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Love In The School Yard.

There’s not many of us that can say that they’ve got married and have held their wedding reception in a headmaster’s garden at a real life school. But Alice and George did just that in July earlier this year.

Their beautiful ceremony took place in the Charterhouse School’s chapel – an exquisite building that is most definitely a far cry from the scrappy hall that I used to have assembly in when I was a young lass.

The newlyweds then headed over to the house of George’s father who happens to be the Headmaster of Charterhouse School to continue the celebrations.

All the gorgeous images below come courtesy of our Love Lust List supplier Weddings Vintage.

And just wait until you see Alice’s dress, folks…it is breathtakingly beautiful.

Headmaster, Vicar and Toastmaster Too

My now father-in-law is the Headmaster of Charterhouse School, but also happens to be a vicar, so he married us in the chapel and acted as the toast master for the day.

The wedding was on the first day of the Olympics, so the night before with my bridesmaids (and one usher) we watched the opening ceremony in the hotel bar as we ate some food. 

Original French Lace

The wonderfully fabulous Jane Bourvis made my dress (there is no other way to describe her!)

I work in Portobello where her shop is and I was passing one day and popped in not knowing it sold wedding dresses, and before George had even asked me!. When I was in there I saw this amazing dress and thought it I ever get married that would be my perfect dress.

George proposed three weeks later the day after my 30th birthday, on the long walk to Windsor. One lunchtime I thought ‘Oh wow that dress!’, so I went back, tried it on, and that was the dress I purchased.

It was half made and so Jane and I worked together to create my perfect dress. I have a degree in fashion design and so it was a brilliant collaboration of ideas, and lovely to be able to have some input. So many dresses are off the shelf, so it was extra special to see it evolve. The original piece of lace was over 125 years old and came from a French auction house, and was a stunning champagne colour.

Jane did a fantastic job and I still pop in to see her and have a good chat.

A 1920’s Original

I was very lucky girl in that Jane Bourvis lent me this exquisite original 1920 head piece. I had been looking for one for ages and stumbled across hers deep in the piles of beautiful things in her store.

It happened to be one of the few things that were not for sale so she kindly let me wear it; I will be forever grateful!

I had my hair put up by Harrington’s in Guildford. I think I might be rather fussy about my hair as the trial was supposed to take half and hour and I was in there three.. oops, but they were very patient.

Shoes Can Be A Logistical Nightmare

For my shoes I used a company called Rainbow shoes, who dye to match.

Trying to get six bridesmaids into the same pair of shoes is a logistical nightmare!

We got there in the end with some Dune wedges with gold straps. I went with wedges as they are easy to walk on in the grass that had a more country feel.

I realised I had lost a pair of the bridesmaids shoes the night before the wedding. Luckily, one of my bridesmaid’s boyfriends came to the rescue and tracked a pair down on the morning of the day and completed an hour round trip to go and get them. The missing pair haven’t shown up!

Naughty Bridesmaids

I had both my own and the bridesmaids’ hair done by the lovely Louise from Laura Mercier in Guildford. She did a fantastic job and didn’t even mind when she left the room for 5 mins and came back to find my naughty bridesmaids with their fingers in the make-up bag and in the eye shadows!

A Very Talented Mother-In-Law

I am very lucky that my now mother-in-law is a very talented florist so she helped me with everything. I wanted a very loose and country wild feel. We went to Longacres Nursery in Bagshot, which is amazing, huge and full of every flower imaginable whilst being very reasonably priced.

We visited Longacres on the Wednesday and put the arrangements together on the Friday. I collected lots of jam jars and raided my grandpa’s shed for old oil cans which I put flowers in.

Floral Jacquard

As my bridesmaids dresses were a multicoloured floral jacquard design I wanted to keep the flower girl dresses and George/groomsmen’s outfits as plain as possible. The dresses were from Jigsaw, I used to work there as the print designer, so it was a dress I had worked on which made it very special.

I actually got the flower girl dresses made in China using this website. The website is amazing, and the service was so quick. It was a bit of a risk as I didn’t know what champagne colour would look like but as a complete fluke it was exactly the same colour as the slip of my dress! They were a bargain at £30.

The flower girl shoes were little sparkly pumps from Monsoon.

Gold Foulard

George went to Savile Row and the Hackett store to get his waistcoat and tie with his brother (best man) and Father. He got a gold foulard design tie and a plain sand coloured waistcoat.

A Natural Style

I was really struggling to find an affordable photographer who was very natural in their style. I wanted somebody who could take shots as natural as possible so they did not look too contrived. I was recommended Harriet Gill of Weddings Vintage by a friend; she was fantastic and exactly what I was looking for.

She was brilliant on the day and was the perfect choice. She arrived the day before in the middle of my meltdown (every bride has one once!) and was just so lovely!

A DIY Cake

I really do not think you need to spend too much money on the cake as you can buy brilliant plain ones and be creative. I bought 4 plain tiers from Marks and Spencer and some ribbons and my mother put it together the night before, and finished it of with some wild flowers.

Blue Suede Shoes

We hired a jazz band, the Blue Suede Shoes, from Function Central who played a great 2 hour set of funk and swing set to get everybody dancing! Afterwards a friend, who is a very talent DJ, played for us!

As George’s father is a vicar our first dance was to ‘Son of a Preacher man’; the lyrics in it are very apt!

A Dab Hand In The Kitchen

George made Nigella Lawson’s chilli jam for all of our favours and I made the labels and stuck them on with string tied around a fabric top. We had an old school luggage tag that had everybody’s names on it as their place names on the table.

Alice In Wonderland

The marquee was in my parent’s in-law’s garden which is an old Gertrud Jekyll design, it is already naturally very beautiful, and so I wanted to bring the outside in. We pulled all of the sides of the Marquee up so it was more like a giant gazebo. We bought some giant white balloons and some helium and put them on the tables and on the entrance to the tent.

There is a separate summer house in the garden which we used as the children’s table for when the speeches were taking place, and put up some pink bunting for them.

As my name is Alice, I wanted a slight theme to the day (Alice in Wonderland) and thought it would also compliment the walled garden. I had small touches around like little signs, saying; rabbit hole’ and this way to the party etc.

We didn’t really have a strong colour theme as I think sometimes it can look a bit much with everything all in the same shade, we wanted something that felt a bit looser, which meant I could play with lots of different wild flowers in multicoloured shades.

I made quite a lot of things for the wedding. I designed and made the invitations with George which was a real labour of love…not so much after 100!

I couldn’t find any black and white checked bunting and so I decided to make it myself…150 metres later! I also realised on the day I only needed about 20, hahaha, so if anybody wants some bunting, get in touch!

For the table plan we used an old amazing frame we found on the street and painted it white with a hessian background, then typed out the plan on brown paper. I bought some cardboard numbers and the pinned them on to the board.

Moodboard Focus

My best friend helped me create a mood board at the beginning which was a massive help as it meant I could visualise exactly what I wanted. I had had all these ideas flying around and millions of blog images and felt a bit overwhelmed with everything I could do.

Creating it helped me focus on exactly what I wanted the day to look like, and what I needed to buy, where we could save money with things to make and how to show other people what I wanted, eg with the flowers etc.

It also helped me show George, and he said yes and no to things he definitely didn’t want.

Top Tips

My top tip is…give men specific tasks!
I would get a bit stressed and say why aren’t you helping I have so much to do, and he would say well “how do I know what needs doing when it’s all in your head! I am not a mind reader”. They don’t really care about the visual things to much, just present them with a choice like “blue or green” and they can say yes or no, not “what colour do you think”?

We started with lots of ideas and worked back to what was realistic. It’s impossible to do everything; you need to know when to stop, when to delegate and when to let go. Remember it’s really all about the love not about the napkin shades!

Get the major things sorted first, your venue, dress, food, theme and cars; the rest will follow! 

When I was worrying about family politics and what people would think of various elements of the wedding, somebody said to me if anybody is there that is not wishing you all the best and wanting you to have the perfect day then that’s their problem not yours!

Venue – Charterhouse School

Dress – Jane Bourvis

Shoes – Rainbow

Bridesmaid Dresses – Jigsaw

Bridesmaid Shoes – Dune

Flowergirl Shoes – Monsoon

Hair – Harrington’s

Make up – Laura Mercier

Flowers – Longacres Nursery

Photographer – Weddings Vintage

Cake – Marks and Spencer

Band – Blue Suede Shoes

Right about now I’ve developed a sudden urge to go out purchase some antique lace. Alice’s dress is simply dreamy.

She also has some sound advice too. If any of you are experiencing anxieties about family politics or even worrying about people’s perception of the wedding, then you’re not alone. I certainly had my own fair share of drama.

I absolutely 110% agree with Alice’s philosophy that it’s their problem not yours. If you’re able to, try to let it float over your head – it simply won’t matter on the day anyway because it’s about you two as a couple and the love you have for one another.

She’s a wise girl is Alice.

So come on folks, what do you think? Which part of George and Alice’s day do you love the most?

I’ve got my eye on that jam…

All my love Lolly xxx

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Favour Me

This week’s inspiration post is a contentious one.

Contentious because what I’m about to show you has often divided folks into two camps – those that believe and those that don’t.

I’m talking about wedding favours folks.

For some of you, these dinky gifts are a sweet (and essential) way of demonstrating your thanks to your guests as well as continuing/supporting your wider wedding theme. For others they represent an unnecessary waste of a precious wedding budget that could really be more wisely spent elsewhere or donated to charity.

I can appreciate both sides of the argument. Honestly I really can.

I’ve attended several weddings this year – some bedecked with favours and some without. Whilst it was exciting to discover customised offerings left at our place settings, I didn’t feel that there was something missing at those weddings where they weren’t provided.

Perhaps this is because I understand the financial reasons behind not offering a favour. Maybe a favour-less wedding is swiftly becoming the norm with modern weddings. Either way I don’t feel bereft when I come away from a wedding without a little gift.

As a girl steeped in tradition and who has a penchant for Time Team however (incidentally I’m happy to accept any box-sets of the series if there’s any going spare) there was no doubt that I was going to include favours in the wedding budget. I’ve enjoyed hunting the most perfect examples of these gifts down and they’ll look amazing as part of the wider wedding decor.

In fact I spent much of yesterday sourcing the final touches for the favours and I’m confident that they’ll look fabulous; I can’t wait to share them with you.

In the meantime I wanted to show you gorgeous lot the variety of options available to you on the favour front.

It’s not just about sugared almonds you know…

Foodie Heaven

The majority of favours that I’ve been the lucky recipient of have been food-related. You name it, I’ve had it – we’re talking macaroons, sweets, jam and honey, even sloe gin. All utterly delicious of course.

Hell, I even toyed with the idea of giving our guests one of those tea flowers that blooms when you pour water over it just because they look so pretty at a place setting. The boy put his foot down (AGAIN!) so we haven’t ventured down this path. Shame really – they would have looked epic!

The fact remains, I love a good food favour…

So, it seems, do a lot of modern brides.

Lately I’ve seen everything from flavoured salts, savory popcorn, cookies and milk, pears and even specially picked tea.

I so would have liked to have been a guest at each of these weddings.

Perhaps you’re having your nuptials at Christmas, if so why not provide your nearest and dearest with a homemade favour with a tin of a mulled wine mix and an individual mince pie. Alternatively if you’re having a summer affair, a tiny punnet of fresh strawberries would look adorable in a customised paper bag.

Foodie favours look particularly striking when stored en mass and can actually help form part of your overall wedding decor. Don’t feel obliged to place these treats at guests’ place settings, instead display them wherever you feel they will be shown off to their maximum advantage.

For example why not encourage your guests to sign your guestbook by placing your gifts for them next to it. They can express their love for you and pick up their token of affection in return, all at the same time.

Talk about killing two birds with one stone…

Created With Love

We’ve established that wedding favours are not necessarily top of every bride to be’s agenda. When you consider the financial cost involved in providing a gift to every guest at an average wedding then we’re looking at a fairly sizable sum of money so we understand why some prefer to by-pass this tradition altogether.

At RMW we’ve noticed that more couples are opting for double duty wedding favours, creating personalised treats for their guests that double up as a place name too. Not only is this kind on the pocket but folks then feel honoured that you’ve taken the time and effort to really provide something special for them on your big day.

For a truly unique and DIY approach think about customising the packaging of your favour or creating a unique twist on a classic such as a bespoke scented candle custom made by you and your beau.

If your wedding budget doesn’t quite stretch to providing a little something to each and every attendee why not assemble bespoke welcome packs for your most treasured guests particularly if they have travelled a long way.

You could include edible treats, a map, a bottle of something special and a list of recommended places to visit/ things to do all bundled together in a customised cotton bag and leave it in their hotel for them to discover on their arrival.

Exciting or what?!

Sweet Tooth

Whilst we’ve covered the food favour already in this post, I did want to dedicate a special inspiration board to sweet and baked goods purely because there’s just so blinking many of them.

Cookies, cakepops, mini versions of the wedding cake, macaroons, lollipops, sweeties, cupcakes and chocolate bars, the list goes on and on and on.

If you’ve got a sweet tooth like me, then I’m sure that you will have let out a little squeal of glee when you discover a confectionery treat glinting at you as you take your seat at the wedding breakfast.

Ladies there are just so many options available to you that you’ll drive yourselves round the bend trying to choose just one. So take my advice, why not have them all…

No I’m serious. Here at RMW HQ we’ve noticed an increasing number of brides hosting a ‘food station’ on their big day as their gift to their guests. I love the idea of a ‘make your own midnight snack’ which could range from anything from s’mores to a popcorn bar.

Alternatively a dessert table is a wonderfully modern take on the traditional wedding favour too. I’d suggest stacking pre-wrapped cellophane packages of treats for guests to take away in case they’re still feeling a little full from earlier indulgences.

Treasured Memories

I think I’ve said in previous posts that I am the type of guest that keeps not only the invites but also the place name, order of service and any other paraphrenalia from the weddings I attend.

Yes I am a little bit odd.

Eccentric you might say, but the fact remains that I like to hang on to those things that have sentimental value, so that in years to come I can rediscover and relive the memories from the day.

You can see why then, my favourite gifts are those that you can keep forever or that at least possess a little longevity. We’re talking vintage hankies, miniature enameled pots and even tiny silver toys for those of you with a larger budget.

Modern brides are on the whole more socially conscious than their forebears. And with this improved moral compass comes a raft of eco-friendly wedding favour ideas. We’re seeing an increased use of recycled materials and natural components such as seed gifts in brown paper packages customised with a sweet message from the couple themselves.

My favourite keepsake though is of little plants bedded in terracotta or antiqued pots, lovingly placed at each table setting. Not only will they live on after the wedding day is long over but they’ll add interest and a vibrancy to the tablescape at the reception itself.

If that isn’t a reason to integrate favours into your day then I don’t know what is.

Beautifully Wrapped

I’m a girl that loves details.

Clearly.

So I LOVE it when a couple really take time over how they choose to package a favour as much as the gift itself. In fact the key to a really successful gift owes a great deal to how it is presented because of the part this plays in the overall experience. The suspense, the intrigue, the care; we love it all.

So I implore you folks to really let your creative juices flow.

If your gift is a boxable or baggable affair, consider choosing a more unusual container to store it in. Using customised cotton pouches or even mini brown paper bags tied with raffia and string really take a conventional gift to the next level.

Alternatively, wrapping penny sweets or mini chocolate bars in luxurious paper and finishing them off with coloured string is a fantastic way of introducing a dollop of luxury to an everyday offering without breaking the bank – you can even colour code the packing materials so that it matches your wedding scheme too.

Lastly use decadent fabric and ripped strands of thick silk ribbons, interesting textures and colours for a luxe effect; contrast is always good too. Think about introducing your monograms in a sticker format as if you have one as a final touch.

So what do you think?

Are you giving your guests favours? Will they be food related or a DIY affair?

Or are you completely non-plussed by the favour agenda? Perhaps you think it’s all a waste of time.

As always lovelies, we want to hear your opinions on the matter.

All my love Lolly xxx

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