I see this quandry a lot – on our Facebook page, in our community comments section…..you lovelies wondering a) which members of the wedding party to buy gifts for if any and b) what to actually purchase.
Personally I don’t think there is a right or wrong answer, if you want to say a huge “Thanks” to your Mum, or your Father-in-Law or your best girls for helping out with W-day/just being them then go ahead, it is a generous and thoughtful gesture.
Ahem. Don’t feel you have to though – it’s not customary and along with everything else that goes into making your celebration everything you want it to be, it is yet another expense and consideration.
And if you do want to give something tangible as a way of showing your appreciation it certainly doesn’t have to be expensive, in fact some of the most impressive presents I have seen have been reasonably priced but personal or 100% hand-made.
So to take a little bit of the thinking out of it team RMW thought we might put together a little series of gift ideas starting with your maids.
This is what I opted for – I figured everyone loves a delicate piece of pretty and your favourite ladies can opt to wear said item actually on the day. I bought earrings from Coast – a high street store that I still really rate for costume pieces and evening accessories.
From top left: Cindy earrings, Fiesta earrings and Samantha earrings all £15 each. The Tallulah cuff is £35 and looks amazing on – seriously, the picture doesn’t do it justice.
If you are looking for something a little more quirky then take a butchers at the jewellery section on Ruby and Diva, these are four of my favourites:
The handmade porcelain poem pendant makes a lovely literary gift for readers and writers, hand-cut from wet clay the pendant is hand-inscribed with a quote from Sylvia Plath’s poem “The Moon and the Yew Tree” £34. And in a similar literary vein The antique gold “Alice” key necklace is ideal for those who adore Lewis Carol or want to get lost in Wonderland £20.
A little more kitsch is the scrabble “Love” brooch which is just £10 and at the other end of the price scale is the Votre Amie Pendant in sterling silver that reads “Votre amie qui vous amie toujours” – your friend who loves you always, not cheap at £90 but so damn lovely.
Maybe I am being a little bit behind the times but I only just realised Cath Kitson does jewellery, this Make-Do-And-Mend bracelet is particularly cute especially for a best girl who is assisting you in your quest to be the Queen of D.I.Y.
And if you haven’t had a look see at Etsy yet you REALLY need to, so many beautiful (and inexpensive) maids gifts to choose from. I stumbled across Anatoliantale Design which not only offer a wide range of gorgeous items using semi-precious stones but you can also save significant $$$$$ if you order more than one – a great option if you have a couple of ladies to buy for.
And my absolute favourite idea of all? This embroidered initial pendant from Merriweather Council, just $35 plus $3 shipping each (about £25) that come in a myriad of shades from teal to eggshell. You could match them up to your W-day colour scheme or just find out what each of your friends favourite hue is.
This is my fail-safe giftage should I be temporarily void of inspiration. Never underestimate the power of the black and white gift bag – no woman can resist. And what’s inside doesn’t have to cost the earth either, nail polishes (I rate both the coral “Distraction” and the biscuit nude “Particuliere”) and the compact mirror are just £17 and £23 respectively. And if you want the whole Chanel gift wrap and ribbon experience I would highly recommend John Lewis – they always seem to go the extra mile in terms of cosmetics customer service.
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One of the coolest bridesmaid gift ideas I have ever seen on these pages was bride Dawn’s framed cartoon strip, she had one made for each of her best girls:
The “Adventures Of” are by No-Me illustrations.
Another thoughtful idea is to make a photo book of all of your time together – holidays, celebrations ….. embarrassing outfits you used to wear (!) that type of thing. My girls all got together and made me one of “The Glamorous Tour” – i.e. my 2009 hen party that my sister presented me with whilst I was getting ready on the morning of W-day, I was needless to say more than a little bit touched. They used Photobox which was quick, easy and pretty cheap (oh and they currently have photo books at 40% off.)
And if you want to go the whole really make something from scratch route then this is perhaps one of the most creative (and greatest) concepts I have seen in a long time:
Bethany of Rinse.Repeat blog made each one of her favourite ladies a personalised box all about choosing them as a bridesmaid and the wedding plans. The attention to detail and sentiment were outstanding and although not everyone would have the time or indeed the inclination you should go check out the post “Askin’My Maids” regardless as it really is a beautiful piece on friendship.
So then you gorgeous lot, are you buying your best girls something special? Or do you think it is yet another unnecessary expense?
And if you have already bought something/have something in mind do let us know in the comments section below.
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