Afternoon everyone, thanks for joining me.
As I sit down to write my second post, I can’t help thinking of those bands who after coming out, all guns blazing and storming the charts, go back to the studio to record their second album, only to find that actually, all their best material has gone and they crash and burn. So I’m optimistic!
Not that I ever stormed the charts of course, or wrote an album, so I guess the pressure isn’t quite the same. In which case, I’ll just chat on about what I’ve been up to and hope to entertain you in some way. I’ve spend most of my time since you last heard from me doing the adminy stuff that you won’t want to hear anything about, like writing the guest list, giving notice, re-writing the guest list and generally panicking that actually, 60 day guests isn’t anywhere near enough! There has been fun stuff too thankfully as the rest of my time has been spent with my head in the clouds scouring the internet for veils and asking myself ‘do I really need a pair of Louboutins?’ The answer of course, is yes.
A couple of years back, a friend of mine invented an illness that I apparently suffer from, called ‘chronic nostalgia’ – an inability to throw out anything of sentimental value and the need to make most of my adult decisions based on things I remember as a child.
My um, condition really came into it’s own when choosing a wedding veil. I know that wearing a veil or not is something a lot of brides struggle to decide on, but for me, I’m 100% wearing one – l and it needs to be a veil that makes me ‘feel like a proper bride’. Because that’s what 8 year old me would want. Small child me, would spend an entire afternoon arranging my toys into a congregation, I’d wrap myself in bedsheets, pull the net curtain down from the window and arrange it on my head as a beautiful veil, then I would parade around the room chanting ‘Here Comes the Bride’.
There was no question that 30-odd years later, I’d be doing exactly the same thing with an overpriced piece of tulle and so my search for the perfect veil began… badly. Nothing was right. There are some amazing veils and headpieces out there, but they were either not me, or really uninspiring. I was never going to be in the market for a birdcage veil either. Don’t get me wrong, I think they look great on other people, but as a lady of a certain age, I feel like as soon as I whack a piece of French netting in front of my face, I turn into Camilla Parker-Bowles. No idea why! I’m very jealous of the legions of brides who can wear them and still look youthful – I’m just not one of them.
I needed traditional, but not generic and I couldn’t find anything that fitted the bill. Well, my weeks of anxiety came to a halt when I stumbled upon Sara Gabriel. I have to say, her veils are just stunning, and from the moment I found her website, I was like a kid in a sweetshop. Here’s a little selection of her designs, all very simple, classic and beautifully made, just what I’m looking for! Rumour has it she might be looking for UK stockists pretty soon too so watch this space.
I never thought I’d have so much trouble finding something to put on my head! Thankfully, my hunt is now over and I can turn my obsession to shoes.
The Shoe That Carries The Woman
Christian Louboutin once said ‘a woman can carry a bag, but it is the shoe that carries the woman’ and so what I wear on my feet to carry me down the aisle is one of my most important decisions. I’ve never met a Liverpool bride who’s worn flats, and I’ll be no exception. Heels all the way until they cripple me and I need to run over to Primarni, five minutes before closing time for a pair of flip flops (always an option when its on the next block to your wedding venue!)
The question is, do I get the most comfortable shoes or the most fabulous shoes? I’m currently at the daydreaming stage, spending every lunch hour on Net-a-Porter gazing lovingly at anything sparkly and daring to imagine a flash of red sole heading up the sweeping staircase of The Athenaeum, but we’ll see. My current headturners are
I love them all but knowing me, I’ll end up changing my mind and getting something completely different. There’s still a BIG part of me that’s considering buying a cheap as chips pair and asking my friend Eve who’s an illustrator, to draw pretty things all over them!
Ready For My Close Up
Finally, I have managed to tear myself from imaginary shopping to obsess about something else, videographers. This is something that’s bugged me for a few months. When we did our original budget, I was dead against getting a videographer. The last thing I want to worry about during the wedding is whether I’m standing up straight or how much I hate hearing my voice when it’s recorded. Then another bride showed me the trailer for her wedding video – I cried from start to finish. I barely know her!
That was when I started questioning my wisdom. Have we made the right choice? After the wedding, will I regret not having such a potentially important record of our day? I shopped around a little and came across a real cross section of different companies – many of them fitted the idea I had in my head of the shaky, badly edited wedding video I’d seen in the past, the type I knew I didn’t want. But then on the other hand, there are so many companies coming through making absolutely stunning films, and many of them using my old favourite Super 8. Watching these films brought to mind the old cine camera my Dad gave me as a child which has led to a lifelong love affair with Super 8 (chronic nostalgia anyone?) and now, I don’t know what to do.
The easy answer is, it’s not in the budget and it’s a big financial commitment so let’s not have one. In fact, when I mentioned it to Lee he gave me one of those Paddington Bear hard stares that say “don’t even go down that road”. So that’s where I am right now, wondering if we don’t book a videographer are we going to regret it or is it not worth the expense? Would I hate being followed with a camera anyway?
I guess that’s a big decision we’ll have to make together.
Before I go, I’ll let my cat Gia have the last word. As I was writing this, she decided to create her own bridal look, using the RMW favourite of the feather crown. Always glad to share cat pics, so here she is – the blushing bride…
Well, that’s me signing off until next time, when I promise I’m going to have loads to talk about. My friend Thom is currently working away on our save the dates, and an appointment with a florist is next on my list, we also have our engagement shoot in two weeks which I’m looking forward to sharing with you all.
Peace & Love