Hi Lovelies, Charlotte here 🙂
Before we begin Jenny’s wedding story extravaganza I just wanted to say a few things……
Firstly a huge thank-you to Jen who has given up a significant amount of her precious wedding planning time to devote to providing witty, honest and thought-provoking content to Rock My Wedding. The now Mrs “O” has helped more than she even realises to shape these blue polka dot pages into the success they are today. We salute you Pet.
Secondly – as this is Jenny’s area of the blog then her wedding report will not follow our usual format. Jenny is a real bride, she had her wedding her way and she will tell the series of events her way too. It is a thoroughly brilliant read and well worth grabbing a cup of tea, a calorific treat of choice, sitting down, relaxing and enjoying the story 🙂
Thirdly a huge thank you to Kim Hawkins Jenny’s photographer who has held of blogging the wedding even on her own website in anticipation for the release on Rock My Wedding. I think you will agree her work is nothing but outstanding and she has managed to capture every tiny aspect of the day in magnificent detail. Kim was also assisted on the day by photographer Jon Mold.
Oh and it’s so epic we had to do it in FOUR parts.
Has been well worth the wait. Promise.
Big Jenny Rocks Our World Love
The Biggest Surprise
The the day before the wedding loomed. The weather had picked up it was positively summer outside the fact it was dry meant I was a very happy girl. I had an exciting appointment at lunchtime that day…. My 12 week scan! Yes for those of you who weren’t aware Mr O and I are having a baby! A lovely announcement for Matt to make in his speech! It was nerve wracking, because although I was still throwing up and feeling pregnant you just don’t know what’s going on, but as soon as I was on the bed in the side room and the baby appeared on the screen looking like a proper little baby with arms and legs I felt better. And the tears just fell. Our baby was waving at us and jumping around inside me like it knew we were watching and it was excited to be in there! It’s a bit mind blowing at first, especially for Mr O – the last time we had a scan I was only 7 weeks and our baby resembled a turkey (not much to get excited about there!) But now it’s a proper baby. And it’s due on 20th March! And it’s perfect. We came away feeling wonderful armed with scan photo’s to share at the wedding the next day.
We then had the arduous task of driving down to Chichester to pick up Brian (The campervan). Could have done without that the evening before the wedding too, how nice it would have been to be at home having a nice pedicure relaxing…. I do make life difficult for myself sometimes! It was worth it though, Brian was handsome and I couldn’t have chosen a better wedding car.
All in all the week was a rollercoaster of ups and downs and all I kept telling myself was that come Saturday I would be cool as a cucumber and promised myself I would relax and enjoy myself come rain or shine. The only thing I would have done differently is be much more prepared, and get little jobs done earlier on so that I could have had some time to just sit on my backside eating crisps watching telly.
The night before the wedding, once I had arrived home in Brian, said my goodbyes and good lucks to Mr O, my sister and niece came round with food and wine and although it was about 11pm by the time we finally sat down, it was perfect. I gave them both a heads up on what I needed them to help with on the big day, and they presented me with a gorgeous pearl bracelet, of which I placed with my ‘wedding day bits’ on my dressing table so I wouldn’t forget to wear it. I made it to bed before midnight, taking my little cat Molly and my scan picture with me. My last night as Miss Palmer, the excitement kept at bay by the constant nausea I’d been feeling for the past 8 weeks, I watched chunky Miss Molly wash herself which relaxed me. Cats are so elegant and graceful, I looked at my scan picture and I felt calm and complete. It all felt right, and sleep finally came.
Third Time Lucky
If you remember my rantings about dress issues then you will realise that the dress I wore wasn’t the Alan Hannah Martinique. Nor was it the second dress I opted for. The dress I chose happened purely by accident (I swear!). I visited Clifford Burr in Ware to view some veils, chatting away with the shop lady my dress story came out, I had concluded that putting the deposit down on the Alan Hannah was silly of me, 18 months before the wedding I was bound to change my mind about it but I had found the second dress from Milly Bridal in China and I convinced myself it was perfect. It was perfect, and I would recommend Milly Bridal to anyone looking for an inexpensive wedding dress. I had lumped out a phenomenal amount of money on the first dress, and I disliked it, the Milly dress cost me a fraction of the first one, and I loved it. Go figure. When I explained the idea of ‘The’ dress I had when I first started scrap booking wedding ideas when I first got engaged, it looked nothing like the Martinique. Nothing like it at all. However the shop lady disappeared for a moment and returned with a proud look on her face. She was holding a dress that I can only describe as ‘The One’. I tried it. It fit like a glove. Cinderella you shall go to the ball! Three wedding dresses though…. Isn’t that a little excessive of me?
The only draw back was Sottero and Midgely couldn’t deliver a new dress within the time frame I had left, it was 12 weeks until the wedding and they manufacture their dresses in China. Good old China. So she told me I could buy the dress I was wearing at a discount. It was brand new this season, it had been in the shop a month. It had not a mark on it. It didn’t need altering, it was perfect, the most perfect dress I had ever ever seen. Knowing how drastically impulsive I am, and with ‘Three Wedding Dresses Palmer’ as a potential nickname from my friends I asked for a few days to think about it. I knew I had to speak to Mr O about this, I was looking at spending a lot more money on a dress than I had already, yes it’s my money alright but even so, I needed clarification from him that I wasn’t totally bonkers. We talked that night, I had to sleep on it and promise that whatever I decided I would stop looking at dresses from that point onwards.
So I slept on it, and the following morning I made the call. I was the proud owner of Sottero & Midgely Toni – off the peg no less! Now I was faced with selling my two prior dress mistakes….. the second one from Milly wasn’t a problem I sold it on ebay and got what I paid for it (result!). The Alan Hannah Martinique…. Still for sale…..
I made the right decision. I look at our wedding images and I feel relieved that I didn’t choose the other two dresses. The Sottero & Midgely one was The One.
As for veils well, I ended up sourcing the matching veil for my new dress in a shop in Norwich who posted it to me the next day. I swiftly took it to Lolly (my bridesmaid dress maker) and she made me a lovely lace bolero jacket.
The dress story doesn’t end there though…. After the shock of my surprise pregnancy had sunk in I arranged an emergency dress fitting with Lolly. If it needed to be adjusted then it would ‘be a bit of a bugger’ but not out of the question so once we’d taken on board that I would only be 12 weeks on the big day, and that I had morning sickness like you wouldn’t believe (why do they call it morning sickness when it lasts the whole damn day?!) I decided that would just suck it and see, so to speak. My boobs had only gone up a cup size, and I had lost half a stone. Considering I was feeling like utter tripe the dress actually fitting me was the least of my problems.
My waist had thickened though, and wearing anything constricting made me feel faint and dizzy. It was at this point, (which was a week before the wedding) that I decided if it came to it I would simply change dresses in the evening, and wear the beautiful Martinique afterall. It really is a beautifully timeless gown, the cut is so chic and beyond that, it’s really bloody comfy! But the Martinique didn’t really ‘go’ with what the rest of the wedding party were wearing, and there was still a small chance that it too would be really tight and constricting. Oh buggeringhell. For my own piece of mind, so that I could sleep at night knowing that I would be ok on the day, I turned to my fail safe dress designer… Vivien of Holloway. I ordered the Ivory Lace Swing Dress and a white underskirt online, I already own a few Viv dresses so I trusted the size would be ok, and made a trip to Hobbycraft (last and final trip for a good long while I might add!) and bought some nice thick purple ribbon to tie around the waist thus creating a Candy Anthony inspired wedding dress. Voila! Job done. I could change into that in the evening so I would be free to breathe and dance the night away in complete comfort. Oh, and it turned up the day before the wedding. Cutting it a bit fine you say? Yes, that’s me all over. A flaming stress addict. So in reality I actually bought four wedding dresses. Is that some sort of record?
I didn’t change into the evening dress though, as it happened the main dress fitted me better on the day of the wedding than it did at my final fitting (morning sickness pays off then!). But having the VoH dress there as something to fall back on meant I could really relax so although it has gone unworn I may sell it, but I may keep it and wear it one day, perhaps for our baby’s christening.
The moral of the story here is I rushed into putting a deposit down on a dress too soon. I should have waited, looked around more, tried more dresses on (despite hating every minute of dress shopping) and given myself a bit of time to make the right decision. But it all worked out fine in the end. I have no regrets!
Kiss And Make-Up
I wanted a natural look, Matt isn’t a fan of ‘strictly come dancing’ make up and thinks I look more ‘me’ when I have my lashes dressed and a bit of colour in my cheeks.
So I went and got myself some Bare Escentual Mineral make up, my skin wasn’t quite at that ‘glowing and fabulous’ stage, in fact I had a hormonal break out and was covered in pimples. Fabulous. Bare minerals is good for problematic skin and I knew I wouldn’t get the coverage with any of my MAC or YSL products. I used L’oreal touch magique on my dark circles around my eyes, finishing with a few dabs of YSL Touche Eclat. I highlighted and contoured my face using MAC blush baby and MAC Well Dressed, and NARS Orgasm Illuminator, and on my lips I used MAC Plushglass lipgloss in Ample Pink. My mascara is Clinique High Impact in black. I used my favourite product on my body, MAC Face and Body Foundation mixing two colours C5 and C2, and used the NARS illuminator on my collar bone and shoulders.
Pretty simple really, the major job was getting a flawless finish on my base the rest of it took five minutes!