Can you marry us anywhere?
Yes! Anywhere you want to hold your wedding ceremony gets two very enthusiastic thumbs up from me. Your only limit is your imagination (safety permitting!)
Do you officiate same-sex weddings?
Of course! Love is love.
Are Humanist ceremonies legally recognised?
At this time of writing, Humanist ceremonies are sadly not legally recognised in England or Wales. They have been legally recognised in Scotland since 2005 (and are by some margin the most chosen form of non-civil ceremony there), and have been recently recognised in Jersey , Northern Ireland, Guernsey, Alderney and Sark. England and Wales will follow suit soon! - but, in the meantime, this is not a barrier to choosing a Humanist ceremony. One can purchase statutory legal registration from your local register office for as little as £57 (I can advise you how to get the statutory price), and this can be done days before your Humanist ceremony, or even on the day itself. It is not a legal requirement to exchange rings in a civil ceremony, so you can leave that special moment for your Humanist ceremony: you can also make different traditions out of that extra ceremony. Nothing wrong with making lemonade out of lemons! If you would like me to lead your legal marriage ceremony in Scotland, Northern Ireland, Jersey et al, I can absolutely do so! All it requires is a letter of permission.
Is a Humanist wedding "real"?
Well, this question gets right to the heart of the matter! Think of it this way: you register a birth, but you don’t have a huge party and celebrate that happening - it is just a formality. You also register a death, but it isn’t the funeral or wake. The legal requirements of a wedding, although of course necessary (and we hope Humanist ceremonies will be legally recognised very soon!), are not emotional. In my opinion, the real wedding is the event where you declare your love and commitment in front of those who are the most dear to you. This will be the ceremony you and your friends and family remember, talk fondly of, and hold in your hearts.
What is your training?
I am trained and accredited by Humanists UK to lead weddings, mentor other celebrants in the network, and lead training workshops for HUK too. I also have decades of performance and writing experience in my sister career as an opera singer. If you would like me to sing your ring vows, you only have to ask...!
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Ah, amazing! Do get in touch - I am obnoxiously contactable! Slide into my DMs on Instagram, drop me an email, dust off your smoke signal equipment: I can't wait to get to know you...!
Thanks so much for being our celebrant, we had a fantastic day! We really felt like the ceremony was personal & showed what we think is important about committing to each other in this way. Lots of people said how reflective of our relationship it was - you smashed it, honestly couldn’t be happier!
We wanted to send you a huge & heartfelt thank you for being our celebrant. So many people said how wonderful you were, & how perfectly you captured the two of us. So so happy it was you that led our ceremony!
Huge thanks to you, Nat, for being such a wonderful celebrant. We had such an amazing time, & your ceremony was absolutely perfect - we’re very grateful for all your hard work. So many of our guests have said to us that they found it an extremely touching, personal and meaningful celebration. We are especially glad that we found you, as music is so important to us and we wanted to include it in our celebration. You not only worked with us to shape the ceremony around that, but even lent us your professional eye on the music to help us out with it. During the ceremony itself you were charismatic, clear and personable, you made sure everyone felt included & at ease, & the ceremony was full of personal touches, fun, laughter and happy tears. From meeting you for the first time, right through to the ceremony & afterwards, it has been an absolute pleasure.
You were our number one priority before we'd even confirmed a date!
Hello wonderful Nat! Everybody loved the ceremony and said how bespoke and personal it was and how brilliant you were. Laughs and tears aplenty. The whole planning process, all the way to seeing it to fruition has been wonderful & a nostalgic trip into our history. When we got engaged, we wanted to create a sentimental & fun gathering of all our closest family and friends & that’s exactly what you helped us do. It’s been great getting to know you & you’ve been so fabulous throughout. We are so grateful to you, & proud that despite all of the crazy circumstance we managed to get a wedding into 2020 together: not just any wedding, the most perfect day that neither of us actually imagined.
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