Not The Royal Wedding…

So, we are loving the Royal Wedding. Thats a given. But although a match made in heaven (Royal Wedding meets Wedding Blog) it’s also somewhat of an ironic relationship… after all Kate is hardly going to be doing it her way, is she?

Not so todays bride! The antithesis of the Royal wedding, totally irreverant, relaxed, casual and her-day-her-way, Polly (and Josh!) are just as much of an inspiration. And a welcome break from the Regal anticipation, ready for some full on flag waving tomorrow. Bring it on.

But first, meet Polly, and her seriously laugh-a-minute, crazy write up!

A Magical Garden Party

We were married on Saturday July 25th 2009 in Granny Pixie’s garden….The ceremony was held on the drive outside Cedar Court, our family home where my mom & her 3 brothers grew up and I spent all of my childhood playing amazing games of hide & seek, building dens and 20 for sunday lunch was all part of ‘the norm’!! It was a scruffy old house, all dusty with a funny smell…. the most magical home in the world!!

As soon as I phoned Pixie to tell her Josh (who I call ‘tree boy’ because he is a tree surgeon and climbs tress all day!) and me (Polly) .. (Josh’s mum and dad call us ‘Posh and Jolly’ its a good spoonerisum, full of irony!) Anyway… what was I saying.?! oh yeah, telling granny we were getting hitched…. she said “well of course you are, and it will be here” Infact when I first took Josh to walk around the fields of this precious loving land, in our early ‘dating days’ he said, quite out of the blue “you’ll get married here.” In my fariy tale la la world I thought then. “we’ll get married here”!!

The Deed itself

Well we actually did the official marriage bit on the Wednesday 22nd in Lichfield registery office. I wore a ‘hand me down’ Aunty Pauline’s vintage sequined pearl white ‘dream girls’ dress. So that cost only £50.00 to be re lined and have the back cut out and a massive slit put in!! (she was slimmer than me when she was 21! (40 years ago) so the alterations were to allow me to breath…

The magical garden party dress I found in Kendals, Manchester. It was on the Sale Rail in ‘ANOUSHKA G’ and cost £80.00. I wasn’t sure what I wanted really but it needed to be fairy tale like and I love flowers and butterflies and sparkle… My best friend Flippy saw it and called me over, I knew it was the dress I was going to buy!
Prior to this, me and my sister-in-law has tried a few on, I LOVED Jenny Packham designs and had wedding dress envy when my friend floated down the isle in ‘PAPILLION’. I booked an appointment at the Jenny Packham boutique and me and fabuolus Andrew Stephen Lavin went to try some on….. A perfik full grey sequence dress I fell in love with… just too too too too too too expensive! This was a wedding built on fresh air and love, not ridiculous spending and so I let the idea of ‘designer’ go… the ‘trying on’ experience was all I really needed!

Vintage Fever

When we went engagement ring shopping in York we found this amazing Jewellers called ‘Cavendish Jewelers’ They specialise in vintage and 2nd hand pieces. I noticed a pair of Art Deco diamond and rose quartz earings in the window… sooooooo pretty! anyway I was quickly told thats not what we’d come for and so I turned my attention to the rings… I had the moment when I put on an Emerald and Diamond Art Deco ring and my eyes filled with tears… I left the shop and Josh appeared 10 minutes later in a full sweat having buckled under the presure of the purchase and inserted his pin number incorrectly 3 times!! After frantic phone calls and a beer or 2, I had my fairy tale ring. On our wedding night of the 22nd, Josh produced the earings I’d seen in the window… so spoilt, so happy fresh air and love and a lot of tears… needless to say, I wore then to our garden party wedding on Saturday along with my great grandma ‘Lady T’s’ emerald and diamond necklace! I had worn it to my mom’s wedding in 1981. The morning of my fairy tale day, I woke up to find it next to me, on the pillow with a letter from mom…. it was an effortless choice of accessories, Love mostly! With a load of fresh flowers to twine it all together in my curly hair!

I brought my shoes before the dress… full multi coloured glitter sparkle from Nine West. They weren’t expensive – about £50.00. I loved them, but was never intending to skip around the fields in heels! So after walking up the drive to meet my man, strutting in the sunshine all sparkles and smiles, to Areatha Franklin. I then changed into a pair of gold HAVIANA flip flops and danced and skipped till I dropped!

Hair Heaven

On Wednesday Flippy did my hair and make up. She is like this sunshine of creative magic and she heated up the rollers, painted my face and I felt like a Hollywood screen goddess!! Glam but not over made up. On the Saturday for the garden party Shabaz ‘Shabba’ Hussain ‘The Fabulous’, the best creative hair magician this side of the Mississippi!! One of my bestest friends and dream weaver….curled and pinned my locks with fresh flowers and dazzle. Flippy and my very glamorous cousins painted my face…. I was a fairy princess, Titania from Midsummer nights dream. The look was soft, easy, pretty but not try hard or heavy. I didn’t want to look ‘different’ and so ‘coiffered’ I would be uncomfortable and Josh would be like ‘what have you done with Polly?!’ Infact he made me promise I wouldn’t do that!! I trusted my friends!! (I’d had the hen doo, they’d done their worst, so no more pay back was in the wings waiting!!)

Wild Flowers

Wild flowers, meadow flowers, any flowers that were at the flower market at 5am on the Friday! Me, Lala, Flippy and Chalky went on a mission and spent £70.00. this made my bouquet, 3 bridesmaids bouquets, loads of button holes and fillied tea pots and coffee pots to the brim with flowers….

Chalky made the bouquets and button holes! She is clever! And Pops and Joe filled the tea pots and coffee pots for the tables and made the most beautiful centre piece at the head of the top table! Pop’s and Joe are just so special. It was the two of them that ‘saw’ my fairy tale and from the very beginning built it with us!

We had a planting day in May, all the family gathered at Granny Pixies and planted sweet peas, those that couldn’t make it planted pots at home and brought them to the garden on the Friday!! It was brilliant fun. Everyone loved being involved. Pixie called it the ‘Armarda’! I was also given a load of silk flowers that my girlies twisted and weaved around a chandelier fitting and hung on of the trees!

The bridesmaids brought their dresses themselves!! I said a purple, lilac, mauve-ish pallet… but be comfortable and make sure it’s something you’ll wear again! I don’t think you can dress people in something totally out of character and expect them to feel relaxed and happy… especially when they have such individual style… it worked, they are all stunning so I knew it would!!!

We Heart pictures

There is only one! HECTOR MORA!!! Hector and Charlie together (We Heart Pictures) are just mind blowingly brilliant at capturing love, at seeing magic… We had no idea what we ‘wanted’ other than nothing formal!! I honestly cannot tell you how utterly brilliant they are. I have never seen wedding photo’s like it. You see for yourself! My friend had them do her wedding after seeing our album!

Queen of Cupcakes

My friend Babbit, queen of cup cakes made us a 2 giant cup cakes for tree boy & polly pocket and a hundred or more little ones!! They all got eaten, the kids were all sugar loved up! But the fairy tale castle cake was a total and complete surprise! I had no idea until I saw it on the wedding day! Momma Brown had kept the whole idea a secret. It was a triple layer fruit cake that she decorated with turrets!

This was a wedding built on love and friendship… my friends from uni are very talented and Tim played the guita and bobin the double bass and my cousin with a voice like velvet sang Sister Sledge ‘I’m thinkin of you’ as part of the ceremony! I cried… it was goose bumply beautiful!!

Blooming Bunting!

Bunting…. over a thousand metres of it! Made lovingly by me and Flip in the kitchen!! My Mom and Momma Brown posted us triangles and between us we pinking sheered and stitched what felt like miles and miles of it!! It went all around the top terrace, the marquee and the fields… it looked ace!

Because we we’re in Pixie’s garden and the Marquee went up on the Thursday we had access when we wanted and no short time scale to get it all done! Don’t get me wrong, it was a hard grafting sweat shop but we did it and enjoyed it!
I guess because I had a ‘vision’ of how I wanted the day to feel… the process of building it was dreamy… It wasn’t stressful (although to be fair my mom is pretty organised and dotted the I’s and crossed the T’s with stuff I might have forgotten about!) like table clothes and helpers!!

The marquee company gave us 240 old seat pads…. and I hoarded any fabric I could… borrowed a few staple guns, set up a sweat shop in my lounge and covered every single one in colourful, crazy fabric!! they looked like tubes of refressers when we were getting them to the tent! Everyone helped.. even at school ( I teach Art & Photography) the lovely ladies on reception were bringing my in bags of material! I have to say the seats looks stunning! The idea was that after tea and scones, you could take your seat pad into the field to sit on while you ate your picnic!

The ‘High Tea’ was set out in the marquee and was the only ‘formal’ bit of the day. All the tables 4 rows of tressels we’re laid up with mish mash china that my mom, dad & joe and I had been buying up from charity shops and car boot sales for the 6 months prior to the wedding! The Norm and Hat had car booted coffee pots and tea pots and the babbit lent us her hord of cake stands too!!

A Booming Dance Floor

For the evening we had a band… about a 9 piece band we’d seen at a friends wedding and had danced all night on a booming dance floor. They travelled up from Bristol ……. They were awesome… really fun. We wanted live music for the main part. After they had finished around midnight we had a mate DJ Mike spin his 7” records… when he had beer breaks someone else produced bag of records and so it was open decks really!

Another of my best friends Jo ‘The Norm’ and Jon ‘The Hat’ who own a pub in Salford ‘The Kings Arms’ (which is THE most ecclectic fusion of proper beer, busking, knitting, art and theatre you could ever put in one building) built a bar, but up lights and video projects all over the garden and in the trees and marquee… it was a visual sensation… Ken even played the video of the ceremony onto the ceiling of the tent!! Bloody brilliant!

Family Favours and DIY

On the Friday we asked family and close friend to come and help build up the wedding! They did!! we had people laying tables, putting up dressing tents, and ting up bunting. Josh spent the day hanging in the trees hanging lanterns I got my students to help me make at the end of term!! All in all the wedding was a festival…. soooo much fun! Built on love and friendship.

As a result we have now set up a shabby chic wedding hire kit.. we have 300 tea cups, saucers and side plates… 100 tea pots cake stands and miles of bunting….. if any one wants to share the love email me at!!

Top tip…. have a picnic – saves £1000.00’s of pounds, mingling aound a field was so much fun, people playing badminton and football and frisbee… and enjoy the adventure. It’s the best party you’ll ever go to!

Photographers – We Heart Pictures

Dress – Anoushka G

Shoes – Nine West

Earrings – Cavendish Jewellers, York

Shabby Chic Wedding Hire – (The bride)

Breath of Fresh air anyone? This is like a tropical breeze…

And a totally inspired reminder that if Royal simply isn’t you… then there’s still a perfect wedding to be crafted.

After all, Regal and Royal or Magical Garden Fairytale, they’re all about the L.O.V.E.

Yours Truly,


Author: Becky Sappor
Becky is at her happiest when dunking a slightly chilled chocolate digestive into a very warm, very milky cup of tea. She also loves her job and pinches herself every day to make sure that she isn’t in a graphic design dreamworld.

26 thoughts on “Not The Royal Wedding…

  1. This is the coolest wedding ever! It’s relaxed and fun and full of LOVE – and it seems like everyone there was involved in doing something for the day!! Plus she is the happiest bride I’ve ever seen!

    Pretty different from what we’re planning but it’s making me wish I had a Granny Pixie with a fantasy fairytale back garden. Also, I wish we could see photos of Polly’s Auntie Pauline’s ‘dream girls’ dress! […and breathe…]

  2. This has got to be one of my favourite RMW weddings ever, the way everyone pulled together to craft and create all those special touches…exactly what I’m praying will come together at our equally relaxed do in a month’s time. I loved the write up too…. And I sooo nearly bought those nine west shoes for my wedding!

  3. This is officially my favourite wedding ever. It looks like so much fun and I wish I was a guest! The photography is stunning, you both look so relaxed and happy. I actually can’t choose which image is my favourite as they are so many I love.

    I too am having a home grown wedding so know exactly how much sweat goes into it but you seem to have done it so effortlessly… just AMAZING!! Can you come help me with mine please?!

    x x x x

  4. Holy mother of….


    There are no words.

    Except that this is too freaking cool for school.

    And that it sounds like our Kate is doing boho too. What does everyone think of the appointment of Mr Connelly? SO excited! Trees!

  5. This is the first time EVER that I read a wedding and didn’t comment for 2 hours because I just didn’t know what to say.

    I mean, of course I like all the STUFF. That’s a given. Decor, dress, seat covers, bunting, flowers in hair. It’s all beautiful, and unique.

    But it’s not about that, is it? Ths is the first time I’ve seen a wedding where the STUFF is worthy of a post of its own, but it all bypassed me, because this wedding has spirit. It has so much spirit, and magic, and family, and love. It has irreverence and wit, and Polly and Josh remembered EXACTLY what was important, and got swayed by nothing else.

    I admire that above everything.

    Then of course the photography lends itself to that magical, misty, forest atmosphere perfectly. I want to know the story of each and every one of these guests, where they came from, why they are here…and it’s not often that photography evokes curiosity.

    Titania you were, Polly…it’s absolute perfection in a very imperfect way. Congratulations to you both! x

  6. Sweet Nora. (To borrow a phrase from my husband.) This looks like an utterly amazing wedding. Wow.
    I am really lost for words – it’s just overwhelmingly wonderful and Polly really expresses the joyfulness of the occasion through her words and in the pictures.

  7. If ever I could have been a guest at any wedding … it would HAVE to be this one.

    So much fun, so much love.

    I bet your guests were feeling all warmy and lovey dovey for weeks afterwards.


  8. Wow….this is so similar to what we are aiming for I absolutely love it! Effortlessly amazing, I hope our day turns out as wonderfully laid back and full of love.

    Amazing photography I’m just going to hop across to their website as this is one area we don’t seem to be getting anywhere on so big thank you’s.

    I really want to go spend a summer at Granny Pixie’s


  9. I absolutely love this wedding and the words written by the very beautiful Polly. They made me laugh so much!

    The photos are amazing and capture all the love perfectly.

    Just perfection, no other words.

    I am going to now go and look at the photos again, I can’t help myself!


  10. LOVELY wedding, and my favourite so far. I now desperately want to know where the flower market is that they went too! We were going to ask our florists to source our flowers and then we’d arrange them. Would be nice to cut out the middle man!

  11. Wow! This is so beautiful and relaxed. It has actually given me goosebumps and this is very similar to what we are doing for our wedding in June. I feel like I have literally made everything! The meters and meters of bunting…I know what that is like! Also, how good is the seat pad idea…just off to email our marquee people 🙂
    I have been worrying that ours might look a bit crazy and random but if it looks even a little like this I will be so happy x

  12. If there was a wedding that I had in my dreams but I couldn’t make my reality – this would be it. My grandma had the most amazing house with a lovely garden and backing onto the beach. I wanted this for my wedding but sadly it’s not to be.

    Adore everything about this wedding. I just scrolled through the photos in awe and felt a lump in my throat as I thought about how much my Grandma would adore this wedding – unfortunately we lost her this week :(.

    I’ve never forwarded a wedding from RMW before – but this one went straight into the email with a forward click.

    R xx

  13. Wow! You are without doubt the most gorgeous bride I have ever seen!
    Congratulations – your day looks like it was a whole heap of fun! x

  14. I have never had words hide from me before … but now i have lost them! … you are all fabulous!
    Thank you for your kindness … and believe in fairies xxx

  15. OMG-how wonderful is this wedding?! It is quite possibly the happiest wedding I have ever seen-the bride and groom look so relaxed and all the guests look like they are having the time of their lives. Am loving every detail-especially Polly’s luscious locks  xx

  16. This wedding looks amazing! Like a proper festival celebration! I wish I’d been a guest. I love the dress and the sparkly shoes but I think the seat cushions that double up as seats for the picnic are my fav!

    Thanks for featuring this RMW, so much inspiration. Starting to wish I’d found someone with a massive garden to throw our bash in rather than our wedding venue 😉


  17. I often comment on the weddings featured on RMW but, as Anna K said, this wedding warrants something special but I am lost for words! Absolutely stunning whilst looking effortlessly simple and relaxed. I wish I’d been a guest!

  18. I love the marquee decor. The use of bunting, vintage crockery,long trestle tables with glass candelesticks and summer flowers in vases.Chinese lanterns work well instead of chandeliers.
    It’s a simple but elegant theme and what a cool cake!

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