I love bonfires. I also love farms. And I also really, really love Cornwall. So when I opened the file of images for today’s wedding – I was one happy girl.
Daisy and Sally married at Sally’s parents farm, Roselidden, where they had free reign to do whatever they wanted. This resulted in a hog roast, a giant bonfire, festoon lighting and some really cool wellies.
The lovely pair met at Art College in Falmouth and their creative backgrounds are definitely reflected in their wedding day. I love the continued use of the ampersand symbol – the enormous ampersand circus lamp made by Daisy’s Dad is particularly striking.
The day was rounded off with a massive bonfire, lots of West Country cider and round-after-round of marshmallow toasting. Which sounds pretty perfect to me. There is something very spiritual and ritualistic about a fire.
Daisy and Sally’s day looks like a magical occasion that was filled with love. It’s a beautiful wedding lovelies and I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
Daisy The Bride: It was always going to be a hands-on creative fest; we met 8 years ago in art school, we fell in love with each other and Falmouth and have been here ever since. Being a gay wedding, one of the most liberating but also daunting things is that there are no traditions to follow, it could be exactly how we wanted to be.
We both instinctively wanted an Autumn wedding here in Cornwall, which quickly lead to much excitement of hog roasts, bonfires, festoon lighting and cool wellies! We already had the venue; Sally’s parents’ farm conversion, the perfect blank canvas with enough space outside for a huge bonfire. It really was a blank canvas, with the floor being laid only two weeks before the wedding, and we had to source everything from scratch!
We had a year to put together the look we wanted. All the stationery was designed my myself; the invites, signage, thank yous etc. We branded the whole event with the ampersand, based on part of the letter press I use at home which we both love. We commissioned an enormous ampersand circus lamp, made by my Dad; ‘The L’ampersand’. Made by hand, with laminated ply and Italian turbo lamps, it became the focal point for the barn. We both still remember the moment we opened the bespoke carry case Dad had built for it, and turned it on for the first time!!!
We quickly came up against a problem; how do you seat nearly 100 people in a barn that should really only comfortably sit 60?! The solution: scaffolding planks! It was an early obsession of Sally’s to have enamel plates and scaffolding tables, an idea scoffed at by many, but look who had the last laugh! The long lengths of scaffold meant we could squeeze in the extra seats, with the added flexibility of pushing them to the sides, stacking them, and even making one into a skittle alley after lunch. The beautiful vintage folding chairs from Virginia’s Vintage Hire instantly added to the sea of colour with the L’ampersand, table runners, flowers and lanterns.
What we chose to wear was a bit tricky as we’re not dress wearing types! And neither are we terribly smart ladies either, most used to kicking about in jeans. We wanted to feel like ourselves but a bit spruced up, we never intended to wear such similar clothes but that’s just how it turned out! Our shoes we had handmade in Totnes, Devon at Conker Shoes. We could have any colour, leather or design. They are beautiful objects as well as gorgeous shoes. The shirts are handmade from a company called Folk. They’re organic cotton, and purchased from Liberty’s, London. Sally’s jackets was made for her by a local tailor and friend of the family. Our rings were also commissioned, totally bespoke to us. The rest were high street finds, like my bright yellow Joules wellies!
We split it over two days with two ceremonies, the legal ceremony being a small family affair, and the main celebration the next day. Jo at the local Registration Office, was fantastic. A wonderfully warm and reassuring professional, who put us at ease instantly, it was far more moving than we expected.
We decided to exchange the rings in the second ceremony with Sally’s sister Rosie as our celebrant in a beautiful 32ft yurt from Hooe’s Yurts. The yurt was simply decorated with flowers in Campari Soda bottles we had collected, with long benches for everyone to sit on. Later in the day the yurt became host to skittles, pick and mix and just outside our Punch & Judy Photobooth that Sally and her Dad made together from some old doors, and Peter’s horseshoe tossing game!
With the food, we made a decision to self-cater for lunch and then a local hog roast company in the evening. We know some amazing local produce suppliers here in Cornwall, in fact Sally works for one of them! The coffee, cakes, artisan breads and ale were all Cornish. As were a lot of the other tasty bits. Our wedding cake was made by a friend of ours, as was the lunch itself. We hired in a great Somerset company CiderPig to supply the booze, their incredible french fire truck (complete with chandelier in the front cab) looked stunning and brought everything together.
The effort we put in to bringing together so many details was something our photographer, the immensely talented and super lovely Helen Lisk, truly appreciated and captured. Helen was great throughout the whole day, she made us feel comfortable in a situation that was quite alien to us, both being camera shy, it was a real joy to have her around, and we are so glad we found her. And the images speak for themselves.
There are so many elements that we could talk about, and it really was a labour of love. We loved every moment of the planning, and the final 2 weeks were so exhausting for all involved, we were glad when it was over! From what was a daunting leap into the unknown and exposure as a same-sex couple, we found huge support and acceptance along the way, which has been wonderfully affirming. It was always going to be a hands-on experience, but we really couldn’t have done it without all of the help from all of our friends and families, and for that we will be forever grateful. It was the best day of our lives, it was exactly what we wanted it to be.