Yes folks. Here we are again. You join us for the penultimate instalment of ‘Paddy and Deb plan a wedding’. This month we are covering boy shopping, dresses and how to fill a gap. So here we go…
A few weeks ago myself, Johnny (best man) and Tom (groomsman) braved the world of wedding clothes shopping, ably assisted by Debs, Cait and Sarah (friends). Thankfully the theme is informal/smart casual so we didn’t have to try on an endless rail of morning, tails and other wedding suits.
We’ve been trawling Pintrest and of course RMW for inspiration. Adams’ blog on this very subject proved very extremely useful in narrowing the final ensemble.
We had been trying to get a date in the diary for sometime but owing to us boys being freelance raft guides narrowing down a day proved a tad tricky. When the day came (after rearranging three times) we made our way to Cheshire Oaks. Lucky for us, Debs had a picture of the kind of look we were after, walked into shops, asked if they had something similar and moved on if not. Before we arrived she’d narrowed down the search and after 30 mins we had our trousers and shirts which was always going to be the trickiest bit. Lucky for us the French Connection shop we started in had some trousers which haven’t been finished totally so we can adjust the leg length – which is great when you have three guys who range from 5’7″ to 6’6″ tall. All we need now is to find some brown braces and decide which colour waistcoat will best go with grey trousers…
Talking of outfits, Debs had a bit of a dilemma last week and decided to make a really difficult decision; to change her dress with 9 weeks to go. Some of you may remember that Deb’s family member had really kindly offered to make her wedding gown, which she was thrilled about, but as time passed she started to doubt her choice about the dress and wasn’t sure if this style was the one she wanted for the wedding. It was really difficult for her to decide to change, especially so late in the day, but after a chance appointment at Narberth’s White Bride whilst we were on holiday last week, a dress that was a perfect fit (and a few tears later), she knew that this was the one she wanted to get married in.
Debs was really torn with what to do and petrified of what to say to Janis and her mum for fear of upsetting them. After talking with a number of other brides-to-be, boutique owners and people in the store that she’d never met before, apparently this is more common than she thought. When we spoke about it, Debs said “It’s a horrible feeling; to be torn between letting someone down who has been really kind to you, feeling a bit spoilt and really wondering whether you can justify spending money on something that you’re only going to wear once. But when I put the dress on I could imagine what it’s going to feel like when I am stood at the top of the aisle and see you for the first time on our wedding day and it left me kinda speechless. I guess that’s the ‘The One’ feeling that girls talk about…?”
So a quick call to the supplier and another appointment made to pick it up and she’s all set, she just needs her hair clip thing and shoes and I think that’s her sorted.
Everything else is coming together, although we’re a bit at a loss with how to fill the gap between the end of the ceremony and dinner. The weddings that we’ve been to previously all had a bit of a gap; filled with travelling to different venues, chilling in the sun, exploring the town whilst a venue is changed around or propping up the bar. Are people happy enough just to enjoy the day in the sun with a beer, or is there an expectation of official entertainment in one form or another? We’d hate to think that our guests might be bored and it hadn’t really occurred to us that this might be the case until we were talking about how best to keep the kids entertained in the afternoon; we didn’t even consider the adults until that point. Whilst we’re sure that the relaxed atmosphere we’re aiming for will shine through, do we run the risk of it being too relaxed and not living up to wedding hype and expectations?
All in all an eventful month. We are almost at the end of our Wedding To Do list, although I think Debs may have added a few things on the end, but hopefully we should get those sorted in the next few weeks.
So until next time dear readers…
As always much love,
Paddy and Debs