Personalise your ceremony
You can go to town with personalising your ceremony. It's the most important part of the day; the entire reason you are there; to get married. Where you can it's nice to write your own vows and explore all of your options when it comes to your celebrant. Check this article out to learn all about what a celebrant can bring to your ceremony.
Find a Celebrant that really listens and understands you as a couple, and can help you to create a ceremony that truly represents you as a couple. The Celebrant will be taking a journey with you and it is important that you trust them and feel comfortable speaking with them about all aspects of your ceremony. The journey could be over months or even years, so it really does matter – if you get this right, you will have found someone who is as passionate and committed to your special day as you are.
Deciding to keep vows a secret until revealing them to each other on the day itself adds to the emotional impact, and there have been tears when people hear what their partner for life promises them. Be sure to look at your future husband/wife as you’re saying your vows – eye contact is an absolute must and if they’re the only one that hears you, that’s fine…it’s all about them.
If you wish to represent your background, religion, or culture, then go ahead and include a tradition that resonates with you both. There are so many wedding traditions that can be adapted from different cultures, and incorporated and made your own! One of my couples next year are definitely going to have a Log Sawing ritual, which is very often carried out as the first task for a couple to perform, in southern Germany. It is here too that I recommend choosing a multilingual Celebrant if you have guests who might welcome the inclusivity this offers them.
There are no rules on length of vows… Some are brief, other couples can’t express their promises in just a sentence or two, although if they decide to keep them secret from each other and we notice there is an imbalance in length, we may diplomatically prompt one or the other to make tweaks in order to have a harmonious balance.
