With a blush pink and gold glitter colour scheme, we were already sold on this wedding.
Then we saw the bespoke Dana Bolton lace sleeved gown…the amazing DIY sweetie bar…the baby pink and white striped straws…the table plan made with ribbons and an individual badge for each guest…and we fell IN LOVE.
Seriously, today’s wedding is full of pretty details which you WILL want to replicate. In fact I’d say it’s the perfect wedding for a bank holiday Monday – you’ll need time to savour this wonderful wedding day.
And by savour, what is mean is cry over Kirsty’s honest and moving wedding report and then pin as many of the details as you possibly can.
We may only be bringing you one wedding today, but trust me, this one is extra special.
Kirsty The Bride:The Rectory was the first venue we looked at, once we’d visited we couldn’t quite look at any other venue without comparing it. It’s so quirky and interesting, and has lots of very different and lovely areas inside, and out. The Rectory was also perfect as we were having a fairly small wedding, we didn’t want a venue that our guests would get lost in, it has an eclectic feel inside that we felt suited our personalities and beautiful outdoor spaces.
We took over the venue exclusively for the weekend which was great as Dan’s family live in Ipswich, it was lovely to be able to invite people down to have the weekend in a lovely Cotswold village, spending the day before decorating the venue and having dinner at the pub just across the road with close family and friends on our wedding eve are among some of my favourite memories from our wedding weekend. With a gorgeous church next door that we were able to hold our ceremony in, we were very happy. Charlotte at The Rectory couldn’t have been more supportive, even when my Dad passed away 6 months before the wedding she helped with all my wobbles and concerns, really a pleasure to work with.
Finding a dress was something that I put off for as long as possible, where as I’m sure most brides throw themselves in to finding the most beautiful lace or tulle gowns, I was petrified. I’d spent a long time online and reading magazines, acquainting myself with what I did and didn’t like, but not being the considered perfect size 8/10, I imagined the horror on the shop assistants face as I tried to squeeze myself into sample sizes, all the while not really being able to get a realistic impression of whether it was or wasn’t right for me.
6 months to go and knowing I was leaving it incredibly late, I decided I should just contact the designer that I seemed to keep pinning, knowing she was in London and me in Bristol I knew I was a bit mad, but if I was to feel happy on the day I felt she was the designer for me. I was right, after my many visits to London, I left my final appointment with Dana Bolton with the exact dress I had envisioned in my mind, a little bit vintage, a little bit lacy and a little bit sparkly!
Dan was highstreet all the way, he knew that he wanted to buy a suit that he could keep, and with all my trips up and down to London for dress fittings we would go to Westfield Shopping Centre, where we spent many long hours with him trying on suits in every shop imaginable, he eventually decided on a blue three piece suit from the Pashion line by Ted Baker, which he then had tailored in shop to fit him perfectly.
I spent my life on RMW and Pinterest, trying to decide what kind of look I was going for. I decided to work with the layout of The Rectory and create little interesting things in all of the areas, so there was something of us wherever people were, I had big plans for the conservatory where the evening dancing was held. I wanted to create an area that felt exciting to be in, so people would want to be there whether dancing or not. We strung lights between the struts, and hung pop poms that we made from the ceiling, once darkness fell it was so effective and was probably one of my favourite things that came together on the day.
As Dan is a designer, we decided to create all of our own stationery, through the save the dates, invites, and bits and pieces for the day, orders of service, menus, gift tags etc we tied everything together. It’s something that took the most time, but was very satisfying as it reflected us. Having bought a badge machine, I used this to create magnets for the save the dates and then to match, we created badges for every guest on the day that doubled as an escort card for the table plan, we hung the card over ribbon in a big frame, it was another one of my favourite pieces from the day.
I got carried away with a few different bits, I diy’d a string art heart which we placed by our CD’s of music that guests would have heard through out the day, so we felt like they were taking a piece of the wedding home with them, and decorated paper mache numbers for the tables. With the help of people at work I designed and they built a wooden frame for a photo booth backdrop and crates for our candy bar. They both went down a storm, the photo booth backdrop didn’t quite work out as well as I had hoped as it wasn’t quite tall enough, but I don’t think anyone noticed! Everyone seemed to enjoy dressing up and snapping polaroids, the camera was one of the best purchases I made for the day.
The Bridesmaids dresses were something that I was a little worried about, having taken my sisters to try on dresses in bridal shops, we were quite shocked by some of the prices, so we decided in the end to go high street. I found these lovely blush pink dresses in Mango, with beautiful pink embroidered matte sequin shoulders, they sold out online very quickly and were very difficult to get hold of, but with some alterations made by my Mum and the addition of a satin bow at the back that she also made, I think they looked very pretty on the day.
Having always loved fresh flowers I knew I wanted them to play an important part of our decoration. Our budget however had taken a cut and I knew I would never be able to afford for my florist to create all the flowers. My Mum’s a dab hand at arranging flowers, so we decided to have a bit of both. I worked with Rachel at The Rose Shed who created beautiful arrangement for the church, pew ends and table centre pieces, she also created our gorgeous bouquets and button holes. She really understood what I was looking for and I couldn’t have been happier with my bouquet.
My Mum and I took a trip to Bristol Flower Market at the crack of dawn the weekend before the wedding, and I ordered stems and bunches of my favourite flowers that we then collected the morning before the wedding.
We were married in All Saint’s Church, that happened to be a 1 minute walk from The Rectory, it’s a lovely church and was perfect for our small number of guests. We had two readings, read by my childhood friends, one religious and then the reading ‘The Blessing Of The Hands’ which we felt really suited us and what we’ve been through over our 7 year relationship, and how we hope to be over the course of our marriage. This really was the most important part of the day to us, and it’s the part I definitely remember most vividly.
We were torn between a DJ and band for the evening but in the end, based on the fact we couldn’t have amplified music played after 11pm due to the venues residential setting, we chose Diskojuice. David visited us prior to the wedding to get a sense of what music we like and I knew we had made the right decision, we weren’t after a cheesy wedding disco, and the fact he actually wanted to hear what we wanted played was a breath of fresh air. The silent disco turned out to be amazing! I would recommend it to anyone who has noise restrictions, everyone loved it and it was hilarious for anyone not wearing the headphones to listen to everyone singing, it meant that at one point everyone evacuated the conservatory and ran out in to the garden to dance and sing at the top of their voices, the videos afterwards were hilarious!
Shella of Shell de Mar Photography was our first and only choice of photographer, she captures her weddings so beautifully and she is lovely to be around, you feel totally at ease. Dan and I aren’t usually comfortable in front of a camera, and it was something we were worried about when we thought ahead to the wedding day, but we couldn’t be happier with the way the day looked when we received our photographs.
I think if I could give any advice to brides planning their wedding it would be to try and not get too caught up in the millions of choices, and try not to expect everything to be perfect. I would have got married in a black bag at the end of my garden if it meant my Dad could be there, ultimately knowing you have all the people you care about the most around you to watch you make that commitment to the man you love is what it should be about.