Whilst there is a lot of fun and excitement in planning all of the fancy bits of a wedding day, decor, dress, delighting your guests etc. There’s something beautiful about channeling a lot of love and attention towards the actual wedding ceremony too. After all, this is the part of your day where you and your beloved actually join in union. And whether you’re inviting religion or traditions into your nuptials. Or whether you’re writing the entire ceremony yourself… We’ve come up with this handy resource so you don’t miss a beat of the most important part of your day.
Ah, the Mermaid wedding. Not only was it completely fantastical (- my new word) but it was also incredibly informative. Sophie included all sorts of details about her suppliers and the real heart of the day.
As well as some of the readings, she shared with us her vows which I decided were so thought provoking, I kept them for todays post. It got me thinking about wedding vows on the whole. Sophie and Glenn had a Humanist outdoor ceremony (unfortunately you can only get married outdoors in Scotland, but you can have a humanist ceremony anywhere.)
Sophie is a writer by profession and I love the mix of fun and serious things she included in the vows she wrote for herself and Glenn…
Glenn: I vow to love you
Sophie: I vow to love you
To do what I love
To do what you love, with me
To communicate my feelings
To not take life too seriously
To be realistic
To be optimistic
To be great parents together
To be faithful to you
To be your best friend
To take you on one hundred honeymoons
To remember how lucky I am
To maintain a menagerie
To clean up after the menagerie
To embarrass our great grandchildren
To scratch your back, intermittently, for as long as we both shall live
To take joy in doing nice things for you
To stay within our credit limit
To acknowledge the sky’s the limit
To be compassionate
To be devoted
To be committed
To be happy
To listen to you
To support you
To respect you
Do you vow to be my wife?
I do. Do you vow to be my husband?
When I planned my wedding, I wanted a humanist ceremony. I wanted to write my vows to Pete and mean every word of them. On the day, and looking back now, saying the words that millions of people have said before you kind of feels ceremonial and special, like joining a members only club and suitably somber.
My favourite bit? Not actually a specific vow (I always thought ‘In sickness and in health’ would get the tears rolling,) but the blessing of the rings, followed by giving them.
I give you this ring as a sign of our marriage.
With my body I honour you.
All that I am I give to you.
All that I have I share with you.
Says it all really. And my wedding ring will always be my most treasured possession.
So I guess I’m saying, even having been there and done that, the jury is still out for me.
And I would really love to hear what you guys have to say. Are you looking forward to reciting time honoured traditions? Or giving heartfelt thought to your hand written vows? Do tell us, and to lighten the mood, tell us your comedy vows too, for a Friday giggle. 🙂
(*Love the One thousand honeymoons idea!)