What Jo Did… Went To 12 13 14 Weddings!!

A pinch and a punch, everyone. That’s right, it’s December 1st, so there are six months and six days to go until W-day! 189 DAYS! Eeeeeek!!

So, we’re almost at the end of 2011 which will, for us, go down in history as ‘The Year of 12 Weddings’. Well, 13 if you count the wedding party we’ve been invited to on 29th December. And 14 if you count the Royal Wedding (which I do, of course).

Every single one of these 12 weddings has captured the essence of the couple getting married beautifully. Perhaps I’m biased, but the ‘your day, your way’ philosophy shone through at each one, and Mr A and I had an absolute blast! Mr A was an usher at three of them, and wore his lovely suit for the others, only having to worry about his shirt/tie/shoe combo. I, on the other hand, had to find TWELVE outfits! I only doubled up once, although I may do so again for number 13! I borrowed a few dresses, and bought the rest in vintage stores, high street sales, and charity shops. Most spent on a dress? £42.00. Bargain 🙂

And on the theme of outfits, after many months of discussing bridesmaid dresses, we’re sorted! We looked at dove grey, slate grey, ivory, mink, sage green. We looked at mismatched designs in the same colour, the same designs in different colours, long, short, and everything in between…

One thing remained constant – we would have them made. I found Dot – the loveliest dressmaker – and we’d arranged to meet in January, with all the bridesmaids…

Then I saw this.

I fell in love with it instantly. Out went an email to the girls. They loved it too, so I went online to order them. SOLD OUT. I kid you not! Gutted.
Fast forward two weeks, a call to Mango customer services, a lot of time spent stalking the Mango website, and people returning the dresses, and we finally have all five. Hurrah! ☺

Two of my bridesmaids and I visited Dot this weekend. She can alter each dress to give them different necklines, so we’re still off to see her in January. I’m so excited to have found a dress to suit all five bridesmaids, and one that is a little bit ‘different’.

Here Come The Girls.

Now would probably a good time to introduce the girls! I made a comment on a post about bridesmaids made by Anna K back in July, where she asked how we chose ours, which went along these lines:

I know I shouldn’t count my chickens, with six months still to go, but I feel incredibly lucky to have five amazing girls as bridesmaids:


My oldest friend. And utter legend. And yummy mummy to the two most adorable flower girls (as seen in my previous post). Very few photos exist of her in which she isn’t blinking. The one who knows me inside out.


My ‘I wish you were getting married RIGHT NOW because I’m so excited’ friend. The one who will make me cry before the wedding by crying herself.


My ‘through thick and thin’ gal. Going through horrible break ups at the same time cemented our bond! Doesn’t realise how gorgeous she is. The one with the calming influence.


My cousin and ‘mini me’. Quite nervous about walking up the aisle (clumsiness runs in the family), but also uber excited. The one who understands me wanting our cat to be ringbearer (Still working on that!)


My ‘flower of Scotland’. Brutally honest (in a good way), and completely hilarious. We were wedding planners together, helping each other with some ‘difficult’ clients. I know she’ll give me a good shake if she sees me heading down that route. The one who makes me laugh so hard I snort.

What it came down to for me, was imagining the morning of the wedding and thinking who I would want with me. I don’t have any sisters, so simply chose the girls I would choose as sisters, if I had the chance. I can’t wait to have a photograph of all of us taken at the wedding!

Brides Dress Revisited.

Dot also looked at my dress, which I hadn’t tried on for months.

It has a train!

I honestly thought there was no train, and although it isn’t really long, I can’t believe I missed it! When MrsA Snr and I discussed the veil, I even said I’d like it to be cathedral length, ‘to give the illusion of a train’.

Please, somebody, tell me you’ve done something similarly ridiculous…
I put it down to being so excited about finding the dress in a sample sale!

Well, there is no loop in the dress for me to hold, and neither a loop, nor a bustle, can be added (can’t say too much without giving key details away!), so I may have to switch to another dress for the first dance, then switch back again. I picked up a vintage ivory, floaty, midi dress in an antique store recently, so that may solve the problem.

Now I just need to think about hair and accessories! A group of girlfriends who couldn’t make my hen weekend have given me money for shoes, so we’re off to Birmingham Bull Ring in the New Year.

Too. Much. Choice.

And in a dream world, where money is no object:

A friend has offered her diamond earrings (a family heirloom!) for my ‘something old’, and the veil is a work in progress… More on that in the New Year.

I would like something spangly in my hair for the evening, and have my beady eye on the same gorgeous head piece as fellow Real Bride, Kelly. Glitzy Secrets is uh-mazing! And I LOVE this back necklace, but I think it might be a step too far. Less is more, after all.

Hopefully, the hair situ will be fairly straightforward. It’s got to go up, due to excessive frizzing (not pretty), and after having a plait built in to an up-style when I was a bridesmaid in December, I’m pretty sure I’ll go with something similar to these:

By the time I write again in January, I HOPE we have achieved the following:

  • Decided on stationery.
  • Chosen our caterers and food.
  • Discussed ceremony music and hymns
  • Decided whether to have a videographer and/or photo booth.
  • Decided whether to have a cocktail hour after dinner.

We will also have given notice of our attention to marry. I mentioned this to Mr A on Sunday. The conversation went something like this:

Me: ‘We must ask Reverend Jackson (Rev. J) for the form we need to send off.’
MrA: ‘He’s already sent it to me.’
Me: ‘Really? When was that then?’
MrA: (whilst reading the paper) ‘Erm, about a week ago I think.’

Apparently, he’s got it covered. Happy days!

Have a wonderful festive season all, and a marvellous New Year! See you in January.

In the meantime, any stories about not noticing a major feature of your dress until you try it on for the FOURTH time would be most welcome!

And can anyone top our total number of weddings in a year?

Big ‘Hoping for a Tom Ford ‘Nude Blush’ lippy in my stocking thanks to Mrs O’Shea’ love.

Mrs A-to-be


Author: Adam Crohill
Adam likes Pina Coladas and getting caught in the rain.

24 thoughts on “What Jo Did… Went To 12 13 14 Weddings!!

  1. Jo this is bonkers! Not only are your three ‘if money were no option’ shoes options MY if money were no option shoe options (phew!) I have just purchased the rachel simpsons! The hair is exactamundo like the pics I have been collecting for inspiration, and I have been lusting over back necklaces for months. TWINIES!!!!!

    My major dress realisation – it didn’t bloody fit me! For three different visits to it, I tried it on, hummed and haaad and eventually bought it, (it was a sale dress so only one size option – TINY) got it home, tried it on about a month later and couldn’t even close it! It felt super tight in the shop, but I kept thinking ‘i’ll lose weight before the day’. NO CHANCE!! No refunds and a new dress on its way, I feel like a total fool! So I can totally understand!

    Can’t wait to hear more about your planning, have a super christmas and new year xxx

  2. Jo those hairstyles are amazing….hope you don’t mind if I pinch a few for my pinboard 🙂

    All of your ideas are coming together so well x

  3. That is the nicest bridesmaid dress I have ever seen, your friends are so lucky! I think you should go with the back jewels – more is more! x

  4. Wow Jo, you’ve been a busy bee! I love the Emmy Francesca shoe but £695 is a LOT of money to pay for a pair of shoes!! I can see why they’re on your ‘if money was no object’ list!!

    I haven’t had any moments with my own dress (although I do have the same first dance dilemma as you and will probably shuffle through and then change into a shorter dress for serious dancing!) but I do keep forgetting which shoulder my asymmetric bridesmaids dresses are on!!

  5. I think if you make your cat your ringbearer that would be awesome 🙂 I am trying to encourage the Mr we can have the dog but at the moment it’s a big fat no 🙁

    Working on it though x

  6. Jo, thank you so much! I think you have solved my side tiara issues as I have just visited the glitzy secrets website – more choice and more within budget than others I’ve seen AND finally a website that shows actual models wearing the actual side tiaras so you can get a good idea of what it looks like – Love it!
    I am totally with you on the hair styles (the pic of Jessica Alba is already stuck in my scrap book) and the shoes, have been drooling over Emmy shoes for about a year now…oh well – maybe in another lifetime.
    And also, big kudos for going for something a bit different for the BM dresses – love that dress.
    Love your post and look forward to reading more in the New Year.

  7. Fab post, loving your shoe choices and the bridesmaid dress 😀

    Can’t top your number of weddings in a year, but once did 3 weddings in eight days!! One in Reading, one in Newcastle and one nearer home in Scotland! xx

  8. Jo what date are you getting married, i’ve forgotten? I think we are pretty close? I’m the 8th June

    Oh and the whole, I forgot it had a train thing… yep I did that… I want them to get rid of it though…its only a small puddle one… I’ll have a chat again with the seamstress in Feb when I start alterations. (Oh and yeah I too bought it as a sample, so got over excited about the price!)

    Loving your Bridesmaid options and the shoe selection! 🙂

  9. Loving your b/maid breakdown, I am keen on the Viv W’s shoes myself, but no dress yet so no dress no train scenario as yet!

    Awesome effort on securing the B/maid dresses!

    Have a jolly christmas x

  10. oooooh I want to copy everything you have (but I promise not to!) I also really really want the Emmy Francesca shoe so trying to save the pennies, not doing very well so far tho 🙁

  11. Ha! By the end of the year, we’ll have been to 7 (including one on NYE!) and I thought that was bad! Hey ho, expect will only get worse now we’re at ‘that age’……. x

  12. Great post….was wondering who this lovely dressmaker is? One of my bridesmaids has told me she is pregnant. Great news, but she will be 9 months pregnant on my wedding day. In desperate need of a good dressmaker at the moment…if you could pass on her details I would appreciate it….x

  13. Shoes, check. Hair, check. Dresses, check. What more could a gal want in a post?! LOVE the BM dresses, so gorgeous and yey for glitzy secrets! Love my head piece thingy. 12 weddings is heaps, I don’t think i’ve been to that many in my whole life, let alone a year! You must have picked up some cool ideas from each one though.

    Can’t wait to read more…

  14. What a fabulous post Jo, everything a girl could ever want to read about! I sent Tom a picture if the Emmy shoes a couple of weeks ago actually to see his reaction…. He wasn’t impressed!

    I can’t believe you’ll have attended 13 actual weddings, that’s crazy! However, I’m even more impressed by your dress purchases!! I was chugged with the price of my VoH dress but you are the ultimate bargain hunter. Can I take you shopping with me please? I’ll thank you in kind with cocktails…:-)

    Otherwise, for the dress, I had completely forgotten about the back of it. I thought it would loom completely different!! Luckily one of my lovely bridesmaids has taken oodles of pictures with me in it from lots of different angles so I shouldn’t forget anything else now…. That said I have no idea how long the train will be in the end as the dress was so long on me anyway…it’ll be a surprise!

    Merry Christmas! Xxx

  15. What a great post young lady!!!

    I’m well jeal of those bridesmaid dresses!!! They’re so deliciously glamorous and elegant!

    As for those back necklaces I don’t think I’d ever really heard of one but they do sound rather fancy, I likey!!!

    And as for Jessica’s hair – that’s the picture I used in the bridesmaids cards I ruddy love it!!!

    I’m looking forward to seeing whats next…

  16. What a great post! I agree with everyone else on the fab shoes and hair and Bridesmaids dresses etc but most of all I love the fact you didn’t notice your dress had a train! hilarious and brilliant both at the same time (and makes me feel better about missing so many details all of the time!) X

  17. Jo I loved this post, and your best girls are going to look killer.

    On the back jewels – why not? you could always just put them on for night time (that’s what I did….)

    And I really hope Santa brings you a Tom Ford 😉

    Charlotte xxx

  18. Hello you lovely lot.

    Thanks for all your lovely comments! I spent 45 mins replying to them last night, hit send, and something crashsed (not sure what), and wiped it!!

    Will re-reply to you all tomorrow.
    It’s Friiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiday!

    J xxx

  19. Woooo, Happy Friday everyone!…..I have a sense that I’m not going to get much work done today……@Charlotte can you build a forum/discussion board thingy into your gorgeous site so we can just gas bag about weddings all day?!!
    Jo – forgot to say, I am mightily impresses by your bargainous dress hunting, can you come shopping with me too?! x

  20. Right, I’m going to have another go at replying to you all, without the computer crashing!

    @Jeannie – How spooky! We clearly have very good taste! Did you get the blue RS shoes, or ivory? I can’t find the blue ones on the website 🙁 Did you see that amazing Stephanie Brown back necklace on RMW on Wednesday – I’m in love!
    So sorry to hear about your dress – such a shame. Is the second one similar? Can you sell the first one?

    @Claire – Pinch away! Plaits all round!

    @HelenHtobe – LOVE the philosophy ‘more is more’. Brilliant! Might just have to go for that back necklace!

    @Shirley – you’re completely right about the price of those shoes!
    I actually thought of you when I saw that train! Never mind, I’ll swap dresses, Shirley is! And then a realisation hit me… Shirley is a REALLY good dancer. I’m not. And a long dress would have meant that people can’t see my feet!!

    @Fliss – Yay for Glitzy Secrets! They often have offers too, so look out for those. You’re right about those photos of the models wearing them – much more helpful!

    @Roz – Blimey! That’s a lot of miles! Our most hectic week was: a wedding in Majorca on the Friday, and back for one here on the Wednesday, missing one in the middle because we couldn’t get back in time! Madness.

    @Abi – we’re the day before you! So I’ll be turning in on the night of the wedding a few hours before you wake up and start getting ready. Eeeeeeeek!
    *Yay* for you doing the same thing as me with the train! I did ask the seamstress if it ‘can just be cut off?’ but it can’t, because of the way the dress is cut. Ooooops!

    @One Jolly Girl – I l-o-v-e those Viv shoes! One of my friends also just pointed out to me that there is a VW shop at Bicester Village, just up the road from me! Will making a little trip there in the new year, I think!
    Have a jolly Christmas too!!

    @Sarah – copy away! ESPECIALLY if it’s the shoes – I want to see someone in them on RMW!

    @Lucy – isn’t it beautiful?! She always manages to strike the perfect balance between polished and undone. Jealous, moi?

    @Carrie – Oooh, a NYE wedding? That’s going to be so cool! You’re right about being at that ‘age’ – we’d hope to travel during every school holiday for about two years after the wedding, but more and more friends are getting engaged, so I don’t think we’ll be able to, unless we miss all the weddings (which we wouldn’t want to do!)
    @Jacinta – Of course! Where do you live? She is near Oxford, so if that suits you, let me know, and I’ll send you her details.

    @Kelly Reds – Thanks sweets! Didn’t put a picture on, in case you want to put it on one of your posts.
    Have definitely picked up some ideas, and actually started my post by writing about my fave bits of each one, but it was starting to take up my whole word count!

    @Jenny Lane – Thanks treasure, you’re too kind!

    @Celine – Ha ha! Can just imagine Tom’s face when he saw them! Ha ha!
    Will definitely come shopping in return for cocktails (or even without cocktails!) We must go and see Emma at VoH too!

    @Amanda – Hello, my fellow plait lover! I thought you’d approve 🙂

    @LauraLoves – Ha ha! I’m glad you miss the little details too – sometimes I think I’m going bonkers!

    @Rebecca – I’m glad you asked that, because I should have cited the website in my post!! They’re at:
    https://www.debbiegrahamjewellery.com/userimages/Bridal-Wedding-Necklaces(1885689).htm for £120.00. Also, if you Google ‘back necklaces’, there are heaps!

    @Charlotte – Oooh, that’s an idea! Bling it up for the evening 😉
    Will let you know if Santa makes it to Selfridges en route to my house!

    @Carrie – a forum would be amazing, but I’m sure the idea has come up before, and there’s a reason why they can’t… Can’t remember the reason though! D’oh.
    Yes! Am well up for shopping – Celine said the same thing, so maybe we should start a club?!

    Have a great weekend all. Have had a grim cough and cold for over a week, so have prescribed myself a day on the sofa with: RMW, loads of TV to catch up with on Sky+ (including ‘The Ultimate Guide to Penny Pinching’, which I’m watching now!), a wedding mag, unlimited tea, a bl*ody good book (The Night Circus, by Erin Morgenstern), and hopefully dinner cooked by MrA :))


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