PERSONALISING YOUR WEDDING VOWS

MAKE YOUR WEDDING VOWS SOUND LIKE YOU

It may sound obvious, but make sure your wedding vows are personal to you. This is a chance to show your personality, be it funny, serious, emotional, or sincere. If you’re known for cracking jokes it makes sense that you’d throw a few cheeky ones into your vows, but don’t force anything that doesn’t come naturally.

Just because you’re speaking from the heart doesn’t mean you can’t take inspiration from elsewhere. If you’re not a natural writer and want to take parts from traditional vows, or maybe a poem or song that you’ve heard, then that’s okay too! Ask your friends and family what they included in their wedding vows if they chose to write their own. Don’t worry about sounding too cheesy or over the top, can you remember a wedding you’ve been to where you rolled your eyes at the vows? Didn’t think so!

If you have children together, or from a previous marriage, incorporating them into your vows is a lovely way to emphasise your strength not only as a couple, but as a family.

It may sound obvious but, if it feels right, consider telling them you love them. You’d be surprised at how many people forget those three little words.

A natural starting point for writing your wedding vows is thinking back over your relationship. Go over your journey together, how did you get to this moment? Think about how you feel when you’re with them and any specific memories that bring you joy. You may have a favourite book, film, or song that you share; use that to inspire you!

Think of the little things they do for you, and vice versa. Sometimes the smallest actions speak the loudest and it’s these small and continuous acts of love that are worth promising to each other in your wedding vows. Every time inspiration strikes, make a note on your phone so you don’t forget it.

LOOKING TO THE FUTURE

Once you’ve revisited the past, think about your future goals, after all, your wedding vows are about your life going forward! What do you hope to achieve together? Don’t promise perfection, you’re only human! Being open and honest about the ups and downs of life will make your vows more meaningful. You could talk about how you’ve supported one another so far, and how you will continue to do so.

A BREAK FROM TRADITION

If you’re religious, it’s always best to check how much of your vows can be personalised as it could depend on where you get married. If you are able to add your own touches, think about how much you want to change. Just because you can doesn’t mean you have to, there are plenty of religious readings that are great for modern ceremonies! You could also take inspiration from more traditional vow structures and add your own twist.

How To Write Your Wedding Vows

Georgia Gallant

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