I’d Rather Rise In Love With You by Jana Lynne Umpig is a modern feminist wedding reading that is all about getting real. Now, don’t get us wrong we love the poetic and lyrical romantic wedding readings but we’re also huge fans of wedding readings that discuss the ups and downs in real relationships and marriages. I’d Rather Rise In Love With You by Jana Lynne Umpig is perfect for couples who aren’t just all about the classic happily ever after. Instead, this wedding reading by the famous poet and activist is about growing in love. It acknowledges that marriage and partnership are about respect, growth, and mutual support. If this is the wedding reading for you, download a free PDF version

I’d Rather Rise In Love With You 

By Jana Lynne Umipig

I don’t want sweet nothings whispered in my ears

I’d rather be confronted by the savoury somethings

That truths communicated – in fullness and compassion bring

I don’t want long gazes or to get lost in your eyes

I ‘d rather have our eyes brave exploration,

Discovering every part of each other –

Every wrinkle and tint and shade

Every scar and marking that our livings have made

I don’t want to feel I knew you in another life

Or that I dreamed you in my sleep

I’d rather learn you piece by piece in reality

I’d rather you teach me how the you today

Is better than before

And I want my new self to love you more,

As I Love me more

I don’t’ want to be attached, or taken, or spoken for

I don’t want to make each other whole

I’d rather be two whole beings

Mind, Body and Soul

I don’t want to believe you do not choose who you Love

That you just know when you do

Love, to me, is a choice, you wake up every day and you choose:

What you want

What you need

Speak your truths to receive

Truths in exchange –

Past what is perceived

Past assumptions, to gain knowings

And to keep Love growing

It’s more than the showings

It’s the clarity in communication

It’s the calm and patience past frustrations

It’s the listening and the stillness –

It’s every message from body to breath

I don’t want to fall for you

Or fall in Love

Falling is falseness, it’s fleeting

I’d rather rise in love with you

In ascension

Without fear and apprehension

I don’t want to sacrifice any part of me to make it work

I want to invest in all of me and all of you

And give gratitude

That we empower one another in self worth

I don’t want to be possessed or bound by Love

I’d rather be Liberated in Loving

I’d rather be Love that is Revolutionary

Love that is Patience

And Presence

And Respect

And Pride

And Honesty, nothing to hide

And Attraction

And Joy

And Truth

In every thing we say, show and do

In Love with you is all of this to me

And there is no place I would rather be.


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Is I’d Rather Rise In Love With You by Jana Lynne Umpig the reading for you? If you liked this one, you’ll love our roundup of 14 modern wedding readings. We actually have a whole podcast episode dedicated to planning your own feminist wedding, if you’re interested in learning more about how you can make your wedding more modern. 

Leah Blundell

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