The Rock My Wedding Genius Guide to Seating Plans.

It’s the bane of all our lives right? The dreaded seating plan…

Before I start, I should admit, I don’t think I can wave my fairy blogmother wand and magic your issues away, BUT, I hope there might be an idea or two tucked away in here that will help you navigate the issue with perhaps one less family argument or sleepless night over who sits where. Because we have better things to worry about right?!

And as you guys really are the geniuses (Genii?!) around here… please do add in your thoughts, suggestions and solutions, or even just your biggest dilemmas to see if we can get a great big Rock My Wedding community problem solved!

So… on with the show.

Top Dog

First things first. The top table.

I had a traditional top table. It was an elongated oval shape and went like this…
Pete’s Dad :: My Mum :: Pete :: Me :: Mums Partner Phil :: Pete’s mum
(Some people also seat the Best Man and Maid of Honour on the top table in which case they would be next to the Grooms Mother and father respectively.)

That is exactly as it should be traditionally… and I think we all know how we here at RMW feel about traditional. If it’s you (or as in my case, your mum would be broken hearted if you didn’t do it like this,) then fire away. But if not, then there are plenty of alternatives.

*Image Copyright Lillian and Leonard… See the whole Peony Perfect Day here.

Divorced families seem to have paved the way for new traditions and one of the best alternatives I think is to have each parent host their own table, leaving you free to enjoy dinner with your best men and women. It might not be the solution you hoped for, with everyone getting along for the sake of your big day, but for the peace and quiet, it might just be worth it. Plus you get the bonus of spending dinner with your favourite people!

*Image Credits: Lee Robbins. See the whole Made with Love Wedding here.

The more extreme solution? The Sweetheart table. Snub no-one and get something every bride and groom wants – a little quiet time with their beloved on W-day.

Pick’n’Mix or Divine Intervention?

I was really torn organising my own seating plan… do you place your friends together and ignore the whole point of a wedding being bringing 2 families together? Or mix everyone up to begin the melding of 2 families and sometimes friendship groups too?

*Image Credit: Caroline Alexander… see the whole Liberty Love Wedding here.

Having been the couple that can talk to nearly anyone and therefore being on the receiving end of quite a few ‘difficult’ tables at weddings I have attended over the years, I was determined to place everyone with people they knew and liked. I love going to a wedding, as much for the bl*%dy good catch up you get with friends you haven’t seen in ages, as for the couple themselves. So we arranged our tables as follows… (broadly speaking!)

The Bridesmaids/Best Man and their partners. Basically, this table was our very best friends and we put them slap bang in front of us to provide regular stop off’s there throughout the day.

The Cousins (Pete’s side)

My Family friends growing up and extended family (two tables worth)

The only baby in attendance was our 6 week old niece and so we put Pete’s sister and husband with her Aunts and Uncles… the older generation of the cousins table!

More Family friends – one of the only combined tables of both sides of our family.

My Uni Girl friends and their respectives

My Work Friends

Pete’s Uni/Work friends

I hope that doesn’t seem irrelevant but hopefully it gives an idea of the way people fall nicely into groups if that’s what you want.

The Difficult Truth

I think nearly everyone has to invite people to their wedding that they would prefer not to have done. Rather than think of it as defeat, I think of it as compromise. For all our talk of doing it your way, the truth is, a wedding is as much for the people around you as for you in some ways. The people your parents want to reminise about the day with… to have seen their daughter look radiant with them, they all need seating somewhere and are usually less difficult than the other difficult guest… the loose canon!

*Image Credit: Simon Fazackarley, See the whole Brighton Rocks Wedding.

Every wedding has one, the female friend who sobs into her chardonnay without fail at the end of a brilliant night, the toilet humoured cousin or work colleague, the slightly leery uncle bound to stare at someone’s boobs (if he doesn’t make a grab for them!) the person who will heckle the speeches… the list goes on and more than likely they’re amongst your best friends. After all, the behaviour and banter you enjoy on a night out, might not be quite what you had in mind for your wedding breakfast within ear shot of your great aunt Mildred.

We had a whole table of them, totally gross (read hilarious but not at your wedding) boys who literally can’t get through a sentence without uttering something completely unspeakable in polite society. So they were plumped together to entertain each other and (fingers crossed) no-one else!

Of course, it could have gone horribly wrong with them all egging each other on, but I had faith!

Round peg, Square hole?

Are round tables not for you? Really want to mix everyone up or perhaps even let people sit exactly where they want? How about long tables… and they needn’t be rustic.

*Image Credit: Especially Amy, See the whole Cornish Fairytale here.

I so wish I had done this… sadly my venue just didn’t allow for it, but it’s becoming more and more common and I love seeing it on these very pages 🙂

Last Minute Let Down

Someone will always cancel at the last minute. It’s a cruel rule of fate that leaves every bride totally frazzled. Whether through sickness, disaster or thoughtlessness there is bound to be a person who can’t make it and due to the circumstance (or lets face it, complete and utter idiocy) only lets you know at the 12th hour.

*Read more in our post about Escort Cards here.

The easiest way of surviving such a mishap, is to leave the table plan to the day, (or two nights) before. Then there’s no re-printing/gluing and sticking, no frantic re-arrangement and no stressed out bride. Have it all sorted, ready to go and then if all goes according to plan, just press print. If not, retype a couple of names and away you go. Even easier… use escort cards, then you can do them ahead of time and any last minute amendments only need one or two cards re-doing.

Share Your Solutions

So now it’s time to spill the beans… Tell us which parts of the planning you identify with here, your problems, nightmares and made in heaven solutions. Lets unleash the power of the RMW community and magic them all away… Rock My Wedding Fairy blogmother stylee 😉

Yours Truly,


Author: Becky Sappor
Becky is at her happiest when dunking a slightly chilled chocolate digestive into a very warm, very milky cup of tea. She also loves her job and pinches herself every day to make sure that she isn’t in a graphic design dreamworld.

49 thoughts on “The Rock My Wedding Genius Guide to Seating Plans.

  1. Brilliant.

    I spent my weekend building with hammer and nails, my escort cards area.

    We are having a top table (his parents are divorced mine aren’t)

    His Dad’s new partner, His Dad, Mum, Him, Me, Dad, His Mum, Best Man

    That way his Mum and his Step mum are on opposite ends of a long table. The venue were trying to suggest we have a round top table. Urrr no. We wanted straight for a reason!

    Each of my bridesmaids come from a different arena in my life – university, postgraduate university, family so each will host their own table.

    Another two tables for his aunts and uncles together mixed with mine.

    And the relatives I don’t want there?

    At the back where I can pretend they aren’t there.

    Excellent post!

  2. This is a really useful post have been thinking about this for ages and still 9 months til the wedding.

    At the moment the inlaws and sil2b are driving me bonkers and last week at another wedding sil2b was whingeing about where we were sitting, then my Nan wanted to add 10 guests to our list the other day – managed to get it down to 4 thankfully, beginning to think long tables may be the way forward after this post xx

  3. I think I must be in the minority in that I have had no real seating issues (apart from an over dramatic sister!). Both our parents are still together and most of our friends know each other. I also knew right from the start that I didn’t want a traditional top table, so we are having a sweetheart table (this has solved so many things!). I can’t wait to sit down just the two of us and have our first meal as husband and wife!!

  4. What a great post, I think that this task has got to be the most stressful part of the whole mission! Everyone likes and dislikes different bits of wedding planning but I have yet to meet anyone who says they enjoyed sorting out their seating plan.
    I have a question, does anyone know if you are supposed to put full names i.e. Mr Joe Bloggs on the placecards as opposed to simply Joe? I want to just put first names but my mum says not.

  5. We had been fretting about doing our table plan as soon as we put the invitations out. I have a large family, my folks have invited some guests, and we then have all our friends. All very lovely, but all very different. We decided to make groupings (three, four or five people) of friends/family who all knew each other, and then matched them with another grouping so that everyone was mixed but still sat with friends. We did it last night and short of maybe a little swapping about, it seems to be done with a lot less stress than we anticipated! xxx

  6. Weirdly enough, I’ve just been sent a first draft design for my table plan, so this comes at an amazing time for me!

    Weirdly, it’s been really straightforward for us to work out who sits where (clearly we just have friends and family that come in groups of 8 and 10!), and even with my divorced parents it’s been easy. Mum and dad on the top table (but not together), their partners on different family tables.

    The bit I’m REALLY struggling with is the actual design of the plan… where can I look for inspiration? Am wanting something that stands out and is a little bit different to the norm….


  7. Really timely post for me as I had a meeting with our venue yesterday and we were discussing the top table/seating plan etc. My parents are divorced and both re-married and still 15 yrs on do not see eye to eye! His parents are still happily married but top table is proving a headache – Families ey?!
    Think we will prob go for having the two best men and my bridesmaids with us and have the parents too it on there own table, still a little sad not to have my dad sat by me but seems the easiest option! Great to hear how other people have managed with this part of the planning. x

  8. I tried so hard for this not to be an issue at our wedding, i decided early on that people could just sit wherever they wanted, I dreaded the idea of actually organising how it was all going to go… As the day got closer though, I realised that there were people who could potentially kill each other if accidentally seated too close together so the seating plan had to be done.

    In the end, our venue organiser swooped in and saved the day, writing eveything down on a beautiful rustic chalkboard at the entrance so we didnt have to have a last minute panic with extra stationary and table numbers.

    p.s. no-one killed anyone… SUCCESS!!

  9. Hi everyone!

    I’ll be around all afternoon if anyone has anymore questions…

    Kathryn, I guess it depends if there is anyone with the same name 😉 If not, it then depends on the formality of your wedding. A small relaxed affair? Go for it. We did first and surnames but no formal titles… I hate it when people assert their position/profession/social standing at social occasions!


  10. I love this post and it brought the memories of stress and frustration flooding back!

    I just used first name and surname, purely because some people has the same first name, but I think it is up to you. And if people want their title to be know I assure you they will bring it up.

    In the end we only mixed family friends and tried to put people in groups and mix them like littlewifelittlemama said. Which generally worked but left us with odd numbers which were a little awkward to work out.

    Part of me wished I had had the courage to say just sit where you want, but after all the other demands we had had to accommodate for certain grandparents, I don’t think we would have got away with it.

    Sorry this has turned into a little bit of rambling essay…what I would say is don’t stress or worry about it as it isn’t worth it. There will always be someone who isn’t happy, but generally everyone is there to celebrate your day and are happy and just want to have a good time. Most people won’t mind where they are sat and are more than happy to meet a few new friends.


  11. Ha LWLM – sorry I didn’t mean just Mr/Mrs etc… I meant those people who insist on being ‘Captain’, ‘Esquire’. Dr etc 😉


  12. As my family is full of dysfunction, we purposely chose to not have a sit down meal, as I couldn’t have faced doing a seating plan!

    We are however having picnics after the ceremony and assigning groups of 8-10 per picnic (and this is proving bad enough!). At least we haven’t had to decide exactly who will be seated next to who and even though they’ll be sharing a sausage roll or two, they don’t have to stay in those groups.

    G xox

  13. This has come at a great time for me because it’s been on my mind for the last few days! We’re getting married in August and can’t decide whether to do place cards or to just let people sit where they want??
    Kathryn, I agree with Rebecca that it depends how formal your wedding is. We want ours to be quite relaxed so if we do go for a seating plan we’re considering just first names and to make it more personal, even nick names could be fun!
    Rebecca I love the idea of putting the people you have to invite at the back ha ha! Maybe a seating plan is the way to go after all 🙂

  14. Oooh, we went a little less traditionally… My parents are divorced (and STILL not speaking despite the 15 year cooling off period that they’ve had…), his dad is AWOL, Mr H has a 3 y/o son, and his sister (a bridesmaid) probably would have had a fit if she wasn’t sitting with her man-thing.

    SO… we had on our table: Bride, Groom, Groom’s son, MoH +1, Bridesmaid 1 +1, Bridesmaid 2 +1, and Usher 1 (bridesmaid 2’s twin brother, Mr H’s little bro).

    My Dad had a table with his wife, my grandparents on his side, the best man +1 and a selection of friends I felt that could behave themselves in front of my grandparents.

    My Mum had a table with her brother, his wife and a selection of her most degenerate friends (and plenty of red wine).

    My MIL had a table with her partner, the g’parents on his side, and other relatives.

    And everyone else we just arranged into tables together – they all worked quite well. It was quite complicated, and not too traditional, but we decided that we’d annoy all the parents at once, and it seemed to work quite well as noone got too offended!

  15. Even though its over two years away until our big day, this is something i cant seem to stop thinking about.

    My side of the family is overly complicated, lots of rows and falling outs over the years, and it’ll be my brother, who gives me away and does his “father of the bride speech” come W-day.

    Having my mum/my stepdad/my brother/me/him/his mum/his dad/the groomsmen/bridesmaids all on the top table just doesnt feel right…

    One idea we have had is to have different “top table-ers” host their own tables, leaving two seats spare at each of the tables, and lee and i will spend a course of the wedding breakfast at each table….

    although your suggestion of a sweetheart table makes my heart melt….

    I think we have found a solution!! 🙂

  16. Kelpops – both my parents did a speech. And noone gave me away. It just seemed the easiest solution!

    And on my table plan, we didn’t use titles – it was just firstname surname.

  17. ps. I love the idea of people getting to host their own table, it’s a great way to sort top table but still make bridesmaids etc feel important!
    Thanks again guys, I honestly couldn’t have got through the past few months without you all.
    Much love

  18. Thanks for the feedback! Thinking about it I have 2 Brians, 3 Johns (2 of these also have the same surname!) 3 Davids, 2 Helens and 2 Neils so maybe surnames will be a useful differentiator. Weirdly, my name is also the same as my future sister in law’s maiden name (middle name included) which would be even more confusing were she not married!
    Thank god my mum has offered to pay for a calligrapher!

  19. Leona,

    I wouldn’t give up on having your dad sat next to you. Just have your parents Mum on one side. Dad on another. If you have a long table they’ll see each other less than if they each hosted their own table directly infront of the top table.

    I’ve sacrificed loads for divorced parents – engagement party, no group dinners and am likely to follow that through – no christening (note to self be firm from Day One) so come W-Day they can sort it out and like it or lump it. At the end of the day if you say “sort it out and if you can’t then don’t bother coming”, they’ll still come for you.

    I’m firmly planted in the “sort it out and don’t wreck our day” camp.

    My parents will celebrate their Ruby Wedding anniversary the year we get married. I’m following their example and making it about us, not about anyone else.

    Kelpops. I LOVE that idea. LOVE IT.

  20. Gosh the issues every couple has to suffer!

    Martin and I actually did a rough seating plan around a year ago (based on the advice of a friend who had just got married and begged me not to leave it). With ours, we struggled with seating the more conservative non-drinking members of my family with people that we felt wouldnt get completely sozzled! And vice-versa.

    We have a big group of friends and have had to split these across a few tables and we have tried to go for an even half of my friends/family on a table and the same for Martin.

    However, I dont really know how this will translate on the day as typically at my family weddings, there is no table plan and its like Easy-Jet where you have to grab a seat….I’m betting some random distant relation will end up plopping themselves down on the wrong table. Oh God, please dont let this actually happen….I dont want an Easy-Jet wedding!!!


  21. Dysfunctional family alert.. Both sets of parents divorced and remarried!

    We had a sweetheart table and it was FAB! MrC and I got to take a breather together before the rest of the whirlwind of the wedding, recommend this highly!!

    We put each parent hosting their own round table {ok don’t look as effective on pics as the long tables but easier to chat around for your guests}. We also sat friends together and families together, sod the idea of trying to mix people up, it was our wedding not a social networking event! For the day it was small {56. guests} so had full names and titles for guests {we had a sir at our wedding oh yes!} but for the eve it was a big do for 200 plus so we made it more informal, had seating plan but could sit where they wanted on that table.

    Job done!

  22. Oh Mahj – just think, you could have everything in orange and white and stelios could give you away!!

    I was (wierdly) quite looking forward to doing my table plan and it (fingers crossed) seems to have turned out not too badly. Obviously there are a few peeps (one of my sisters in particular) who have already moaned about which table they’re on but hey, at least when its your sister you can tell them to bugger off right?

    Oh, and we’re having long tables and if anything, I think its harder than round – on a round table you can at least talk to pretty much everyone on the table but with long, you’re restricted to the four or five people around you without shouting accross people – cue added stress!

    we’re having a moderately traditional top table (except my mama’s boyf will be on there (next to her) as she won’t sit up there without him!) as thats what mr wanted (he got the top table, i got long instead of round) – see how we’re compromising already and we’re not even married yet!

    wow – that turned into an essay! x x x

    PS I cut out bits of paper and wrote everypone’s names on them so we could play around with different options – a good idea until the dog comes along and lays down on it for a tummy tickle!

  23. Urgh, the table plan… this is something I am definately not looking forward to and TBH I don’t think there is an ideal solution and every couple has to do whats best for them 🙂

    It is my side of the family that will be causing the issues, firstly my parents are divorced but my Dad will not be attending the wedding – problem solved eh? But I am being given away by MOH’s Dad and he will be doing the speech (my mum thinks its wierd for a woman to be walked down the aisle by a woman…!). So that makes a lot of people to sit at the top table. We still haven’t decided entirely what we are going to do but it will either be a sweetheart table with parents / BMs and ushers hosting their own tables or a table of us with our very best friends…. I’ll let you know on 22nd July what we decided 😉

  24. So.. I’m not having a table plan shock horror I know!! Me and hubby to be are having a sweetheart table and letting everybody else fight it out between themselves with 600 guests there is no-way a table plan would ever of worked. We don’t even have RSVPs who comes come (very annoying Indian mentality but one we have had to adopt to get us thru this planning stress)
    So if all else fails lady sort yourselves and key members out and the rest can have a lucky dip!

  25. Kathryn – we wanted to keep our cards more informal so the table plan had first and last names, but for placecards we used a funny photo of each person with just their first name underneath. Ours was a large wedding and reasonably traditional but it went down a storm and got everyone chatting to each other as they compared mugshots. I don’t think there is any problem with just first names as long as you don’t have two Joe’s on the same table!

  26. We’re having “Mr & Mrs J. Smith” on the escort cards (double up, less space needed on escort card table – result) but then having Mr J. Smith on the place name.

    Yes it sounds formal but we’re having a relatively formal “style me pretty “traditional garden elegance” style of day” so it fits.

    We’ll do what Missreceyclenow did and just post it the table plan up until we get it right although I have a pretty good idea in my head as regards which family will get on best with who.

    Plus by the actual day, girls will have met girls on the Hen Do and the Stags will all know each other which makes it easier.

    Home to make hearts out of offcuts of Laura Ashley fabric now whilst watching Downton Abbey. £1 in the sale. No IDEA what I’m going to do with them all!

  27. wow – what good timing – we were discussing only at the weekend. Now opinions please people – I am told I am in the wrong so I wonder what you all think. I want to mix friends and people for example two set of uni friends (two couples) with two couples from school and two couples from family – so there are always at least three other people you know really well and potentially six people you don’t – but people we think they would get on with???
    H2B thinks it should be all uni crowd on one table, all school on another etc etc. What do people think? Personally I like meeting new people but realise its not really all about me (well this part anyway!) xx

  28. This has been a really helpful post (and comments as well). I want to bring family together but at the same time i didnt want to make anyone feel uncomfortable. We were thinking about seating family members together of a similar generation and age but have the tables big enough that everyone will know a few other people at the table. Hope it works out!

  29. Rebecca – you are so right and it definately should be about you two, you would hope that grown adults in their 50’s would behave and just get on with it wouldnt you?! Hmmm lots to think about but as always the advice on here is a god send! Thanks ladies xxx

  30. I am at this stage right now, we are having an ‘informal’ BBQ at our Ibiza wedding so I was going to leave the seating choice up to the guests but now I think having a seating plan is going to make it easier on the day. Im also doing each name card with an Ibiza Hed Kandi style picture looking as much like the person as I can so Ive started them already and will still be doing them on the day!!

  31. such a timely post, its so tricky, to mix or not to mix, that is the question, plus adding in sisters mid cold war (his not mine!) and table planning does get tricky. It makes me giggle, here I am wondering what flowers, candles etc will look fab on tables, whereas some guests will be far more concered re who’s sat next to them. Love the fact the post also talks about those you have to invite – we were having that discussion last night and its a delicate balance between having your day your way, and those guests that you wouldn’t feel so disspointed if they couldn’t make it. I manage a team of 7, but would ideally like to invite 3, but for my peace at work, all are getting an evening invite…marriage maybe about compromise, and so’s the planning!

  32. Bex F, I think your idea is great in theory but in practice you might find some people are disappointed if they were looking forward to catching up with old friends. Whereas if you seat people who know each other together no-one will be disappointed by it. I would always go down the less contraversial route unless it was something I felt really passionate about!
    Can I just say I love the comments on here so much more civilised than a bridal forum!

  33. We didn’t have any major issues but one thing we did do out of the ordinary was we didn’t have the best man or bridesmaids on the top table….we felt it would be pretty boring for our best man to be sat next to my nan for 2 hours!! So we ended up putting him on a table that was next to ours so when he stood up to do his speech it was as if he was at the far end of the top table anyway. And the bridesmaids were dotted around with their mates. For me it was more important having happy guests than keeping with tradition.

    I’m also not keen on mixing up guests to ‘get people chatting’ – I work as a wedding coordinator and whenever any of my brides have mixed up guests it means a very quiet wedding and a lack of atmosphere!!!!!

  34. Great last couple of points there Guys – totally agree. As I said, I like catching up at weddings – it’s one of the main things I look forward to, so mixed tables mean the meal is just a hiatus until I can get back to my friends.

    Also agree on the best man/maid at the end of a long top table – bit above and beyond perhaps?! 😉

    Keep the lovely RMW community advice coming ladies!


  35. thank you – all groups together is decided then – should have put all our queries on here – you’re all fab as usual – thank you! xx

  36. Definitely agree with not being traditional but I think you can go too far… I did and wish I’d gone the more formal way ( isn’t hindsight wonderful?!). In my head, it was going to be a lovely, intimate family ‘do’ with nine of us seated on a round table, in the middle of the room. It ended up a bit like the Sunday dinner table… nephew running riot throughout and wanting to sit inbetween me and Mr S (cute at the time but had to spend more time entertaining him than enjoying our first meal together). Generally, not a very romantic experience! Of course it was great fun but wish I’d concentrated on US more, and given us some space and time to soak it all up. Sweetheart tables alll the way! 🙂

    As for actual table plans. I had each table detail printed individually, placed in photo frames and displayed on individual mini easels (thank you IKEA!). The cheeky beggers who cancelled simply got deleted (very therapeutic!)and re-printed, as Rebecca suggests! Found it a lot easier to manage per table rather than one big table plan for last minute rejigs. Ah, forgot to mention bro-in-law is designer/professional printer so get very very friendly with a printer for late requests 🙂

  37. Bex F – totally agree with your decision, I have found groups together so much more fun than making conversation with guests I didnt know (who have always been lovely but the conversation tends to run dry at about pudding time, even with the help of wine – and after lots of wine to try and aid the conversation I tend to forget the questions I have already asked, repeat them, and then look really rude and like I havent been listening, when in fact am just drunk).

    I went to one wedding where I was on a table of all couples, and all the couples were from uni, but we were split with each male partner being 3 seats to the right of their other half. So I was next to two of my friend’s boyfriends, which was ok but it was my friends that I wanted to talk to, not their other halves for 2 hours.

    We’re having a dilemma with our top table too. My finance’s parents are divorced, so they are each going to have their own table, as are my parents. Leaving me, fiance, my sister and her husband, best man and his girlfriend, on the a big round table fit for 10 – 12 people. We have 2 single guests who don’t know many other people, so are wondering about putting them on our table too, as we don’t want to look friendless and alone, but they might think it’s weird being on the top table…and we don’t want to be seen to ‘pick’ other friends and have it look like favouritism, hmmmm decisions…

  38. Good advice here, table planning was the least favourite thing about wedding planning I have to say! Like you Rebecca, we sat people on tables with people they know, know well and wouldn’t mind having dinner with.

    Our twist was ourselves. We had dinner just the two of us. Firstly, we thought it would be nice to have some alone time, reflecting and watching our reception. Because it was just us two at our table, we were opposite each other rather than next to each other. Secondly, it satisfied the family aspect. I wanted my dad to be sitting with his partner and would have had them at the top table had I had one, but that would have meant having my step siblings there too, which would be fine…but then hub’s (adult) sister would have been put out not to be sat with her parents, then she has a boyfriend, and that would have left hubby’s nan on her own, so it would either have got massive or someone would have been put out.

    It was lovely to sit and have a romantic dinner with my husband without worrying whether my dad and MIL were getting on or if my step brother throwing bread rolls around (actually, he didn’t. One of hubby’s friends did…)

  39. Fabulous post ladies, will definitely come back to this closer to the time. Our first RSVPs are just coming in…very exciting!

  40. Thanks for this post! The table plan is something I am dreading having to do for our wedding next year. OH’s parents are divorced and not speaking and both have new partners. Not to mention that my family is huge and there are going to be way more of them then OH’s family.

    I do love the idea of all the important people hosting their own tables. In my case this will probably be the parents.

  41. This has been fascinating reading – thank you! We are just starting to receive our RSVPs and table planning is getting more ‘front of mind’.
    I totally agree that when folk go to a wedding it’s much more fun to be with people you’d like to catch up with than try to make new friends. I’ve taken that on board and it will be reflected in The Plan!
    My dilemma is that we will have 8 children aged from 10 to 16 that we need to accommodate. They are from 3 different families, each of which don’t know the other. Do we just stick them all on a table on their own – giving their parents a break – and hope for the best, or keep them with their adults and spread them out?????
    All ideas gratefully accepted!

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