If you’re anything like me then you’re a hopeless romantic.
You probably openly admit that you love Valentine’s Day despite being fully aware that it’s a commercial gimmick, cry at every romantic film you’ve ever watched and you’re a compulsive hoarder of every single note and letter than your beau has written to you. Actually that last trait makes me sound slightly odd doesn’t it…
If you are indeed a member of the ‘hopeless romantic’ club then I’d wager that you’re currently or have already agonised over which readings and/or poems to include in your w-day. The ceremony was hand-over-fist the best part of our wedding but it took us a darned long time to find the most perfect passages for it.
I’ll take a moment to admit here that there was a point when we thought that we might not actually find anything that we really liked or that reflected us as a couple. You can imagine then the despairing cries of aforementioned ‘hopeless romantic’ one month before the big day.
I won’t bore you with the details but suffice to say this is not an experience that I want you to endure. With this in mind, what more can I do than to share some of my favourite poems, lyrics and readings with you in the hopes that it will inspire you on the way to wedding ceremony glory.
If you can’t stand the twee sentimentality of so many conventional wedding readings (I hear ya lady!!) then ‘Foxtrot From A Play’ by W H Auden might be your bag. It’s sweet without being saccharine and funny too. It canters along at a fairly decent pace so if you’re not one for long ceremonies then this will slot in perfectly without taking up too much time.
I actually chose ‘Love’ by Roy Croft for my own big day alongside one other poem which I haven’t included in this post namely because it includes some choice swear words and the ’s’ word. Trust me there were a couple of raised eyebrows but the boy and I loved the poem so much that we had to include it.
‘Love’ was our tamer reading but no less powerful for it. It resonates with me partly because even within its lines it speaks of a relationship between two people and the role love has to play within it. It’s a two way thing people! Admittedly this is a shortened version of the whole poem but the lines ‘I love you for putting your hand into my heaped-up heart and passing over all the foolish, weak things, that you can’t help dimly seeing there’ still make me tearful every time I read them.
‘Valentine’ by Carol Ann Duffy is perhaps an unconventional choice but I’ve been fascinated by it ever since I read it as part of my GCSE English course. Incidentally did anyone else have that anthology? It’s powerful, it’s passionate and a bit dark too. You could even argue that it’s slightly critical of marriage but I choose to overlook this because of the gritty truth that emanates from its lines.
‘The Velveteen Rabbit’ by Margery Williams is slightly longer than your average poem but I can’t help but implore you to have it for your big day. Gorgeously written with bagfuls of emotion and depth and of course, love, I guarantee that you’ll have every couple in the place looking at each another with misty eyes. One of my dearest friends included it in her big day last year and I nearly blubbed my way out of the service…
Lastly why not think about using lyrics instead of more traditional readings and poems? I walked down the aisle to Angus and Julia Stone’s ‘The Wedding Song’ because the boy and I heard the song together one hot summer’s day and immediately fell in love with the delicious lyrics.
Is there a song that is close to your heart? Why not read it aloud on your big day…
So there we have it – a few of our favourites as a starter for ten but we’d really appreciate it if you would share yours too, that way the RMW community can all be inspired by each other’s romantic genius.
All my love Lolly xxx