Sequins, Metallics And No Rules.


Wow. Just WOW.

That all too familiar question: “Charlotte, if you were to plan your wedding now what styling/dress/accessories would you choose?”

And the answer would be “I would probably just copy Tori….”

The blush beaded gown (a SUPER flattering hue on fair-skinned blondes) the slightly un-done up do, the gold leaf garland crown…..dreamily ethereal but with a generous dose of timeless elegance.

Photographer Katherine Ashdown questioned that as Tori and Paul only chose to have the ceremony and canapés covered rather than the entire evening reception that perhaps there wouldn’t be enough details to warrant a feature.

My response: “I loooove this more than cake!!! There is no way we wouldn’t want to share it!!!!”

Ahem. There might not actually be any cake, or centrepieces or a million decor details for you lovelies to be in inspired by but my goodness, the fashion alone is enough to make your pinterest boards look the prettiest they ever have.

And did I mention they planned it all in TWO MONTHS?

Yep. ‘Mazin.



We both adore Norfolk and my family has a little cottage there which is where Paul would first come to visit me from London. We spent a lot of time on our bikes exploring the pubs (mostly) around Norfolk but one of our favourite places that we kept coming back to was Holkham hall with its gorgeous beach, just down the road from us. We knew we wanted a small venue and when we saw the temple tucked away and nestled in the woods we loved it instantly, as did our dog Tallulah!

With no electricity and an open fire it was just the right setting for our intimate little wedding.


Glam Enough

I don’t really wear much make-up so I was afraid of looking over done on the day…and I have one hair style (sloppily pinned up with a couple of clips…) so I didn’t want to turn up next to Paul not really looking like me. I did my own hair which I just wanted to be natural and a little bit loose and messy but I used Love Moi Makeup and I’m just so glad I did.


Emily did an amazing job covering up a long red scratch on my cheek (made by an over excited Tallulah the day before the wedding!) and she gave me just the right amount of glam – it was perfect.


A Blushing Bride

We organised the whole wedding in just two months and I quickly realised that most brides order their dress at least 6 months ahead so I knew I had to be a bit creative! Scouring the internet one designer kept catching my eye again and again – Jenny Packham. One very dark and rainy evening after work in February I decided to go to her flagship store in Mayfair and emerged just over half an hour later clutching my sparkly new wedding dress – a Jenny Packham evening gown, the AD135.

It was the first dress I tried on and it was beaded perfectly – and with it’s slight blush colour, it was a really flattering tone and just a little bit different.



I adore all things art deco and went on the hunt for some chandelier earrings, eventually coming across a Lulu Frost design at Whistles. I didn’t think I needed much more than that but I kept falling in love with the natural, ethereal look of flower garlands on brides.

Feeling unsure if I dared go all the way with a real garland I came across a Tel Aviv based designer Avigail Adam, through her shop on Etsy. She makes stunning gold plated garland crowns and managed to post one out to me just in time for the wedding!


Gold, Silver & Inky Blue

Since we had such a tiny wedding (just 20 guests) we decided not to have a traditional wedding party – we just had a Maid of Honour – my best friend since we were about 11, Karena, and Tallulah our cocker spaniel was our ring bearer!

With my dress being a blush colour I really wanted shades of neutrals that could all blend in together so we looked for subtle shades of gold, silver and champagne. Fitting with the vintage, sparkly look of my dress, Karena wore a cocktail dress from Coast with antique gold sequins around the neck and a drape down the front which we thought was a little bit flapper style.

Paul looked so handsome in an inky blue, slim fitting suit from Suit Supply with a silvery brown tie. We bought a dapper handkerchief for his top pocket but I think he forgot to wear it!


Ethereal Metallics

We both wanted a warm, cosy and relaxed atmosphere so we knew we wanted a lovely log fire and lots of candles. I love all things vintage so I knew I wanted lots of old cut glass candlesticks and mercury glass votives in silvery tones. I went to one of my favourite shops, Vintage Home & Garden in Thornham, Norfolk, where Jo the owner helped me put together some amazing details including an old vintage ‘Bar’ sign for our champagne table, which I just loved. We kept the whole colour palette to very soft and muted shades of blush, creams, dusty pinks, sagey greens and metallics which made the photos look so gentle and ethereal.


Beautiful Blooms

As a total flower obsessive I knew that our flowers were going to be a really important detail of the day for us. We used the amazingly talented Clare from Love Blooms and from the beginning Clare just totally understood the kind of look I was after, putting together stunning moodboards and constantly pushing my ideas a bit further. My bouquet featured memory lane roses and hanging amaranthus which gave it such an elegant draping effect. Clare also made a beautiful hydrangea garland with stunning glass candlesticks which sat on the mantelpiece where we got married, I just loved it.


Claire also did an amazing job of decorating the front of the temple, including making two flower garland rings for the pillars. I just love spring flowers so we also brought in some big branches of magnolia, which were stunning next to my old vintage bench. I also adore big bundles of hydrangeas and knew I wanted them to feature quite heavily so I filled the basket of my Pashley bike (which was the first present Paul gave me) with pink hydrangeas and that became our parking directions!


In The Woods

The ceremony was our favourite part of the day by far. We had both been nervous about it but half way through Paul whispered in my ear how lovely it was and he was right. We were married right in front of the fire and held hands tightly the whole way through. We opted for very simple vows and just one reading by my brother, Joe. He read us an apache wedding blessing which was just perfect for our simple ceremony in the woods.


Keeping It Local

We held our wedding dinner at the Hoste Arms in Burnham Market, which is our local and serves amazing local produce – so it seemed like the perfect choice. With such a small group we were able to order whatever we liked from the menu and we loved it that we didn’t have to choose for our guests. The staff were incredible and it was so nice that we knew them all well from having been in there as regulars over the last few years.

Having such a small group meant that we could have plenty of champagne and some really lovely wines, which was perfect for us as we knew that good food and wine was a top priority.


DIY Design

Being a graphic designer by trade, I designed our invitations myself. I just adore letterpress so I got in touch with Cardlab who did an amazing job of setting the tone for our day with lovely, thick, rich pressed invitations in a gorgeous pocket with a hydrangea motif that I designed. They also made us some gorgeous tags with a blush ribbon which they printed each guest’s name on – I then tied the tags to mini milk bottles which I got from Vintage Home & Garden, and used them as little vases – giving each of our guests a rose and some sage as their place names. Our guests loved them and quite a few of them took them home, it was lovely.


NO Rules

There are no rules – so you can design the wedding that feels right for you – we wanted an intimate tiny ceremony but were worried about offending those we couldn’t invite. We settled on holding a fantastic cocktail party in London to share with all our friends and relatives who couldn’t be at the ceremony and it was great. I also really enjoyed planning it quickly – it doesn’t have to take two years or even one! Something I discovered was that having a wedding on a weekday instead of a Saturday (we got married on a Friday) means that you might be able to get the best suppliers, even at short notice.


Click here & view all images from this wedding

Ceremony Venue – Holkham hall
Reception Venue – The Hoste Arms
Make-Up – Emily at Love Moi Makeup
Brides Gown – Jenny Packham
Brides Headpiece – Avigail Adam
Maids Dress – Coast
Groom’s Suit – Suit Supply
Florist – Clare at Love Blooms
Photography – Katherine Ashdown

So then, how many of you are now considering some kind of gold leaf type headwear?

I am, and I’m not even getting married.

And that view? Priceless.

Big Ethereal Love

Charlotte xxx

Author: Charlotte O’Shea
Purveyor of short shorts. Make-up junkie. Hopes to grow old disgracefully.

43 thoughts on “Sequins, Metallics And No Rules.

  1. Ooh oooh ooohhh!!!! I am soooo blooming excited! I’m wearing virtually the same dress. .. JPs “Nicole” (shown in NYFW 2013)… Mine is in ivory though, as I’m a redhead. It’s the first time I’ve seen the dress on a real human (the super tall skinny girl on the runway doesnt do it justice!). I’m so happy you showed this wedding. I was honestly having a mini last minute freakout about the dress… now I feel more confident. Enough about me anyhow… Tori is stunning… loved the warmth and initimate feel. Smashing! !!!

  2. Wow! Fabulous wedding, everything is so right. Tori looks so perfect in an effortless way and the flowers are soo good. xx

  3. This is absolutely gorgeous. I have headed straight over to where she got that head piece from and bookmarked it for my wedding … which i am not even organising yet … or in fact have been proposed to … oh dear!!?

  4. Wow!!! I want to get married again!! What a staggeringly beautiful wedding!!! The dress is amazing- I had already earmarked it as my favourite EVER dress on Pinterest! Now I’m trying desperately to think of an occasion which I might need one for! Hmmmmm! Need to get invited to a red carpet event!

  5. This is my cuppa tea. The bride looks stunning, the wedding is natural and full of warmth. I love the flowers and I am very in love with lovely Tallulah! Congratulations x

  6. Beautiful! Everything looks so relaxed and happy. And Tori is stunning too! Love the dress. @jane have you had your final fittings yet? I had a mini-meltdown in my head a few weeks ago that my chosen dress wasn’t “bridal” enough (even though it is really me) but my fitting a week ago reassured me that all is well and I have made the right decision. I’m sure you have too, your dress is stunning! x

  7. @ajk … Thanks, I’ve not yet had my final fittings, so I think that’s part of my freakout… it’s been so long since I originally tried it on that I’m forgetting how if felt!! I’m sure you’re right, I just need to be reminded of how much I love it, kind of like a long-distance relationship ;).
    Thanks for the encouragement, best wishes for your day as well! J

  8. So nice to get such lovely comments, thank you! @jane – I really know what you mean about the skinny model at Jenny Packham! I almost didn’t even go and try any of her dresses on, I really thought they were for beanpoles but I’m really quite curvy and they are so flattering! Yours is absolutely stunning!

  9. I’ve been in Norfolk for a Christening this weekend – we ate at the Hoste Arms on Saturday!!
    All I kept thinking was that this would be a lovely place for a wedding reception 🙂
    Such a beautiful part of the country!!
    This is so gorgeous – I love tiny intimate weddings and I really really really want that golden garland.
    Fern x

  10. What a beautiful wedding, congratulations! I’m having a winter wedding and have fallen in love with just about everything here but particularly your gorgeous wrap. Can I ask where it is from?

  11. What lovely comments! I absolutely LOVED shooting Tori, Paul & Tallulah’s big day! I very much with all your comments amazing styling, happy, natural and relaxed which is what weddings are all about but it was also a visual feast! Tori made THE most beautiful bride and was wonderful in front of the camera. Her style I dream of having one day!

    Thanks again for posting Charlotte and to all you ladies for your comments, Katherine x

  12. Sarah the wrap was called Enfumé from BHLDN, I ordered it from the US and was so thrilled with it but I think it’s sold out now. They have some really lovely cover-ups but their line is quite summery at the moment – I bet they’ll stock more wintery ones later in the year. (If not I’m thinking of selling mine on here at some point!)

  13. This wedding had me dancing round RMW HQ for the best part of 20 minutes early this morning. This folks, is class – pure and simple. For me it’s got all the necessary components of a truly beautiful day – an exquisite dress, exciting and architectural florals, fashion forward hair and beauty, a heartstopping venue and breathtaking photography.

    And there’s a dog. Called Tallulah. Which essentially seals the whole deal for me. LOVE.

    P.S. Just off to buy a grecian headpiece from Avigail Adam because frankly folks I need this in my life.

  14. I love a wedding with a dog – so much so that I am thinking of borrowing my parents’ gorgeous but mad spaniel to run around in the background! but aside from that this wedding looks so natural and personal and every shot is just beautiful. Definitely in my personal top 5 RMW weddings, DEFINITELY!

  15. WOW! This is my ultimate favourite wedding I have ever seen! Exactly the sort of thing I want, but it’s so hard to imagine it all coming together how you see it in your head, but now I have this as a reference! It has it all! That Jenny Packham number is wonderful and suits Tori so well. I LOVE the hair. Love it so much. I had a trial and ended up with a huge bouffant a la Patsy Stone, I want THIS! So relaxed and pretty, not too bridal but still bridal. Sorry, that sounds mental! How did you do it yourself?!! Amazing. Beautiful. Congratulations! xxx

  16. Thank you Kate! I did my hair myself by literally throwing it up with some kirby grips and a bit of hairspray but looking back (especially the first image) I can see that it was really messy!! Whoops! The thing is just like you I really didn’t want pouffiness or curls or anything too bridal, but still wanted to be a bit bridal. I think that’s where the headpiece from Avigail saved me, it’s a bit boho bridal so it kind of worked with my messy hair! xx

    1. Thanks for getting back to me Tori, really kind of you! It’s not too messy at all! It’s perfect, honestly, I felt like a weirdo asking the hairdresser to mess up my hair! So glad to finally see a bride looking stunning and glamorous without all the fuss! Definitely going to attempt it myself. Did you use a bobble to tie it up first or just the pins? I have paid a deposit for a hairdresser and at my trial I went for a side bun, but I think she could do this for me! She seemed to understand the kind of style I wanted so I guess it’s just shifting the bun to the back and making it smaller! The headpiece is just amazing! I have my eye on a Jenny Packham one, very expensive, but your beautiful wedding has made up my mind to get it! Messy hair plus a posh headpiece should hopefully balance it all out. Thanks again Tori xxx

  17. Kate no bobble, I just used the pins but my hair is really thin and light so grips are enough. The tricky part was getting the crown to sit well with the hair so I reckon you’re right it’s a good idea to still use a hairdresser. Actually I also wished I hadn’t washed my hair on the day because that made it harder to control! Good luck and so exciting that you’re buying the JP headpiece!! xx

    1. Aw bless you, thank you so much! I’m going to take your advice and keep the hairdresser but show her the hundreds of photos of your wedding that are now slathered all over my pinterest! Thanks again xxx

  18. I love this – def a fav of mine despite the dress envy (being too booby for JP breaks my heart – the rebeading would have been a nightmare). We are only having 15 guests so I love to see a beautifully done teeny weeny wedding – I was starting to worry when people are saying ‘gosh that is a small wedding!’ eeeek!!! All the florals are to die for – that bouquet is a showstooper. I am obsessed with hydrangeas but maybe need to convince the boy to buy me a bike to show them off in, as well as a lovely dog! 😉
    I hope our little do is even half as lovely, off to look at Whistles earrings now!

  19. I am so enjoying reading all your amazing comments!

    Tori was a very special bride with an awesome style of her own so if you get some inspiration from the photos I am thrilled!

    Thanks to Tori for creating such a stunning wedding for me to shoot, I am so glad I was available for the day : )

    Thanks to Charlotte for sharing and Lolly your comment made me laugh! x

  20. OMG, I almost fainted after seeing this amazing photo shoot. tori, your wedding is out of a fairy tale. Could not ask for a better model for my Greek crown. And Katherine- wow! thats all I have to say! About the messy updo, well done indeed. For all the goddesses out there who eyed this piece, the trick is to put the crown over the hair, and then twisting the hair over the crown (only the side parts of the hair or all of it- up to you), which holds it up sort of like the way combs work, locking it around the headband, giving you that natural messy look. comes with instructions.

  21. Stunningly amazingly beautiful wedding !!
    And love the spaniel : )
    The Bride looks dreamy!
    Could you tell me the name of the headpiece so can order the right one from this talented lady’s website….? Xxx

  22. Hi Tori Just recieved a call from a lady who had seen this post and wants to talk about venue styling / prop hire, thank you so much for the mention. The photographs are incredible, love to you both and Tallulah x

  23. Oops I’m a bit late to this little love-in! Such a gorgeous day and amazing that you did it in 2 months! I really hope my day is as happy and relaxed as this one 🙂 I’m the same colouring as Tori so getting a lot of inspiration and it’s nice to hear that the Jenny Packham dress works on someone curvy (as you said although you do look v slim!), now just have to get the funds to buy one… The headdress is sooo beautiful, solves the dilemna of ‘do I really want actual flowers in my hair – what about the insects, etc?!’

  24. How have I just seen this wedding?! That last picture is EPIC!!!! Love the portrait shorts, the photography is awesome and the whole thing is just stunning.

  25. The wedding of my dreams! Please get in touch with me if you ever want to sell that beautiful wrap! I can’t find it anywhere!!

  26. Hi Tori. What a stunning wedding! I am actually planning my own wedding at The Temple for next summer, and was wondering what hire company you used for your lovely blue car? Thanks,

    1. Hi Sally, How exciting you’ve booked the temple! I think you’ll just love it there, the ceremony was so special to us tucked away in the woods! The car was a Jaguar Mark 2 from, thy were absolutely brilliant, can highly recommend them.

      Hope you have an amazing day! Feel free to get in touch if you have any questions about the temple from a fellow bride’s point of view! xx

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