparently, not that common at weddings. But we found that the music once again filled the room with such beautiful atmosphere and relaxed our guests. Until Gavin got everyone up for an impromptu rendition of Hey Jude, complete with hand clapping and lighter waving. It rocked.
Ah ha. The party. Faced with a list full of songs, the length of your average queue at a Next sale, we were struggling with the order in which to play them all. So Gavin made a brilliant observation. Play everything in order of era. That way, you give the older folks a chance to be up enjoying their tunes earlier in the night and leave all the modern music for your friends to the end of the night, when they’re likely to be the last ones left standing! It went down an absolute storm at the wedding. The dance floor was never empty and it meant that Gavin and I could play our rockier tunes closer to the end without disgusting a conservative aunt.
The music at our wedding was something that many a guest commented on days after. So as a word of advice, I can say this… Please take into consideration the music your guests will want to dance to… But please do not deny yourself and your husband a chance to listen to your favourite music. Chances are, most of your friends and family will be right up there with you. Gavin actually had a nice boogie with his Mum to Sex is on Fire… an image that (haunts me) cracks me up to this day.
So I’ll leave you with a good ole list (you know how I loves them) of my Big Day musical suggestions:
Slow and Romantic
Lovely Day – Bill Withers
(Sittin’ on) The Dock of the Bay – Otis Redding
Beyond the Sea – Bobby Darin
That Ole Devil called Love – Billie Holiday
Feelin’ Good – Nina Simone
Romeo & Juliet – Dire Straits
The Bones of You – Elbow
Running to Stand Still – U2
Skinny Love – Bon Iver
Toothpaste Kisses – The Maccabees
Her Morning Elegance – Oren Lavie
Crystal – Stevie Nicks
Right Down the Line – Gerry Rafferty
Somersault – Zero 7
Do You Love Me? – The Contours (< This was the best party starter!)
Crazy Little Thing Called Love – Queen
20th Century Boy – T-Rex
Rolling in Deep – Adele
You’ve Got The Love – Florence and the Machine
Hush – Deep Purple
My Sharona – The Knack
Dancing in the Dark – Bruce Springstein
Hey Ya – Outkast
Ride on Time – Black Box
Jump Around – House of Pain
Rhythm is a Dancer – Snap
Love Shack – The B52’s
Just a Girl – No Doubt
Only Girl (in the World) – Rhianna
Lust for Life – Iggy Pop
Rebellion – Arcade Fire
What music will you be playing on your Big Day?
Is there anything you would like to play but don’t feel you can get away with it?
Trust me, if we can play Prodigy ‘Smack my B*tch up’ and have my Granny up busting a move, it might not be so bad.
P.S. For more song choices and the post that inspired this post click here.