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So here I am writing my first post as a married woman.


I had to say it twice just so I actually believe it.

You see I can’t tell you how wonderfully surreal this feels, this sense of glorious elation that I seem to experience every time I look at my boy. Every time I catch a glimpse of his gold encircled finger or that knowing look in his eye.

I’m actually somebody’s wife.

I half expected the post-wedding blues to have kicked in by now with the wedding day having scampered into the past and the honeymoon following quickly after its heels. To my surprise they haven’t though.

Perhaps this is because it all feels like an amazing dream that I’ve woken up from but which never actually happened.

Honestly I’d be half inclined to believe that if it wasn’t for the stacks of wedding cards decorating every shelf-like surface of my house, the slightly grubby hemline on my beautiful dress and the post-party discussions that I’ve had with so many of my guests who attended the big day.

In fact it was one of these conversations with RMW Blog Queen aka Charlotte that sparked the inspiration for this post. She noticed that rather than taking my veil off after the ceremony I actually wore it for the vast part of the day.

And she was right.

I always knew I was going to wear a veil. A cathedral length whisper of the softest net complete with sparkles cascading past my shoulders. In fact putting the veil on my head was one of the defining moments of the planning process for me.

And so I didn’t want the whole veil wearing experience to finish once the ceremony was over. So hang and blast it I was going to wear it for the whole day.

I’m aware as I write this that veils aren’t for every bride; some of you much prefer the idea of a jewel-encrusted headpiece or a wreath of blooms encircling your crown instead. Perhaps you don’t want your head to be adorned at all. And that’s ok – you’ll all look equally as lovely.

But allow me to indulge my romantic side and show you gorgeous lot a plethora of pretty veils for your delection. After all I can’t go back and experience it all again, can I?

The Statement Veil

Before we move onto the more traditional styles I want to show you that opting for a veil isn’t necessarily a conventional choice.

In fact, shrouds of net and tulle have been making an appearance of late on the catwalks of Armani Couture and Alexander McQueen amongst others, so if you’re a fashion-conscious gal then you can rest assured that you’re bang on trend.

You don’t necessarily have to opt for a veil in an off-white palette; coloured veils can look chic and modern if paired with the right dress. Alternatively think about volume, embellishments and multi-layering if you want to go all out.

I particularly love the idea of pairing a feminine veil with a traditionally masculine hat for a real style statement like the top hat pictured here or even wearing matching cropped leather gloves.


The Birdcage

The birdcage style is a fantastic compromise for the bride that wants to wear a veil but doesn’t want to be subjected to the treacherous consequences of wearing a longer length.

Trust me for all my veil adoration tendencies, the number of times my head was yanked back as yet another male stood on it nearly drove me to distraction. So choosing a shorter length is a highly-recommended sensible solution.

The wider traditional net tends to predominate but we’re beginning to see polka dotted tulle, jewel encrusted chiffon and feathery adornments too in this style which is great for those brides looking for something a little bit different. I particularly love the BHLDN bow veil at the top of this board it’s so playful and sweet.

The key to making this a successful key look is to keep the rest of your outfit pared down and simple – let the veil do the talking rather than the dress to prevent looking like your nan down the shops in her Sunday best. Add a slick of red lippy and away you go.

Spanish Princess

I first fell in love with this exotic style when I was lucky enough to attend Suzanne Neville’s preview of her Diamond collection earlier this year. The show concluded with a catalan inspired show-stopper of a veil that flounced down the runway.

From that moment I was hooked.

Whilst I didn’t choose this style for my own big day I very easily could have veered down this path. Spanish princess is all about making a hopelessly romantic statement which just screams luxe at the same time.

If you’re as obsessed as I am with this look then I’d recommend keeping your hair and jewellery choices simple. The beauty of this look is allowing the decadent lace to have its moment. You can always up the ante later on in the day when you remove the veil by adding a statement necklace or intricate headpiece.

Blast From The Past

I’m reluctant to call this concoction of images ‘vintage’; instead this selection of images depicts a subtle blend of taking the best of the past topped off with a modern day interpretation.

We have knots and braids, polka dots and large bows, tassles, and circlets of real and fabric blooms atop wonderful veils. Seriously I don’t know where to put myself.

If you’re a bride who wants to pay homage to times past without appearing ‘old-fashioned’ then applying a modern twist to an older veil style is the way to go.

My particular favourite is the knotted veil – it just looks so chic and you can guarantee that it will actually stay on your head.

Long And Luscious

I had to save this moodboard until last because this style is my favourite.

By a long stretch.

Yes folks, I opted for a long and luscious gossamer light creation topped off with twinkly bits and I couldn’t have asked for better.

There’s something utterly whimsical about a bride enveloped in a cascade of tulle or seeing it stretched out behind her. I can only speak for myself here but I felt wholeheartedly romantic and feminine when my mum placed my veil into my hair just before I glided down the aisle.

I’m not going to witter on for much longer as I want the pictures to do the talking here. What I will say is that I so want that veil with the hood.

That, my friends, is immense.

So what do you think? Have you become a veil convert?

Or are you safely ensconced in the ‘no veil for me’ camp?

If you’re already married what was your experience of your veil on the day?

Would you do anything differently?

And did anyone wear their veil for the whole day like me?

As always girlies we want to hear your thoughts.

All my love Lolly xxx

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Paper Love

I’m conscious as I write this that the issue of stationery does not sit highly on everyone’s agenda.

For some brides the dress is the top priority, for others it’s all about the blooms. Perhaps for you it’s the all-important cake and dessert table. My own personal list has photography and videography vying with each other for first place so the boy and I have split it fairly.

But it’s ok you know to be different, for us all to prioritise according to our personal preferences otherwise the world of weddings would feel that little bit smaller, right?

I love that some brides go hell for leather on their entertainment rather than having oodles of flowers or opt for making the decor themselves so they can have the dress of their dreams.

So whilst I’ve already mentioned that photography and videography are of paramount importance to Ste and I, papery goods are also sit fairly highly on the list.

Admittedly this has confused some people whose view of stationery is simply that – something that serves a purpose, be it an invite to the main event or a sign that tells you where to sit. For us though, it’s a tiny taster of what’s to come, a vital part of the theme, another little bit of decor.

So this post really is partly inspiration for you gorgeous lot, a healthy portion of gentle persuasion for those of you who don’t rate stationery all that highly and a smidgen for me just so I can indulge in paper pretty.

You Are Cordially Invited…

Here at RMW HQ we’ve noticed a subtle advance towards glamorous stationery of late rather than the vintage kitsch which has been huge in the wedding scene these last few years.

Flourished fonts, coloured foils and pretty penmanship are all coming into their own once again albeit with a modern feel. We’re also seeing attention lavished on designer envelopes with ornately calligraphied addresses and bespoke stamps for a more ‘finished’ feel.

Ladies – elaborate invitation suites are back with a vengeance!

Two main colour schemes have been huge this year, watercolours and metallics. I adore them equally and wanted both.

The boy said no.

Moving on…

There are few rules when it comes to the metallics trend, golds and silvers look amazing when combined in the same stationery set, be it in the form of stamped foils, shimmering envelopes or stationery edgings.

It’s like holding a little bit of luxury.

Invitations caressed by a watercolour wash are also utterly romantic and perfect for a summer or spring wedding. For me stationery suites using this medium make me think of artisan weddings from long ago, a kinder time and place. If you’re worried that a watercoloured invitation might feel a bit too much why not try restricting the colour to the edges and keeping the rest of the colour palette neutral.

I’m also a huge fan of letterpress invitations and whilst they are on the expensive side, when you’ve got one in your hands you can’t help but run your fingers over the glorious textures. It seems like lots of brides are in agreement as this is another trend experiencing a resurgence of late.

Lastly I’d recommend tying together all of your various invitation components with contrasting ribbon or twine for the final detail and that little bit of something extra.

Order Of Play

I’m sure that you lovely lot are all familiar with the traditional order of service, but there’s another piece of paper pretty that’s making itself known on the big day which I wanted to share with you.

With its roots in America – the wedding programme is designed to complement rather than replace the order of service by informing guests about what’s on the agenda for the whole day rather than just the ceremony itself.

This selection of pretty does a darn good job of showing how wedding programmes are also used to introduce the bridal party and share thank you’s as well as explaining the significance of certain elements of the day – like the first dance for example. Plus they’re all blinking gorgeous too.

I love this idea probably because I am a control freak.

Yes there we are, I admit it. But there’s nothing worse than going to a wedding and not really knowing where you’re supposed to be at which times. How many of you have missed a cake cutting recently? I know that I’ve failed to see this special part of the day at least once out of the five weddings I’ve been to this year.

That makes me sad.

Take it from me RMW-ettes, to be forewarned is to be forearmed – you’ll never miss a photo opportunity again!

Of this clutch of beauties, the silhouetted wedding party is my favourite. Actually I might rob that idea for my own day.

Is that allowed?

I also have a whole lorra love for something that gives you more bang for your buck. In this case we’re talking about programmes that go the extra mile, that are more than just a simple schedule for the big day.

We’re talking fans folks.

This concept is particularly useful at warmer weddings allowing guests to be cool and informed all at the same time. Simply pop your beautiful programme on a stick and you’re away.

Best Seat In The House

Do any of you keep your place names from weddings you’ve been to? Or this this yet more proof that I’m a little bit odd?

Regardless, we’ll come onto place names in a minute. Right now I want to talk to you about table plans and escort cards.

No, not the kind that you find taped up in the windows of neglected telephone boxes – honestly the state of your minds folks. I’m talking about another American tradition which has filtered its way across to our shores.

For those of you not familiar with the concept, rather than displaying tableplans at the entrance to a venue, our American cousins choose to give each guest a card with their name and table name or number on it.

I love this idea not only because it adds an air of intrigue to the whole ‘where am I sitting/who am I sitting with’ question but because it provides massive scope for you to integrate the cards into your general decor.

Take a look at these gorgeous examples, escort cards as leaves in a wreath, pegged onto lines, beribboned and inserted into brown pockets or tied around bottles are all simple and effective ways of making them something more than just a sign about where to sit.

On a practical level escort cards win hands down because you can easily rewrite a few should you find your Aunty Pam has come down with the flu. A simple rejig of the seating arrangements is not as easy with a gorgeous but pre-printed table plan.

Table Manners

So this is one part of the day where you really get to go to town on all things stationery.

We’re talking menus, place names, table names and even thank you cards.

Bring. It. On.

I’m actually really excited about my wedding paper goods, particularly those that will be appearing on the table. For me, customising elements such as the table names and menus is a crucial part of the theme on our wedding day. I can’t say too much here because we want it to be a surprise for our guests but I promise to share the results at some point.

Ultimately, the point I’m driving at is if you’re having a menu for your guests and name places on the tables themselves then it’s worth thinking about how you want them to look because this is a great way to add some impact without having to incur the wrath of your normally adorable fiancé because you’ve spent the equivalent of a small house on said theme ‘unnecessarily’.

Think about playing with shapes – just because paper tends to arrive in rectangular and square shapes doesn’t mean that it has to stay this way. I love rounded corners as well as irregular layouts too.

Circles are really popular at the moment and are the perfect accompaniment for modern, city affairs. Experiment with fonts and layouts – two or three different typographies on a single piece of paperie looks really punchy.

Have you got a special symbol or motif that means a lot to the pair of you? Why not include that within your stationery set or even resort to pictures over text. I love the menu within this board complete with drawings of crabs, fish and cake. It’s so fun!

You can bring place names to life too by attaching objects to them or by making them a fundamental part of the decor. I came across a beautiful wedding that encircled guest’s names around thin tapered candles which they took with them to illuminate their table.

It looked EPIC.

Confetti Love

I think I may possibly be the only person in the world that actually adores old school confetti.

You know the kind – with the overly saccharine candy colours and 1930’s ish vibe. All paper-shaped horseshoes, bells, bows and misshapen flowers. The kind that if held a little bit too long in a sweaty palm clumps together in a soggy ball which completely defeats the purpose of choosing light as a feather paper loveliness to scatter over a pair of newlyweds.

In fact, I still haven’t met one person that actually loves it like I do. I can’t explain the reasons why I go gaga for it, I just do.

Anyway I digress.

‘Confetti Heaven’ couldn’t simply be all about confetti – talk about overkill – so I had to include a few alternative guestbook ideas too. And whilst confetti and guestbooks aren’t strictly stationery I wanted to show how they can fall into this category by applying a few simple tweaks.

It thrills my bones when I see a bride that has chosen to really embrace the confetti tradition.Where a couple have decided to not only provide customised bags of loveliness for the guests but a smidgen of DIY and paper materials too.

Taking the custom confetti route doesn’t need to cost the earth nor take too much of your time either. In fact stamping plain brown bags with an emblem that reflects your wedding such as the ‘birdy’ bags near the bottom of this board is a great way to get your nearest and dearest involved as well as stamping your personality on the day.

Alternatively bulk buy glassine sheets and sew them into little pockets on the ol’ singer for instant pouches of fun.

My favourite though are the confetti bags which double up as an order of service and favour too! Seriously what more do you want? There’s glittery confetti, and a sweet drawstring sack that you get to take home to fill with candy or use as a travelling make-up bag.

This adventurous creativity is also poking its head through in modern day guestbooks too. The balloon thumbprint poster makes me smile not only because of its sunshiny cheeriness but because each guest has had a hand in making this work of art.

And what about having individual teeny tiny envelopes for each guest to insert some precious words of advice into to be opened by you on a special anniversary or why not scatter coasters around your venue that guests can scrawl on whilst they drink.

Talk about killing two birds with one stone.

So have I managed to persuade those of you who weren’t so enamoured with paper pretties over to the dark side?

Do you now want to brand anything and everything stationery-related for your big day?

I know I do.

But then I would, wouldn’t I.

All my love

Lolly (the crazy confetti fanatic)xxx