Category Archives: Planning The RMW Way
*Hello lovelies…Charlotte here (albeit briefly). I am going to introduce you to Pamela (although for some of you that read her hilarious comments she needs no introduction at all)…resident RMW reader and ravishing redhead. Pamela is going to share her biggest wedding “fear”…please feel free to leave her some love at the end of this post.
Pamela: The last day of 2012’s Easter bank holiday will now forever be known (and certainly not affectionately so) as ‘Meltdown Monday’. The Big C had gone on an arty-farty mission to London town and I was at home alone with the dog. I was meant to be undertaking my own artistic endeavours (Chanel nail polish in ‘June’ at the ready – a pale, ‘creamsicle’ orange according to Vogue.), catching up on my reading (Heat, Look, Glamour and Marie-Claire all in a nice stack) and generally avoiding eating anything chocolate-covered and egg shaped (final dress fitting booked in for 30 June – must have arms like Jennifer Aniston and a torso like Jennifer Lopez). Thoroughly busy day planned, yes?
I am, on the whole, good at being alone. I like being solitary. I can amuse myself for hours before I even have to speak to another soul. In fact, it’s more like days. When we go on our holidays the Big C always has to remind me that other folk require a certain level of engagement, “Pamela, you have been laid on that sunlounger, in the same floppy hat, for three days straight now. The fact that you are on your fifth book and flip yourself over every 45 minutes is indeed the only indication you have given that you are still alive.” Me told.… View the full post.
I thought we would start today with a discussion on “group” images for W-day. For starters you wouldn’t believe the amount of emails we receive regarding them i.e. how to make them non line-up or awkward. I was your classic no-group-shot-please bride as it happens – as in, please please don’t make us all stand together and say cheese. I had spent such a long time at other weddings doing exactly that and the experience had put me off forever.
Instead I wanted natural in-the-moment images of everyone having a great time. All well and good of course until you realise this was maybe a mistake, and actually there was certain people that due to being at the bar, powdering their nose in the ladies or dancing bare foot on the lawn were missed. And with the photographer not being advised who, what and when at least in some capacity (or in my case – just completely ignoring every request from said photographer in the hope it would all “be alright on the night” as it were) then you may have some small niggling regrets.
I wouldn’t want any of you gorgeous lot to miss out on any amazing images of your entire wedding party, at the same time I don’t expect everyone to jump up and down at the prospect of spending hours posing in front of a camera on W-day either. So I actually called my own big day moment-capturer Jordan Banks of Source Images to give his expert advice on how to achieve some (genuinely lovely) everyone-together type imagery.… View the full post.
I see this quandry a lot – on our Facebook page, in our community comments section…..you lovelies wondering a) which members of the wedding party to buy gifts for if any and b) what to actually purchase.
Personally I don’t think there is a right or wrong answer, if you want to say a huge “Thanks” to your Mum, or your Father-in-Law or your best girls for helping out with W-day/just being them then go ahead, it is a generous and thoughtful gesture.
Ahem. Don’t feel you have to though – it’s not customary and along with everything else that goes into making your celebration everything you want it to be, it is yet another expense and consideration.
And if you do want to give something tangible as a way of showing your appreciation it certainly doesn’t have to be expensive, in fact some of the most impressive presents I have seen have been reasonably priced but personal or 100% hand-made.
So to take a little bit of the thinking out of it team RMW thought we might put together a little series of gift ideas starting with your maids.
This is what I opted for – I figured everyone loves a delicate piece of pretty and your favourite ladies can opt to wear said item actually on the day. I bought earrings from Coast – a high street store that I still really rate for costume pieces and evening accessories.
From top left: Cindy earrings, Fiesta earrings and Samantha earrings all £15 each.… View the full post.
I have been meaning to write a post around the subject of bridesmaids for some time now, I was just waiting for the right bolt of inspiration to strike. And then at the weekend it did after a visit from RMW reader Kelly to the RMW NWS stand for a one to one consultation.
Kelly is getting married in Italy (she showed Vix and I the venue – immense I tell you) and is having TEN BRIDESMAIDS. Yes ten. Now this is obviously quite a few. And there is nothing wrong with that, have thirty if you want or just opt for the one – anything goes at RMW as you know. But that is a lot of best girls to think about isn’t it? a lot of different shapes and sizes and skin tones to mull over. And when I made that last statement I base it on the fact the vast majority of brides would consider their potential maids preferences as well as their own desires for certain fashion and colour schemes….wouldn’t they?
As it happens Kelly was lucky enough to find a gown that all of her maids liked and the shade worked perfectly with the design and decor of her day. Except she was still worried. “What if they just look like ten identical green bottles?!” and so we discussed small ways in which if your frocks are the same, alternative accessories or bouquets could be a way of giving each one of your besties something of their “own”.… View the full post.
Music is my life, outside of wedding blogging of course!
So if it came to planning my own wedding day, you could guarantee that music would play a big, big part in the festivities.
I guess the first thing to say is that music is a very personal thing, so I’m not about to make any recommendations on whether you should be having a live music or a DJ or choosing this particular genre over that one. That is not what this post is about.
On a very generic “advice” level I would strongly advise you to see your potential wedding entertainment in action, if at all possible – going on a few minutes of MP3 played from a website could be a risky business. But that is where the advice ends.
Hey Mr DJ
It is becoming really popular to ask your guests to contribute to your wedding playlist – it’s a good way of ensuring you cater for everyone and a great way to get feet on the dancefloor.
You could make a little space for song suggestions on your Save The Date’s or if you are feeling particularly technically minded (and your guests are switched on) you could even set up collaborative playlist online. Online music applications like Spotify allow for your guests to simply drag and drop their favourite songs into your playlist at the click of a mouse.… View the full post.
Morning gorgeous folks, it’s Charlotte here – (albeit briefly)… sometimes you’ve got to hold your hands up and say “I’m not the right person to write this piece” but if it’s something you think is relevant and/or important then the answer is simple – find someone that IS. For those of you that are familiar with RMW 2011 real bride Naomi then you will understand why her no-holds-barred and witty conversational style was made to cover this personal and somewhat taboo topic. For those of that are not familiar with Madam Liddell well – you soon will be, and you are in for a take-away-the-Monday-morning-blues treat… of the slightly naughty but non-calorific variety.
As always we welcome your opinions, thoughts and general awesome community spirit, feel free to comment as Anon/an alias if you would prefer to keep your identity private.
Sex and Marriage
During a recent Skype conversation between myself and the tiny, blonde Charlotte, we got talking about garters. Which then lead on to us talking about sexiness. Which then lead to us talking about sex. Especially sex after marriage. It went something like this:
Me: Maybe you should do a garters/sexiness/sex post on RMW.
Charlotte: Hmm… I’ve thought about this one before. Do you think it would go down well? I suppose there is that whole “Once it’s “I do”, it’s “I don’t in the bedroom” thing people say, which is quite frankly rubbish!
Me: I don’t in the bedroom?? That’s insane. Who says stuff like that??… View the full post.