Happy New Year lovely RMW-ers! I’m still trying to fit back into my work trousers properly after much festive indulging. At the moment they feel a bit like jeggings. No offence to jeggings fans, but they REALLY aren’t flattering on me!
Anyhoo, 147 days to go. I just had a little look at my last post and realised that, of the five things we’d hoped to have sorted by now, we’ve only sorted… ONE! That’s better than none though, right?!
Thanks to two very lovely chaps, our ceremony details are almost finalised. The first very lovely chap is Reverend Jackson (Rev J), our Chaplain, who popped over for dinner this week to discuss readings, vows and general wedding-y bits. As we are a RIDICULOUSLY indecisive couple, we’re still to-ing and fro-ing with regards to readings. Sensing our inability to make up our minds about it, Rev J directed us to Your Church Wedding a brilliant resource!
The other thoroughly lovely chap, Simon, is our organist. He has been playing at weddings for 37 years, since he was 13, and we will be number 3728! Despite this, he is still VERY excited (or, at least, appears to be!) We met in the organ loft of the chapel – very small, very cold, VERY loud – and he played lots of options for the processional and recessional music. We also discussed hymns, and have (almost) reached a final decision… The two definite are: Love Divine, All Loves Excelling and Guide Me, O Thou Great Redeemer. The other will be either: I Vow to Thee, My Country, Be Thou My Vision, or How Great Thou Art. Should have asked Santa for the power of decisiveness for Christmas 😉
To get to the organ loft we had to walk up the aisle! It seems to get longer every time!
I almost slipped over three times – they’d just ruddy well polished it! Mental note to self: ask them NOT to polish it for at least a week before June 7th. God only knows how K-Midd managed the Westminster Abbey aisle, but I’m pretty sure she wasn’t white-knuckling her father’s arm! Bit worried about cutting off my lovely dad’s circulation! Blu-tac on the soles is still an option, although fellow RMW-reader Anita suggested these beauties.
Oooh, that brings me to my next piece of news… My gorgeous girlfriends clubbed together to pay for my W-day shoes (thank you ladies!), and we went to Westfield (man alive, that place is VAST!) earlier this month to check out what was on offer. The answer? Not a huge amount. I mean, I tried on A LOT of shoes, but almost every pair had a massive heel and platform.
I a) cannot walk in anything over 4 inches, b) don’t want to b taller than Mr A and c) need 3.5 inch heels with my dress. However, I know that lots of you can walk in very high heels, and lots of you want to show off your shoes in shorter dresses, so here is a selection of the foot candy I tried on…
Please excuse the sock lines, the fact a have very wide frog-like feet (squeeeeeeeze!), and the fact that some of the pictures don’t show the whole shoe very clearly.
Number 1: Gorgeous, but I can’t be trusted in slingbacks (currently £25.00 in the Debenhams sale)
Number 2: Love the traditional elegance of these. (£50.00 – Roland Cartier at Debenhams)
Number 3: Pretty, but too low for my dress (also in Debenhams)
Number 4: Glitter-tastic, but MUCH too high. (Dune: £90.00, with £50.00 going to the Teenage Cancer Trust)
Number 5: I LOVE these Grecian beauties (£135, Dune)
Number 6: Seriously funky heels – I adore this colour, and the bow! (Topshop – now sold out)
Number 7: Look at the angle of my foot! How does ANYONE walk in shoes this high? I blame Lady Gaga. (£70.00, Schuh) Kudos to any bride who can wear these and not end up on the floor!
Number 8: Low heel and lacy silver numbers (Stuart Weitzman for Russell & Bromley, in the sale)
Number 9: More Grecian-style beauties (Coast, £75.00)
Number 10: I ADORE these champagne coloured heels – look at the detail!! Alas – too high for me! (Coast, reduced to £75.00)
Numbers 11 & 12: Both by LK Bennett, and both now sold out BUT they do have the black version of the orange shoe, which would look stunning at a monochromatic W-day (reduced to £75.00)
So, which ones did I go for? Two pairs actually (Shocker!) First up, the turquoise Topshop bad boys. Not only did my friend say they looked like Valentino shoes (sold!), but they fitted my frog feet AND, when I got them to the till they were reduced to £20.00! Deduct 10% student discount and *BOOM*… 18 squid!
I also couldn’t stop thinking about the lacy Roland Cartier ones, so went to buy them on line a few days later. Couldn’t find them… massive panic… my lovely friend picked me up a pair from Oxford Street.
I’m not sure when I’ll wear the Topshop ones – hen do? Wedding rehearsal? Evening of the wedding? But they will DEFINITELY be worn at some point. I have added some blue shoe clips from The Vanilla Tree to the ivory shoes, to make them a bit unique – thoughts?
OK, so now you’ve seen many, many pictures of my feet(!), I thought I’d give you an update on another of my ‘hang-up’ areas… le gnashers.
As the regular Real Bride readers amongst you will know, I started a course of Invisalign at The Gallery Dental Practice back in August. I am now on my penultimate set of aligners (number 10 of 11) and thought I would show you the difference it has made so far. I may have to have a twelfth set, as there is still too much gum on show when I smile. The aligners can push your teeth upwards, taking the gum with them, so the gumline is reduced. Very clever (still not 100% sure how this works, but it has moved, and can apparently be moved by about 2 more inches).
Again, excuse the dodgy picture quality – poor lighting for photos at Chez HarrisArnold!
Taken at a wedding in July, before treatment. I seriously LOATHE this picture – I think I look like some weird feral cat/other type of creature. Obviously a reportage shot, which is what our lovely photographer Guy Hearn specialises in, but if I look like this in any W-day shot, I would be gutted!
Taken today, and without the brace in. The gap has almost closed, and I’ll be having the funny little muscle that runs from the inside of the top lip to the gum cut in two weeks, as mine runs between my two front teeth. After that, the final set will close the gap completely, before my dentist caps the concave front tooth (already capped from when I nose-dived into a swimming pool aged 9 and broke the tooth in half).
With the aligners in – almost invisible, apart from the little nodules they attach to some teeth to allow the brace to grip.
I anyone else having any ‘work’ done before W-day? I hadn’t even considered it until a friend mentioned she was thinking about it, and then I couldn’t shake off the thought of not being able to smile naturally in our wedding pictures, or laugh without covering my mouth.
At almost £4000.00, I regularly have pangs of guilt about having them done too. In fact, the M-word (money) has really started to concern me. I COMPLETELY empathised with Vix’s Little Miss Worry post earlier this month. I seem to fluctuate daily (sometimes hourly) between thinking, “it’s the ONLY time we’re doing this, and probably the only time we’ll have all our loved ones together EVER”, and “how on earth can we justify spending so much money on one day?!”.
Usually, the latter stems from having a ‘moment’ about a) being on a student teacher salary, b) the fact our boiler is broken (£££), c) the fact the car keeps breaking (£££), d) the fact that Elvis (our cat) got a piece of grass lodged in his nasal passage and had to have it surgically removed (£££) etc etc *moan moan moan bore bore bore*
I guess everyone feels like this though, yes?!?
Well, we spoke to the wonderful aforementioned Rev J about this, and he said that this is a common feeling amongst couples before their wedding. Interestingly, and helpfully, he said that if we allow the wedding to become all about the amount it is costing, it then becomes defined by the money. Yes, all that money, however much you are spending, could (easily) be spent elsewhere, or saved, or given to a worthy cause BUT why not spend it on celebrating your love for the person you have just vowed to spend the rest of your life with?
See you in six weeks (which fly by, by the way!) for stationery sneak peeks and (hopefully) some catering news! I would write a to do list, but it would be almost the same as my last one 😉
PS: Dress fitting (and BM dress fittings) THIS SATURDAY J