This month I thought I’d do a round-up, which I’ve catchily titled ‘What we’ve learnt about wedding planning and stuff…’
I guess the biggest thing we’ve learnt is that it’s your day and you can go as big or small and intimate as you want. That’s not news to any of you, but it’s pretty hard to stick to. Just because people expect certain traditional elements that doesn’t mean you have to do them, and if initially you think that you don’t want something, then change your mind that’s fine too. This goes for every part of the wedding, the hens and stags, themes and the venue as well. If it isn’t offering what you want, don’t be afraid to tweak things or just find somewhere else – pick up the phone and have a conversation with someone about trying something different; you never know, it might be the push that they are looking for. You’ve got to be happy with where you will be celebrating what is potentially, the most important and biggest day of your life. Hopefully you’ll only be doing it once so it’s got to be right.
You can argue, and I would, that the ‘if it’s not right, change it’ principle applies to everything to do with the wedding. We’ve changed caterers, boys outfits and subsequently the colour scheme of the day, Debs’ dress, stationery, decor and just about everything else at least once. Our ideas evolved, the initial enthusiasm for pinning everything gorgeous diminished with the reality that having jobs and social lives too (and maintaining these) was equally as important as making sure that our wedding day is as much ‘ours’ as possible. So for those of you who saw our original mood board, you’ll see from our updated one that there are some amends…hopefully it’ll all come together and look as nice as the updated inspiration board.
Realistically, we couldn’t take a few weeks off to make, fold, build and grow everything that we wanted but we’ve found ways around that and focussed on the parts of the day that we can make really personal without spending weeks on end making everything from scratch. Originally we thought that we’d do that, and enjoy the process, but in reality we’ve decided to spend that time with friends and family, and picked up a few extra shifts at work to pay for a few extras too.
At this point I would like to thank all our suppliers for their time, patience, ideas and for understanding when we tweak things. We (Debs really) have got good working relationships with all of them, which has made planning so much easier. We’ve taken a couple of risks, and balanced that with some guaranteed awesome and established wedding industry gold suppliers so we’re excited to see how it all comes together.
Personally what I’ve learnt from this whole experience is that planning a wedding is a team sport. I’ll be the first to hold up my hands and recognise that there have been times when I haven’t pulled my weight and done the little jobs that Debs has given me, and I just count my lucky stars that Debs manages to see past my laid back (sometimes horizontal) attitude.
We still have a few things still left to do including booking a honeymoon, finding accommodation for the dogs, picking up Debs’ dress and choosing her shoes, the dreaded seating plan (any tips would be gratefully received), choosing the order of service and readings and a few other bits and bobs. Luckily the niggly worries about dressing the venue, table decorations, signage, bar, staffing etc have all been scooped up by Hafod which has put our minds at ease. Thanks Joanne!
We’re delighted that Joanne has offered to help us dress the venue, she’s got a great eye and we’re sure that she’ll make it much prettier than we could have done on our own. Taking inspiration from pinterest (again!) and some of the weddings which have already been there and from RMW features is a great start and we’re excited to see how it all comes together. We know that this wouldn’t be everyones cup of tea, passing over the décor to someone else, but really for us it’s great. We can be involved but not worried about it, and it’ll be a surprise when we all arrive.
So, with five weeks to go I guess all that’s left to do is say a massive thank you to the RMW team for putting up with us and thank you to everyone who has taken the time to read and comment on our blog posts.
The next time you’ll see our faces we’ll be Mr and Mrs Mahon!
As always much love,
Paddy and Debs