I never even considered wearing a garter for W-day.
I can’t explain why exactly – the thought just didn’t cross my mind….perhaps there were just too many other fashion choices that took up my bride-to-be brain space.
Jewellery, shoes, to veil or not to veil, statement headpiece, the concern over whether fresh blooms in my barnet would wilt if we were ever lucky enough to have sunshine….(we did, they did, I couldn’t have cared less.)
I mean seriously, after everything that goes into planning a wedding, who has time to then contemplate the design of a sexy thigh adornment?
For those of you who don’t know where the tradition of wearing a garter comes from I’ve conducted some research and although as with all these types of things some information is conflicting, the most popular theory dates right on back to the dark ages and is the one I like best – so that’s what I’m going with folks.
Ahem. I shall begin.
After the wedding festivities had come to an end it was customary for guests to accompany the Bride and Groom to their bedroom to ensure their safety and to wish them well with regards together foreverness. It was apparently good luck for each guest to take a piece of the brides attire so….they did.
Apparently over time this process evolved into something altogether more raucous, with guests tackling the bride and literally ripping at her clothes in order come away with a piece of her outfit of choice. The garter (which at the time was used to hold up stockings) was thrown during the um….romp (?) and it was considered extremely good luck for the individual that caught it – they would be the next in line to say “I do”.
I’m guessing after time moved on and happy couples got fed up with their nearest and dearest gate-crashing their first night party, this whole “carry-on” turned into what is now more commonly known as the 21st century garter toss, initiated primarily by the groom.
Thing is, does this activity actually happen anymore at all? can’t say I hear of it very often, if ever.
And although I’m not exactly one for following traditions for the sake of it, a small part of me I think it’s a real shame when a little piece of history becomes almost obsolete.
Besides, you don’t need to throw your garter at anyone – I’m sure there are some of you soon-to-be-married out there who just like the idea of wearing something pretty and that perhaps remains a secret, something for just you and your future husband to enjoy.
And if you fall into this camp, you may want to consider some of the gorgeous garters from the new Jarretiére collection by Love Lust List member Britten Weddings which have been used to illustrate this post.
Combining understated British luxury with French delicacy and featuring a select number of limited edition pieces, the Jarretiére collection draws inspiration from head designer Sarah-Jane Bates’ experience and time spent living and exploring Paris….ooh la la.
There are ten uber feminine designs, available in ivory, blush, silver blue and grey (the latter being my favourite – obviously.) Each piece from the collection has been made using the softest silks and delicate lace, and comes adorned with the finest crystals, pearls and Swarovski opals.
I know – fancy schmancey. And as well as being so pretty, the garters also come presented in a lovely luxury gift box which makes me want want one even more….I’m a sucker for perfect packaging.
This post has generally made me feel that little bit left out if I’m honest. But I’m almost four years married, so I guess it’s all a bit too late for me….or is it?
Are any of you lovelies contemplating wearing a garter for the big day? have you already bought one?….what made you choose your particular thigh candy?
Or do you just think it’s yet another thing to think about….that you could frankly, do without.
Feel free to correct my attempts at being a historian and share any amusing garter-esque escapades that may be entertaining.
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