What Sophie Did… Archived The Wedding File

cover-image1-3Oh my goodness, last post!! Where has the time gone? It is 1 month to go until I become Mrs White so the countdown is officially on, and now I couldn’t be more excited. What a journey it has been. My dusty, 20 year-old wedding file will actually become redundant in just another 30 days time… What on earth will I do with myself? Hmmm, house interior-design file…? 😉


But I couldn’t possibly sign off without allowing Simon to finally have his say. This is long overdue and greatly anticipated (by me, at least!) So at long last, I introduce you all to my man:

From The Groom (to be)

Simon The Groom So, my turn! Having watched Sophie blog for the last year I naively thought this would be easy. As I have come to learn with so many things about weddings…nothing is as easy as it looks.

I have developed a theory on this very topic. Man hits his peak of manliness when he (successfully!) proposes to the girl he loves; he asks the question only when he is ready…it’s the epitome of masculinity. From this point forward the balance needs to return, so wedding planning was created. Soon man will begin to marvel at the magnificence of his future wife, at the multi-tasking ability, the wealth of apparently innate wedding knowledge and the militarily precise organizational skills. From being an all-conquering ‘wife-finder’, man will un-puff his chest and realize how lucky he is.

This, of course, may be specific just to me. However, I can’t be the only groom who, as the wedding planning builds, has continued to smile smugly that the girl accepted him. Don’t get me wrong, I have been as involved as I can be in the entire process but I just can’t compete! I can’t match the eye for detail, the efficiency and don’t get me started on the listss (this is not a spelling mistake, I just concluded that one ‘s’ wasn’t sufficient plurality for the volume of listing that has taken place).


Anyway, blabbering aside, I thought I would share a few of my thoughts before the big day.

The wedding speech. I have planned my entire career around avoiding standing in public and talking…suddenly I will be up in front of an entire party providing witty and heartfelt words to be recorded and remembered for a lifetime. I fought with this for a while, refusing to accept my fate and contemplating alternatives. I seriously considered trying to create a Tim Minchin style musical serenade instead, but soon my lack of musical ability and love of wearing shoes blocked that option. Finally, I believe I have the solution. After 30 years of not drinking (long story built around stubbornness and…well actually just stubbornness) I will partake in ‘Dutch Courage’ to ensure I can deliver a speech worthy of the occasion. This actually means I will be ‘practicing’ drinking for the final few weeks of the build-up.

As the assistant wedding planner (or assistant to the wedding planner) I have come to have viewpoints on issues I didn’t know existed. For example:

I’ve never visited New York, but I now have a favourite Kleinfeld consultant.
Flower budgeting…money doesn’t grow on trees, but it apparently grows on stems.
Finally, I’ve developed an active dislike of owls as ring-bearers. Donning arm-armour as Hedwig hurtles towards me on the big day seems a romance killer.


Anyway, that’s my bit. I hope I have given you a tiny insight into the thoughts of a groom. Now, I’m off to buy some White Lightening, find a park and begin my drinking practice.

Some Thank You’s

Sophie The Bride (to be) Well I have no idea how I follow that, but I’ll do my best! I warn you in advance of the public display of affection that’s about to ensue, but as the saying goes: there are things to be said. And let’s be honest, family and friends are what all of this madness is really about when it comes down to it.

Firstly, a HUMONGOUS thanks to the other 5 Real Brides for your insight, humour, support, kindness and friendship over the past year. I can’t tell you all what an awesome bunch they are! We’ve spoken almost daily over the last year (I’m not kidding!) on everything from money-saving tips to outright blow-the-budget must haves. We’ve been there for each other through the highs and lows, and even been on the occasional shopping expedition on each other’s behalf! They have made the planning process a million times more fun than it already was. Having seen a sneak peek of how incredible Jackie’s and Stef’s weddings were (RMW, just you wait until you see them!!) I’m so excited to see Carly, Nicola and Sarah tie the knot. Girls, thanks for taking me along for the ride.


Secondly, a GINORMOUS thanks to all of our friends and family for your support over the last 18 months, particularly those of you who had to put up with my constant wedding updates every time so much as a poufy-o flower was chosen – you know who you are! I salute you all for your patience. We’re both extremely lucky to have such wonderful families. Simon’s parents and brothers have welcomed me into their family with more love and support than any girlfriend could ever wish for, and I know just how much my family adores Simon too. Our parents have contributed so much time and effort to our wedding plans – in fact mine have been supporting my plans since I was 7! Don’t worry Mum and Dad, just one more month before I finally put the wedding file down. We are so grateful for the invaluable support that they have provided in pulling this wedding together. We couldn’t have done it without them, and we can’t wait to celebrate with them all. And a little message to the best man Tom – do your worst! I fully support you! 😉


And Of Course, My Simon

Finally, where do I even begin to thank Simon?

Friends have asked me when I knew he was ‘The One’. I can honestly say that it was the very first weekend we spent together at Lancaster University, almost 10 years ago. All it took was 1 date, and that was it for us. We’ve hardly stopped laughing since.


We’ve come a long way since our time at Lancaster…all the way to Texas! But he has been the most loyal and unwavering companion and friend throughout the whole journey, and I’m incredibly lucky to have a person in my life that makes me feel truly cherished. He is the most caring person I know and I’m so proud of who he is as a person and everything he has achieved in his life. Every single day, the thing I look forward to the most is seeing him when I walk through the door after work (and I promise that’s not just on the days that he sends me photos of the gin and tonic waiting for me when I’m still in work at midnight!) Over the last 10 years we’ve grown up together, and I’m grateful in the knowledge that for the rest of our lives I get to grow old with my best friend. And this is just the beginning! If our future looks anything like the last 10 years, it’s going to rock!

Thanks for picking him Mum, you chose a good one!


So this is me signing off lovelies. I’ll see you all on the other side. I’m off to practice my new signature…! 😉

P.S. Please send happy good-weather-thoughts in the direction of Italy on 25th May!!!

Sophie x

Author: Adam Crohill
Adam likes Pina Coladas and getting caught in the rain.

22 thoughts on “What Sophie Did… Archived The Wedding File

  1. *sigh*

    you two…

    I’m off to buy waterproof mascara. It’s one thing to get all misty-eyed at my desk as you both tell your story but I’d rather not have panda eyes on the big day, which is certain to have me in floods!

    4 more weeks of saying that I can’t wait 😀 xxx

  2. Awwwwwww Sophie what a lovely last paragraph!!!!

    Good luck, we’ll all have our fingers AND toes crossed for the weather on 25th.

    Can’t wait to see the wedding 🙂

    Fern x

  3. Lovely words Sophie……and Simon. Can’t believe you have already driven Simon to drink!!! So excited, 31 more sleeps. I just need to find a nice young man for your sister now. God help him. Xxxx

  4. Oh Soph, you are beautiful inside and out. Your day is going to be magic. Nice words Simon! You have an amazing women in your life and I also admire you for putting up with the scrap booking and OCD with wedding spreadsheets 😉 wishing you both all the love and luck in the world. Xxxxx

    1. You are WAY too kind my dear!!! As my darling mother pointed out, we’re not even married yet and I’ve already pushed the man to drink!! Xxx

  5. Ah the last blog! And so finely written Simon well done! One month to go until the wedding if the year and we cannot wait!! I’m
    Already stocking up on the tissues!! Xxx

  6. Ahh…this is the right one!!!

    Oooh Miss ChiChi – not a dry eye in the house!!! What a heartfelt post, Simon is such a lucky lad. So lovely to hear from Mr Sophie, what a sweetie he is (and funny!!!).

    I can’t wait to see you both on your big day – a month today!!!!!!! AMAZING!!!!!

    Hope those drinking wheels are OK, Simon!!!

    Lots of love to you both, xxxxxx

    1. You’re adorable my lovely. And hilarious that you put this on the wrong post!!

      One month to gooooo! Woooo!!! xxxxx

  7. Oh no, you made me cry and at work too! I simply love the way you write about your husband-to-be and about your relationship.
    From the small insight into your husbands way of thinking I can see why your life together is filled with lots and lots of laughter! You seem to be a great couple and I wish I could witness that glorious wedding that it is going to be!
    I also want to say thanks for sharing your story with us, it was immense fun and really lovely.
    However what really struck me when I saw those last photos of you: damn you are going to be a hot (gorgeous) bride! And yeah that husband of yours is not that bad either 😉
    I wish you all the luck in the world and many decades of shared laughter!

    1. Oh Anja! This is so nice of you!! Your lovely comment has made my day! And Simon’s too!

      Thanks so much for you well wishes. We’re so excited for the wedding now. Xxx

  8. Sophie’s latest blog: check. Tears: check.

    You did have a very hard act to follow there Simon but that was beautiful…in a manly, rugged way obviously.

    Good work Soph, these blogs have been so awesome, I’m going to miss them.

    We’ve been having regular ‘How many weeks to go til the wedding’ moments in our house…and it’s so nearly here! WOOOOOOOOO!


    P.S Here’s to mums choosing future husbands!

    1. Aww thanks Mia!! Im going to miss the blogs too. They’ve been so much fun to write. Only 4 weeks to go now!!

      P.S. Mums really do know best don’t they?? 😉 xxx

  9. Hi Sophie

    I’ve come across your blog whilst planning our own wedding in Tuscany, we’ve just booked our wedding at casa cornecchi for next year. It has been lovely to read your blog it sounds like you’ve had a fab time planning your big day.

    I’d love to know how your day/ stay went at casa cornecchi!

    any advice you could offer would be great.


    1. Hi Sarah,

      Congratulations on your upcoming wedding at Casa Cornacchi! You really have chosen an amazing venue. I’d be more than happy to share tips and advice with you. Best way is probably to contact me via email at s.cecchini6286@hotmail.co.uk. I can share some photos with you so that you can see how we did things.


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