Good afternoon people,
Adam here, just to say its a monumental day at RMW Towers as we welcome the first of our new Real Brides to these spotty pages – take it away Alex you modern elegant thing you…
Hello you lovely lovely bunch *waves*! I am so excited to be writing my first post and I apologise in advance for any absurd rambling and for the excessive exclamation marks I will probably use. I also am liable to use lengthy sentences and Yorkshire terminology, because that is where I am from you see.
I may as well start by sharing with you the massive trauma I have just been through, caused by trying to find my dream dress (I may potentially be being a tad dramarama from here).
I started off by making three appointments at lovely bridal shops, varying in size and dress designers. I was hoping that within these appointments I would find the holy grail of wedding frocks and I would skip home pleased as punch with myself that I found it so swiftly and stress freely. I wanted lace, I wanted sleeves, I wanted slinky sassy skirt and another look for the evening. That’s not really how it panned out to be honest and I ended up with a second lot of appointments.
By now I seem to have gained a very un-nerving sense of ‘comfortability’ (I’m pretty sure that’s not a word) at whipping my kecks off in front of new people (and getting over some of my body hang ups in the process). Anyway, moving swiftly on, I soon realised that I was not one of the lucky ones who tries on a gown and just immediately realises it’s ‘the one’. I am more the sort of girl who will try on a lot of dresses (ahem, 52 to be exact) and find “the ones”. Yes, turns out I am pretty fickle when it comes to gorgeous gowns, and lordy were there some gorgeous ones.
I will henceforth share with you a list of designers whose dresses I tried on and deliberated over in turn. I started with Stewart Parvin, followed by Blue by Enzoani, Charlotte Balbier, Dizzy Lizzy, Essense, Augusta Jones, Chanticleer, Paloma Blanca, Veromia, Maggie Sottero, and a few that the shops had designed. Then it happened. No I still didn’t find ‘the one’, but I did find the designer who was going to make ‘the one’.One of the boutiques I visited had a Suzanne Neville dress, now I had never ventured into Suzanne Neville stockists as I always assumed they would be way out of my price range (yes I tried on some Stewie P’s, but that was more for funsies). So I bobbed on the dress I saw hiding in the background, and immediately felt a bit special. It was the way the dress pulled me into a glam looking egg timer is what did it for me more than anything. It was after I had decided I needed me some more of these dresses that the kind lady told me who the designer was; and that she only had that one in stock and how eye wateringly much it was over my blimming budget!!
So I left the shop with me mum, feeling a whole mixture of emotions really. I was so excited I had found a designer who would no doubt have lots more dresses I would love, and dresses that would really suit my figure. On the other hand there were my issues with the budget that I wanted to stick to.
My budget really was an issue because that first Suzanne Neville I tried was so much more than I had wanted to spend on a dress, or say a second car! I am very careful with my money and panic about spending it because for a long long time I had none, zilch, nada. So whilst it is completely each bride’s choice how much to spend on their dress, I personally had extreme anxieties about the cost spiralling out of control. It didn’t help that it was the one dress my mum bawled like a baby at, which was what I had wanted all along and hadn’t achieved with the other dresses.
So, I got home and it was really big thinking cap time. I chatted to Mr M at length about it, who was always all for me getting the dress I wanted regardless of cost. I then had a little chat with chocolate bear too cos you know, she always helps me with big decisions whilst we are out walking (erm, yes this is my dog but she is wise beyond her years).
I decided to email the Suzanne Neville website and see when I would be able to get an appointment at their Cheshire store (a store not too far from us was clearly a sign from beyond that I needed one of her dresses). Two days later I ended up in her boutique, glass of champagne in hand sifting through a gorgeous lot of dresses! My mum and sister came along for the day as we love a good road trip and day out – just us three. It was such an amazing experience, having the entire store exclusively for you, having a bottle of champagne (yes a full one, yes there was a tipsy mum and sister) and such lovely ladies to put you at ease every step of the way.
Now I don’t know if this happens to everyone, but I still didn’t get that “the one” feeling, and I don’t know if I ever would. But you can only look at so many dresses before they merge into one big white haze. And I knew I wanted to stop obsessively looking at dresses and just get one and be done with it. I knew I had found the designer that would really accentuate my curves in all the right places and make me feel really bride like. So I knew I wasn’t leaving the shop without one, it was just a case of trying to pick which one I liked best. It came down to two dresses, and in the end we decided to mix the two together with a bit from a third one thrown in for good measure. And there it was my dress…in my head of course because it wasn’t actually just one dress just yet. I get to go back and have Suzanne herself fit my toile, nip tuck and pin me in right good to get that egg timer look I love. And then presto it should be ready a few weeks after that.
It did end up being even more than the price I had in mind, which meant the champagne definitely helped me out, but in the end it’s only money. Money Mr M and I have worked hard for and can save up again when we need to. And yes, I didn’t want to be someone who spends that much on a dress, but I didn’t set out to. I just found dress shopping really difficult and probably tried too many on and lost too much sleep and was just glad to find something I knew would be perfect on the day.
I also found out in that same lovely day in Cheshire, that my face practically melts when Darphin cleanser comes near it, even though it was the one for sensitive skin. As soon as the lady in Space NK used it on me my whole face felt as if it was on fire. I sat quietly thinking, this is normal right? It was more my mum and sister falling about laughing and the shop lady getting a bowl of water and cotton wool that gave it away. Lucky for me, the blusher I was buying I had tried on pre face explosion and I knew it was a winner.
My face definitely did NOT warrant blusher on it following the cleanser experience…I had more than a bright red glow already. But I was rather pleased with my NARS purchases, and By Terry which I have never used/heard of before but is rather genioso! It is created by the lady who invented Touch Éclat; she set her own business up. Has anyone used By Terry before, I feel I am rather late to her party?
Just out of interest, did any of you lovelies struggle with the dress or did you find ‘the one’ straight away? Did you end up going massively over your budget or did you stick to your guns?
Anyway, I finish this post with a little picture of me and my wise owl Chocolate bear as I can’t possibly show you a photo of the dress (mainly because it doesn’t exist yet) and because she is a big part of our lives and will be part of yours too during my Real Brides posts.
Lots of love,
Alex (and Chocolate bear) xx