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Shoreditch Soulmates.


Today’s wedding is absolutely EPIC. We have two ceremonies – a traditional Hindu ceremony followed by a Christian ceremony, then followed by a huge Shoreditch shindig. There is bright, bold vibrant colour AND monochrome chic. There are delicate canapés AND curry and chocolate samosas. There are matrimonial knots AND ‘you may now kiss the brides.’ There are Indian Dhol drummers AND a reggae funk band. Best of both worlds? Most definitely. Any excuse to have two dresses is fine by me. In fact, I’d say it is actively encouraged by RMW.

Any one who is currently planning a mash-up wedding needs to read Jess’s wise words. Her and Jay’s day looks like it went seamlessly, a testament to their planning skills and the fact that they kept everyone well fed, watered and entertained all day long.

There is also some fabulous initial branding for you lovely lot – we know how much you love a strong graphic theme.

Ready for the EPIC-NESS? Here we go…


Our Old Stomping Ground

Jess the Bride: Being in the East of London was important for us – it was our stomping ground in the early days of our relationship and is where we have now chosen to settle down (we heart Hackney) so first of all, finding the right Church was key. Shoreditch Church really embodies the rawness of the East End. Combine this with a fantastic vicar and a vast history (from members of the Shakespearian linked Burbage family being buried in the crypt to shrapnel from the Second World War still lodged in the tower) and the decision was easy.


So then, onto the venue for the other elements of our wedding day – including a Hindu Ceremony as well as the reception. We were spoilt for choice in Shoreditch, with all manner of venues all with very different vibes, but in the end we went with Village Underground.

Village Underground is a venue with mega cool factor, an urban castle in our books! Certainly not your average wedding venue but it captured our imagination with its raw edge. The mix of spaces inside also appealed, from the main hall to the more intimate arches; it provided us with the variety in space to match the variety of our wedding day. It’s also essentially a blank canvas, and allowed us to bring our own style, which we had a lot of fun doing! The team at the venue are really supportive, used to prepping for gigs as opposed to weddings; they bring a fresh take on how the venue can be used.


Vibrant Colour Versus Monochrome Chic

We had two ceremonies, a vibrant Hindu ceremony filled with deep pink, silvers and golds and a crisp monochrome theme for the Church ceremony – so planning a look that could sustain with minimal adaptation for them both was a challenge – particularly with only 30 minutes to change between the two!

After two uninspiring makeup trials I found the Glam Collective and a lovely lady called Alex Chalk (a Mac trained artist) who brought a look based around colour pop lipstick and a dramatic eye, perfect for the Hindu ceremony but easily adaptable with a change to a nude lipstick for the Church. I had an excuse to wear my colour pop lipstick, but for the brave looking to pack a real ‘pow’ I would definitely recommend Nicki Minaj for Mac’s Viva Glam Satin lipstick, which lasted the course despite kisses and tears!


For my hair, I opted for a simple side bun, again a look that would sustain for both ceremonies with no re-work in between! I also always wear my hair down so I wanted to do something that was a bit different. My hair stylist, our mate Fred who works full time at Pimps and Pinups in Spitalfields Market, curled my hair first and pinned the curls to create the bun, giving our guests something pretty to look at during the ceremonies but also giving me the option to take my hair out later in the reception and brush out for a 1930’s inspired wave, although I was having so much fun I didn’t end up doing this!

My nails were my forever nail varnish recommendation, Nails Inc. – I had a nude pink colour on my hands and black on my toenails, again sustainable for both ceremonies without any colour clashes and complimented my wonderful henna!

I made a call that there would be distinct Indian ‘make-up’ elements that would prevail from the Hindu ceremony to the Church ceremony and the rest of the day. The henna on my hands and feet was obviously one of these but I also decided not to remove the red pigment Jay placed in my parting during the Hindu ceremony, which signified I was now a married woman.


Just As I Imagined

I had two gowns, I’m a very lucky lady! My Indian gown was bespoke made for me by Raishma in London, a great boutique on Green Street near Forest Gate in London. My dress was an adaptation of an Indian designer dress I’d found online, which had a Western silhouette, strapless with a full skirt, but was covered with crazy detailed embroidery and stonework.

Raishma worked a variation of this up. Considering my skin tone we opted for a deep pink rather than red and used an embroidery pattern and stonework Raishma had used on another of their bespoke gowns. The dress was beautiful but massively heavy given the full skirt and embroidery and there were a lot of ‘final’ fittings to ensure it held up! The seamstress at Raishma wouldn’t rest until she was sure it was going to!


As my Indian dress was so extravagant, I wanted a complete contrast for my Church wedding dress. I did the usual trawl around bridal boutiques and confirmed the shape of dress I wanted – full skirt and strapless (to hide my hips and to show off the thinner bits of my upper body so I could feel like a true princess!) but all the dresses I found were detailed, embroidered or embellished in some way. I was looking for something plain, the wow-factor driven by its shape not its diamante.

So I spent hours (which must have amounted to days!) online trying to find what was in my head. Eventually I stumbled across a little boutique called Love Yu, based in Singapore, with the perfect dress made from layers of silk organza and a quirky design twist of a shell scalloped bodice. I took a massive gamble ordering a non-refundable dress online, providing my measurements over email. The gamble paid off however, and with a little help from a seamstress I found on Gumtree who made some final tweaks and my contrasting black sash to tie in with our monochrome theme, it all came together just as I had imagined.


Extra Blingy Wow Factor

I got my Indian outfit jewellery bespoke made from Kyles on Green Street near Forest Gate in London. It’s a great process where you try on all manner of head pieces, necklaces, earrings and bracelets to ensure you get the right set. I opted for a fusion design in my headpiece to contrast modern simplistic elements with the traditional for a bit of a twist! My earrings, necklace and bracelets were all relatively traditional and I chose gold metalwork with clear crystals to bring out the embroidery and stonework in my dress for that extra blingy wow- factor – you’re only a bride once after all!

In contrast, the accessories I chose for my Church wedding dress were simple. I bought a Susan Caplan Vintage Dior necklace to wear, however my mum came back from a trip to China with a string of pearls that set off the dress and my neckline beautifully, so these are what I ended up wearing on the day, although there was last minute deliberation amongst the bridesmaids before I left the hotel room!


A Shoe Thing

As all girls do, I have a bit of a ‘shoe thing’ and managed to buy 3 pairs of shoes as ‘potentials’ to wear on my wedding day. First, I considered changing my shoes between outfits, so bought a pair of Sam Edelman’s Alena sandals in black to wear with my Indian dress and a pair of contrasting cerise Miu Miu platform sandals to wear with my Church wedding dress (for a bit of a colour glimpse when I was walking). Then I saw one of the pairs of shoes the bridesmaids were potentially looking at buying – a green, gold and silver sandal from ASOS, which I couldn’t resist, just in case the other 2 pairs didn’t work! In the end I wore the Sam Edelman’s all day – the heel was just the right height and black tied in with both of the outfits, with the gold detailing and heel ensuring they were a little bit different and a little bit special.

I got my veil from Angelica Bridal in Camden Passage in Angel. Despite the fact I didn’t order my dress from them, they were happy to help me with accessories. In line with my simple campaign, I opted for a single tiered satin trimmed veil with no detailing.


Skinny Ties And Green Saris

Our ushers and father of the bride were asked to wear a slick black suit all day to tie in with the monochrome theme. The only other colour splash they had was the green in their button hole flowers – green was the colour accent of the day. Brothers of the bride and groom treated themselves to a 3 piece suit from Reiss bespoke tailoring service and Jay provided a uniform skinny tie to all ushers, best man and the father of the bride to bring their looks together in line with his.

The bridesmaids wore green saris for the Hindu ceremony in line with the green colour note that was prevalent throughout the day and switched into elegant black floor length gowns by Biba for the Church wedding and evening reception. My flower girl similarly wore a bright Indian suit for the Hindu ceremony and then changed into a cute black organza pinafore style dress with a bolshie skirt for the Church ceremony.


Green, Silver And White

Gold, silver and white were the foundation colours of our day with a starring colour focus on green. We carried the green accent through from our wedding invitations, which were made for us by a very talented graphic designer friend, Laura Hussey.

One of our starring decorations were our BonBon Balloons. These are the brainchild of Rebecca Moyster, founder of BonBon Balloons, who I discovered in a Stylist magazine feature. They are clear helium balloons filled with confetti, with a cool craft string attached. Rebecca worked with us to create bespoke designs for the string and confetti around our colour theme, which included picking up design elements we had used in our invitations on the string, such as hearts, stars, hummingbirds and rabbits. These balloons formed the centre piece for each table.

As Village Underground is such a blank canvas, lighting is key. We opted for a festoon style rope above our dining area and in the bar and softer uplighters in the arch where we held the Hindu ceremony and later the dance floor. We decided to make another feature of the lighting and got a bit self-obsessed, choosing to hire a giant ‘J&J’ lighting sign from the cool kids at Vowed and Amazed. It set the venue off a treat when hung in stark contrast to the exposed brick wall and was a great backdrop for us at top table!


Flowers Galore

The Hindu ceremony was full of flowers, from neck garlands to bouquets for both Jay and I, through to the flowers that adorned the top of the Mandap structure, aptly provided by Jay and I events, under which we married. These were all procured from specialist Indian florists.
For the rest of the day, our flowers were provided by an amazing florist – a friend of a friend who does floristry as a side to her design consultancy business. We kept to white flowers for our monochrome colour scheme, using a mixture of tulips, including parrot tulips for a bigger green accent, roses and foliage. This was the basic design for each of the bridal party bouquets. We used tulips for the groomsmen’s button holes and the pew ends in the church. We also had two large pedestals full of tulips and roses at the front of the Church, which we later transported to Village Underground to bring a bit of life to the bar area.


Alongside the balloon centre pieces for the tables, we had three mini jars for roses and tulips at varying stages of bloom. Some of the tulips were closed to enhance the green colour scheme. I didn’t want an overpowering floral centrepiece so the jars worked to give a crisp yet dainty floral accent to each table.

Two Balloons

My most prevailing memories of my wedding day are the bits where I looked into Jay’s eyes and promised to be his forever, cheesy but true. We were pretty traditional in our approach to both the Hindu and Church ceremonies but we did choose one reading on soulmates, which we both thought was very cute and inadvertently emphasised our balloon centre pieces!

“A Soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys that fit our locks. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we are two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes our life come to life.”


Bang The Drum

We started the night off with a bit of an entrance, being led back into the venue by some Indian Dhol Drummers. It was a great way to kick start the party!

We found our band on the website Function CentralThe Mustangs. They were a great group who took modern songs and gave them a reggae funk soul makeover. They were more than happy to expand their repertoire for us, and created their own version of our first dance song too. We got moving to an old Fleetwood Mac classic ‘Everywhere’.

We also had our photographer, the fabulous Chris Barber, set up one of his photo booths where guests can choose their costume weapon of choice and make complete fools of themselves in front of the camera. Some of our favourite and most hilarious wedding shots were born through this process!


Feeding The Troops

As our wedding day was so long, kick starting at 9.30am and running through to the next morning at 2am, we needed to keep our guests well fed and watered! When the Hindu wedding ceremony finished at noon, we had one of my friends, the exceptionally talented Milli Taylor, produce a wealth of delicious and delectable classic English canapés, which were served for an hour to top everyone up, alongside a selection of our favourite cocktails and mocktails.

After the Church ceremony, we all ferried back to Village Underground, the guests on an old Route Master bus and Jay and I in a cute Morris Minor, which we hired from Mark at Wedding Classic Cars (they have a great vintage car selection and were really lovely on the day). We sat down to an Indian banquet, provided for us from the guys at Premier Rouge catering. We enjoyed everything from a classic biriyani to the slightly unconventional chocolate samosa! And just in case anyone got peckish in the evening we also put on some Indian finger foods – yum!

Our cake was made by my Dad, who is a fruit cake maker novice turned fancied extraordinaire (having now made 4 wedding cakes). He’s better at the inside than the outside though and we asked a professional cake maker to help with the icing. Together my Dad and I added the finishing touches with a bit of green ribbon and a cascade of mini icing flowers.


We wanted to add a personal touch to our favours as well, so continuing the indulgent J&J theme, we ordered J&J boxes from The Letter Room to house our favours. On a weekend away in Paris earlier in the year, we had seen a cute petit fours idea, taking a square of chocolate, and using a spot of melted chocolate to attach dried fruit, nut or marshmallow to the top of the square. We decided we wanted to use this idea for our favours, adding in a few Indian sweets, wrapping in cellophane with a little green bow to fit inside the boxes. It looked good, but took two days of mummy of the bride, bride and bridesmaid effort!

Gold Frames And Green Ribbon

We built on the invites Laura (my graphic designer chum) had created, with the same graphic themes carried throughout all of our stationery, including the two orders of service, the order of the day and seating plan, our cocktail list at the bar, the toilet signs, the menu and place names and the flags we used for table numbers. We used a mixture of green, white or black font and designs on green or white backgrounds. We tied the metallic colours of the day in by putting our cocktail lists, order of the day and seating plan in gilt gold frames and Laura spent hours tying our place names to green ribbon so they could be tied to the menus! For the table numbers, we bought glass bottles to sit amongst the jars of flowers and balloon centre piece and stuck our flags to wooden dowel, so they would sit in the bottles. Laura arranged all the printing for us, but it doesn’t come cheap, so if you are going to undertake design of your stationery to such a bespoke level beware of the costs!


As Personal As Possible

We had quite a few children at our wedding, so we wanted to ensure they were kept busy. We bought ‘J’ branded cotton bags for each table with children (in keeping again with our self-centred letter theming!) and filled the bags with activity books and crayons – they were a big hit!
Our wedding was a jam packed day from start to end, we managed over 30 suppliers, did a few things DIY and ran to a very tight schedule but given it’s a once in a lifetime day it was well worth all the effort. We’d encourage everyone to get as personal as they can around every choice they make for their wedding and don’t be afraid to truly reflect yourselves in every element of your day!


Venue – Village Underground
Bride – Raishma and Love Yu, based in Singapore
Jewellery – Kyles
Shoes – Sam Edelman’s Alena
Veil – Angelica Bridal
Makeup – Alex Chalk @ Glam Collective
Hair – Fred @ Pimps and Pinups
Groom and Groomsmen – Reiss
Bridesmaids – Biba
Band – The Mustangs
Catering – Milli Taylor and Premier Rouge
Photography – Chris Barber

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How much do you wish you could have attended that wedding? Everyone looks like they are having so much fun. I’m so glad Jess went with Indian style make up – she looks gorgeous. And how amazing is the jewellery?
I honestly don’t think Jess and Jay could have done better…the whole day looks like the perfect mix of tradition, fun with family and friends and being true to themselves.

Lots of love,
Fern x

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The Chateau Of Love.

We have a delicious destination for you today folks. And they don’t come much more delicious than the Chateau Rigaud, Mouliets et Villemartin in south-west France.

Situated between Bordeaux and Bergerac it was the perfect location for Rock My Wedding readers Kate and Greg to tie the knot as they both have a love of all things French.

Photography today is by Especially Amy.

Married In France

Greg and I have always really loved France – the food, the wine, skiing in the mountains! – and have spent loads of holidays there. We’d always had an idea of getting married in France, more laid back, the lovely food/wine, having a holiday with our friends and family, while still only asking them to take a short flight to get there. We looked at six venues in Hertfordshire (where we’re from and where we would have got married should we have gone for the UK) and six in France. The French options just blew us away! We ended up hiring Chateau Rigaud for four nights and the day before the wedding our guests went wine tasting or canoeing on the Dordogne River (in glorious 30 degree sunshine!) and for a meal on the river’s banks the evening before.

By the time the wedding came people had got to know each other quite well and everyone was really relaxed. We then had everyone back for Sunday brunch and for a dip in the pool – the perfect end to a perfect weekend!


The dress was Japonica by Ian Stuart. I bought it from the White Boutique in Bishops Stortford after looking in a number of places. It was one I’d tried on early on, my Mum and friend (and bridesmaid) Sam loved it and I kept thinking of it and comparing other dresses to it. I then took my cousin and bridesmaid Rachael to see it and try it on again and the decision was made! I didn’t want a strapless gown though – I feel I suit having a strap much better – and so we added the ivory silk straps on later (luckily Sam’s mum is a seamstress and was on hand to help!). I’d always wanted a lace dress – I’m not into sparkle or bling, but didn’t want something too plain, so felt lace was perfect. Plus it was French lace and I felt it was really in keeping with our vineyard setting. I just loved the fishtail shape of it – to me it felt much more elegant and womanly than an A-line gown, though I did love some of the ones I saw. I never wanted to look like a princess, I wanted something a bit more sophisticated (but not evening gown like or vampy!).

A couple of interesting things about the dress:

  1. My little brother bought it for me! My dad died in 2005 and when we got engaged I asked Mark to give me away. He said he’d like to buy me my wedding dress. I was incredibly touched and moved – it made the whole thing feel all the more special.
  2. The White Boutique called me just before Christmas and said they were having some repairs done to the shop roof. We’d planned for them to keep the dress until nearer the wedding when I’d go back for alterations, but the lady who worked there asked us to take it home for a month saying we could bring it back when the work was complete in the new year. When I called back in the new year though it seemed the shop had closed down – and it’s never reopened since. Thank goodness I got the dress and had Sam’s mum to step in and do alterations! Such as shame as the shop and lady who owned it were lovely.

Simple Jewellery

I kept my jewellery really simple and just wore a pair of pearl drop earrings which I picked up in John Lewis. I just thought they fit with the vintage feel of the dress. I didn’t think I needed a necklace or bracelet, the dress and lace were so pretty themselves that I was keen to make sure I didn’t overdo it or take away from the dress. Plus I of course had my engagement ring to sparkle!

In my hair I wore a sparkly comb from Not on the High Street – it kept my hair looking pretty when I removed my veil later in the evening. I decided to go for a chapel length plain ivory veil and I’m so pleased I did! There was a slight breeze on the day and it meant Amy got some great pics. It also just made me feel really special – as soon as I tried one on I knew I had to have it. The look just felt complete when I had it on! I’d intended to go back and buy my veil from the White Boutique but as I couldn’t I bought it online.

Simple Slingbacks

I opted for high slingback ivory silk peeptoe shoes with a small sparkly buckle – very simple. Again I didn’t want anything to take away from the dress! I wore them until the first dance when I changed into some gold stilettos with an ankle strap (the same as the ones my bridesmaids wore) as I was worried the slingbacks would fall off when dancing.

Alright On the Night

I went for a make-up lesson at Becca in South Kensington with my bridesmaid Sam a few weeks before the wedding. They gave me some great tips and I bought some lovely products. I also decided to get some false eyelashes which were done by Blink in Canary Wharf – I trialed them on the hen do to make sure they wouldn’t irritate me and loved them! They were fab as all weekend my eyelashes looked great and I didn’t even need to think about mascara! They really make such a difference. I’d decided to do my own make up assisted by Sam (who was amazing!) but on the day it all ended up being a bit of a rush… you think you have bags of time and then suddenly it flies!… so I don’t think I followed every step the Becca lady taught me! Still, it was alright on the night. I wanted a fairly natural look and it seemed ok!

I decided to have my hair half-up, half-down and this was done by Laura Cawte who is English and trained at Vidal Sasson but lives and works out in the area. She also did my bridesmaid’s hair, blow-dried the mum’s hair and did a set for Greg’s Grandma! She was great!

French Florals

The colour scheme for our wedding was pinks and champagne and I really wanted pink ranunculus as the main flower. It was touch and go as to whether they’d still be in season but thanks to the chilly spring we’ve had they were still around. The bouquets were made from these and lily of the valley which were my Grandma’s favourite flowers and always make me think of her (plus smell amazing!). These were combined with pink peonies and hydrangeas to make the floral decorations which looked great on the tables and I especially loved the rattan cones outside the barn door. The flowers were all done by Hayley at Chateau Rigaud who I was in regular contact with in the months running up to the big day.

Eleven Groomsmen

I bought the bridesmaid dresses from Marks and Spencer for £90 each – I’ve heard some horror stories about finding dresses everyone’s happy with so was really pleased to find dresses so easily which all the girls liked. I just emailed them a pic and we went for it! They were champagne 50s style swing dresses. I then bought fuchsia pink fabric (I managed to track down exactly the same fabric as the ushers’ ties) and Sam’s mum made sashes for them all. Each sash was slightly different which I loved – it made them all a bit individual and suited their style. Loads of people complimented them on the day – obviously it helped they were worn by such gorgeous girls as well!

Greg had been an usher/best man a number of times – he has a really big group of close friends and, though he chose his friend Ian (better known by his nickname Hannibal- don’t ask!) as best man, he couldn’t choose between his friends for ushers. Therefore he opted to have them all! So we ended up with 11! We therefore decided to just hire suits (dark grey tails) for Greg, the best man and my brother, and decided to just hire ties for the ushers and give each of them a buttonhole. We asked them each to wear a dark suit and a light shirt (which they all did bar one who turned up in a purple shirt!). It worked really well – as the colour was quite bold it was easy to identify them.

I also have a lot of really good girl friends and couldn’t have them all as bridesmaids so I asked Hayley to make them all wrist corsages which was a nice touch and was well received.

Smart And Handsome

Greg wore grey tails hired from Waterers in St Albans (who were brilliant in helping us have the suits for a longer period due to having the wedding in France) and a tie the same champagne colour as the bridesmaid dresses. He’s 6 foot 1 and slim and so really pulls off tails – he’s normally quite scruffy (in his industry he doesn’t wear suits etc) so it was lovely to see him smart and handsome on the big day!

The Right Choice

We chose Especially Amy after looking at her work on RMW and arranging a meeting. We were really impressed with the beautiful shots she’d taken of other weddings and she was so lovely and relaxed, we thought she’d really fit in on the day. She has a lovely style – assertive enough to get people where she wants them but not bossy! Amy really understands that you’re there to enjoy your wedding day, not just to pose for photos. Everyone commented on how great she was – we definitely made the right choice!

When In France…

I am a bit of a strange girl in that I have no sweet tooth at all, so we decided to go for a cheese cake for the wedding. It was made from English and French cheeses (to reflect the Anglo-Franco nature of the wedding!) I had a cake topper made to look just like Greg and I – eye colour, outfits etc – and they looked great! We also had a macaroon cake for those with a sweet tooth – very French! Plus pain au chocolat were served at midnight, so nobody was hard done by!

Music For Everyone

We has a local band called Hicksville for the wedding – they were fantastic. Three English guys who live out in France, they played classical music during the ceremony, led a rendition of Stand by Me (v funny and lightened the mood after the emotional ceremony) & accompanied my cousin Rachael in playing one of my Dad’s favourite pieces on the clarinet. They then played jazz/rat pack stuff during the drinks reception and more dancey tune for the evening. There was Mowtown etc and more modern stuff, so something for everyone! Then we had a DJ come on to take us into the early hours!

Time Of TImes

We danced our first dance to Time of Times by Badly Drawn Boy, a song we both love. We had a few lessons before hand by the fabulous Anessa at Mister Wonderful dancing (a present from our lovely best man!) which allowed us to have a few moves when we hit the floor. It wasn’t a very polished version of the rumba but it was better than shuffling and it made the pictures of the dance more interesting!

From the Heart

For favours we gave a British Heart Foundation badge to each guest in remembrance of my dad who died of a heart attack. I wrapped these in brown paper and fuchsia ribbon with “From the new Mr & Mrs” written on it. We also gave everyone a wire heart picture stand with a picture of themselves and Greg or I in it. It look a lot of work to source the pics but we found some classics and people seemed touched by the effort we’d gone to. It also provided a great talking point on tables where people didn’t know each other too well.

Candles And Ribbons

We has a beautiful display of candles along the back of the barn, hessian and pink ribbon runners on the tables and ribbons around the napkins. While people were having dinner the venue also arranged for candles to be lit around the grounds and they lit candles in birds nest holders I bought to hang in the trees. It looked beautiful.

Also worth mentioning is the pompoms I bought to hang in the trees in various shades of pink and ivory. We made them up on the morning of the wedding (we had a big production line in the kitchen!) and Hayley hung them in the trees. So simple but so effective!

We had an amazing fireworks display guests enjoyed after the first dance. A surprise gift from my mum – incredible!

People Didn’t Want To Leave

I think what made our wedding so perfect for me was just how relaxed everybody was – we’d all been canoeing on the Dordogne River or wine tasting the day before and out for dinner to a local bistro, and we had everyone back for Sunday brunch. People really got to know each other and were really happy! Everyone said they didn’t want to leave!

My advice would be to start getting ready earlier, I felt a bit rushed on the day in the end – I spent too long checking everything was ok and not enough time to be calm myself and check I was happy with my hair/make up etc. I’d also say be prepared about how much emotion will hit you – Greg and I had totally underestimated this. We’re both quite relaxed (and had actually had to do the legal ceremony before in the UK) and so thought we’d be really chilled on the day. But the emotion really does hit you in an overwhelming wave – and it took us several days of digesting it all before we could even begin to feel normal again.

Otherwise just enjoy every minute! It’s the most fantastic day.

Venue – Chateau Rigaud

Flowers – Hayley at Chateau Rigaud

Make-up – Becca

Photography – Especially Amy

Band – Hicksville

Dress – Ian Stuart

Hair Comb – Not on the High Street

Groom – Waterers

Maids – Marks and Spencer

I am personally a big fan of pink, especially when used with green – so the shots from the dining room totally blew me away… the pink florals and green stems with all of the ivory white candles, chairs and then the hessian thrown in for a bit of rough luxe contrast. Amazing.

If you do have your heart set on an outdoors ceremony then you may well want to consider a destination wedding just to have that extra bit of weather based luck on your side. I for one, having seen Kate and Gregs big day, am completely in love with the Chateau Rigaud.


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Not Just An Accessory.

The Rock My Wedding ethos is ‘Your Day Your Way’ and that goes for grooms as well as brides. We love it when grooms get involved in the organisation of W-day… Especially if that involvement extends beyond simply picking the band and playlist.

So grooms, you don’t want to be just an accessory on one of the biggest days of your life and one way to prevent this most heinous of W-day crimes is to accessorise yourself (see what I did there). Groom fashion has never been so diverse and today we’re going to look at a few of the ways grooms have been getting involved, tinkering with their look and personalising their appearance.

Put Your Best Foot Forward

Socks can be really powerful and I don’t mean in the Stilton sense of the word. You can go loud and proud with your man hosiery (brosiery anyone?), safe in the knowledge that they will be safely covered 90% of the time by your trousers and footwear. A crazy pair of socks will remain pretty stealth, save for the odd ‘action flash’ as you make your way to the front of the church. You can choose if and when to reveal the power that lies beneath… The ‘shock sock’ is firm favourite with wedding photographers looking for a cheeky informal image.

Wedding photographers have embraced the shock sock to such a level that some of are even writing about them… Check out Christian wards thoughts on his personal blog mainly about me.

Personally, the geek in me is loving the fact that not only can you pick a pair of socks to tie in with your colour scheme but also now, thanks to Pantone, you can do an exact sock to decor colour match (complete with pantone reference). And there are a lot of colours to choose from.

Pantone socks available from – SockShop.co.uk

Stick Your Neck Out

Bow ties have been really popular for the last year or so and I must admit it’s only recently that I have started to once again favour the look of a traditional tie over the funky dapper dicky-bow.

Identical ties or a variety that match your colour theme will pull you and your groomsmen together and unify your look. A great trick especially if you are asking them to provide their own suits. A pattern will do the same job and right now polka-dots are seriously hot.

A polka dot has a knack of lending a whimsical touch to the formality of wedding attire without being too casual, and there is a great selection on the highstreet to choose from. Here are a couple of my current faves.

Blue tie white polka dot – Reiss

white tie blue polka dot – Pink

Wedding Day Bling

Another way to feel a bit different on your wedding day is by accessorising with some new or unique jewellery.

If you play your cards right and drop the odd well timed hint about the bit of bling you’ve got your beady eye on, you may even end up with a nice little wedding morning gift!

Don’t Be The Weakest Link

Cufflinks are a really customisable item that could reflect the theme or colour scheme of the day, or maybe something personal about you as a person or you and your future wife as a couple.

I so badly want a pair of the plectrum cufflinks, I just don’t know whether I would opt for a silver set like the ones below from Not On The Highstreet or go down and dirty with some authentic plastic picks from eBay.

Either way, they make a bold statement and would also make a great present. You may want to provide cufflinks for all your groomsmen for example.

Born And Bred Silver cufflinks – by Dizzy via Not On The High Street

Plastic cufflinks in various designs – independent eBay shop

Get Me To The Church On Time

My accessory-of-the-minute (and not only because it allows me to do another time based pun) is the pocket watch. I love them. So. Much.

There is something ridiculously cool about having a bit of chain looping between your buttonhole and pocket, and the actual item itself? What a fabulous object to remember your wedding by, and what a perfect gift it would make too (look here grooms, you have to start dropping the hints now ;)).

If you are looking to source a vintage pocket watch then your best bet would probably be to check out eBay or Amazon online and of course get yourself around some local car boot sales and antique fairs.

There are also some websites out there selling brand new pocket watches in classic and contemporary designs.

Silver plated pocket watch – Jean Pierre via Pocketwatch.co.uk

O Chive pocket watch – Full spot via o-clock.co.uk

For a vintage inspired or modern elegant wedding my choice would be the silver plated Jean Pierre pocket watch pictured above. It can currently be yours for £88.00

I wasn’t sure what to make of the O Chive pocket watches when I first laid my peepers upon them but I can see these bright modern timepeices from Italian design house Full Spot fitting in to a contemporary wedding perfectly, and they are available in a range of colours.

The more I look at them, the more they grow on me. Full Spot do a range of watches in a similar style and they are all really funky and quirky.

Prices for new pocket watches seem to range from as little as £20.00 right up to thousands – so just as with wrist watches there appears to be a watch to suit every budget. The O Chive pocket watch can be yours for a pretty modest £39.95

So, just a few ways to get the fashion based creative juices flowing of any grooms-to-be (and of course all you brides-to-be) out there in blogland.

Have any of you discussed accessories for ‘him’?

Are any of you girls perhaps considering presenting your future husband with a wedding morning gift for him to wear?

Leave your thoughts as per usual in our comments box below… Right, I’m off to choose my cufflinks – do I go For Kiss or Guns N Roses?


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Dolly Daydream.

Our final (and I’m guessing favourite for many of you) Dolly……. Madam Daydream. And as much as we can turn our hand to the Rock Star/Pop Star styling I think this is where Rock My Wedding excels – the PRETTY.

There’s no denying that this look has some gorgeous gowns but actually, what we really wanted to show you guys is how to accessorise on a teeny tiny budget. We realise not everyone has a W-day money tree growing in their back yard ( oh and if you do can we come over for tea?) and more often than not the “finishing touches” get left until well, exactly then……the finish. The point at which Mr bank account is flashing an angry shade of red and shouting at your subconscious NOT. TO. BUY. ANY. MORE. JEWELLERY.


Or maybe that’s just what happens to me.


Not just for rockers the William Chambers Camillia headpiece also comes in this more traditionally bridal shade of creamy ivory, perfect if the thought of real blooms in amongst your tresses doesn’t appeal.

The dramatically precious earrings from Glitzy Secrets are exactly the right mix of relaxed romanticism, a steal at £32.00 and the colour-pop coral bracelet is even more bargainous at just £3.00 from New Look.

Let’s talk knitwear. Cute yellow cardigan type knitwear. Perfection for the Spring bride who may want a little bit of a cover up to keep out the chill of the evening air or just to update her W-day look from day to night. Ours was from Oasis where there is a wide variety of other Dolly shades available, we also brought a little retro chic to the ensemble with badges from Rock N Rose which at £1 each, would make immense favours, place setting tags or fun hen-party outfit additions.

When I think of the bohemian bride I automatically think of a more groomed version of festival chic, a gown with multiple layers of soft floaty fabrics and a free flowing dancing-through-the-meadow shape.

This empire line frill number from Ugo Zaldi epitomises that vision for me and a pretty daisy crown ( just £24!!!!) from Rock N Rose is almost the only accessory you need. I say almost, we are a little bit in love with the leather and silver necklace by Samphire at Not On The Highstreet, simple natural materials that really make an impact, £24.00

Dolly Daydream’s bouquet was by far my favourite out of all three looks, and of course it would be, after all I used my own trends for 2011 inspiration piece as a basis for that whole informal and unstructured vibe of spiky foliage mixed with soft feminine blooms. Supplied by Robbie Honey as before.

Shoe Candy

I don’t know about you lovelies but when I think of Dolly Daydream I can’t help but imagine perfectly pedicured bare feet rather than a pair of glamorous skyscraper’s. However, if you would like something more substantial for W-day then the Carmen design (just seen) by Rachel Simpson might be what you’ve been looking for. Kind of retro, kind of strictly-come-dancing but mostly kind of fabulous.

Totally Dreamy

The Claire Pettibone Nightingale gown is on my “if I did it all again this is what I would wear” list. I love the delicate floral applique and the neckline is so feminine and dare I say it…..a little bit sexy. And no this may not be what you had in mind if you want to emulate the Duchess of Cambridge but my wouldn’t you look H.O.T.

For the “underneath the blossom tree” images we paired the Nightingale with a statement necklace, the Starlet Pearl by Glitzy Secrets, inspired by 1940’s old school Hollywood…. besides, who said Boho couldn’t also be glamourama?!

Dreamy Maids

The lovely Michelle at Twobirds Bridesmaid lent us a selection of their maids frocks and my weren’t they beautiful, sumptuous fabric and so easy to wear. Rebecca dressed our Model Serina in about 30 seconds flat, brilliant for the trials and tribulations of the W-day morning schedule…. and did you know at Twobirds one size fits all?

Yup. And they really do too.

Serina is wearing the “classic” design in butter yellow.

And as for our bride model Sylwia, she is rocking a hot pink shock of floral fancy and a cute “come rain or shine” umbrella necklace ( with a teeny “something blue” flower embellishment) both from Rock N Rose as before.

The Dreamy Dolly Beauty

Katy Messer At Make-up By Katy: Dolly Daydream – Not many people would consider wearing a yellow eyeshadow, however, when teamed with a matte white shadow, it totally brightens a look.

The key with a look like this is to clean up the skin and eye area to ensure that it looks as even and flawless as possible, especially taking care to take away any redness around the eyes. The yellow I used was a Models Own Loose Pigment in Neon Yellow, pressed over a matte white eyeshadow from Yaby. I kept the inner corners much whiter to brighten and blended the yellow right up towards the brow. I pressed a Black Cake liner inbetween the top lashes to deepen them and create a clean line. Mascara was kept a little clumpy, especially on the bottom lashes to create a slight ‘doll eye’ look.

The eyes were the main focus so I kept the lips warm and neutral with a Laura Mercier Lip Glace in Bellini.

Cassandra Rizzuto at Love Your Hair: Sylwia was as dreamy as ever with her beautiful soft curls to work her Dolly Day Dream look!. With Sylwia I barrel curled her hair with a small and large curling Iron to make sure her curls looked more natural instead of really structured. I used alot of shine gloss and worked my fingers through her hair to soften the curls down and give a high sheen dreamy affect.

The Ultimate Dolly Daydream Style

For me Dolly Daydream is all about the informal, bohemian pretty however, that doesn’t mean you can’t add a glamorous headpiece or statement vintage necklace to your ensemble – mix it up and see what works for you.

Bright feminine hues such as raspberry, lemon and coral thrown together create a relaxed and summery vibe but if that’s a wee bit too much colour pop then perhaps choose one focus colour ( make it yellow PLEASE make it yellow!) and team it with a less showy neutral such as ivory, nude or cream.

I think the key here is to feel comfortable, beautiful and ultimately to feel like “you” – especially on W-day.

And if that’s skipping down the ailse barefoot then you know what?

So be it.

Dramatically Precious Earrings – Glitzy Secrets

Large Pink Flower and Daisy Chain Headpiece – Rock N Rose

Leather and Silver necklace – Samphire at NOTHS

Ivory Camillia Headpiece – William Chambers

Gowns – Frill Layer by Ugo Zaldi and Nightingale by Claire Pettibone both at Blackburn Bridal Couture

Bridesmaids Gown – Twobirds

Umbrella Necklace and “Dolly” Badges – Rock N Rose

Yellow Cardigan – Oasis

Hair – Cassandra Rizutto at Love Your Hair

Make-up – Katy Messer at Make-up By Katy

Shoes – Rachel Simpson

Venue – Non Such Mansion

Bouquet – Robbie Honey

Photographer – Julia Boggio

Styling – Rock My Wedding

So lovelies, have you decided what Dolly you are yet?

And has it changed since you first saw the style sheets?

We would love to know 😉

Big I’m Still Daydream But Lusting After A bit of Rock/Pop Cool Love

Charlotte xxx

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Rock My Wedding Sponsor… Not On The High Street

Now, I KNOW you guys are going to give a very warm welcome to this sponsor as we welcome them to the Rock My Wedding Pages. Ironicly, Charlotte actually introduced me to Not On The High Street so it’s fitting that they have eventually come to be featured here. Aside from their wicked range of gifts, home accessories and furnishings, Not On The High Street also have a ton of pretty for accessorising your wedding, and have their very own gift list.

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